Unsung Hero #234

Like many Westporters, Grace Waldman has been moved by the hardships faced by Ukrainian refugees.

So she’s made and sold matzah bark, to raise money for them.

She works with a grassroots organization called Keter Ukrainian Aid. Started by a friend of Grace’s mother Emily, it’s a free pantry in Jerusalem where refugees from Ukraine can “shop” for daily necessities for their family.

So far, Grace has raised over $2,500. She and her mom are busy filling orders, so they’re no longer taking new ones.

It’s been a great project, but a bit overwhelming.

Because — I forgot to mention — that Grace is only 4 years old.

She’s our youngest Unsung Hero ever.

And also one of the most impressive.

Grace Waldman, making matzoh bark.

 

Roundup: Affordable Housing, Gilbertie’s, I-95 Noise …

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Last night’s meeting on a 5-year plan for affordable housing — co-sponsored by the Democratic, Republican, Save Westport Now and Coalition for Westport political parties — drew some interesting comments.

Among them: a proposal to install metered parking downtown. The proceeds — estimated to be $1 million or so annually — could be used to create a substantial affordable housing fund.

With Westport’s credit rating, the town could borrow $20 million.

1st Selectwoman Jen Tooker and Planning & Zoning Commission chair Danielle Dobin at last night’s Town Hall meeting on affordable housing. (Photo/Jimmy Izzo)

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A couple of months ago, “06880” gave a shout-out to Gilbertie’s Herbs & Garden Center. This year, Westport’s 2nd-oldest family business celebrates its 100th anniversary.*

At the time, they were beginning to plan a huge celebration. Now they’re ready to announce details.

The free bash is set for June 4, from noon to 5 p.m. at the garden center on Sylvan Lane South.

The very popular Mystic Bowie’s Talking Dreads will headline the bash. Reggae artists Kale Wale will warm up the crowd.

There’s a petting zoo for kids, and artisans and craft vendors for older folks.

Also on tap: a town-wide scavenger hunt too, with prizes. It will focus on the town’s most historic business, ending (of course) at Gilbertie’s.

Plus 3 food trucks, an ice cream truck and beer vendors.

Antonio Gilbertie — who arrived in Saugatuck in 1919 from Italy, and started out selling flowers from a Sylvan greenhouse — probably listened to opera, not reggae. But he’ll probably be looking down from above, with a proud smile.

*Who’s #1? Gault — by a long shot. The energy company was founded in 1863 — nearly 60 years before Gilberties!

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“06880” reader Jim McKay* wants to raise a ruckus.

His subject: noise.

Jim writes: “In 1958, I-95 sliced through Saugatuck, and other areas of Westport.

“A lot has changed since then. There’s more people, more traffic, more trucks. And more noise.

“The Connecticut Department of Transportation has a number of redesign plans for sections of 95. They include Greenwich, and Westport/Norwalk.

“A few days ago, under pressure from Greenwich town leaders and citizens, Governor Lamont asked CT DOT to revisit the Greenwich project and include possible noise mitigation plans.

“Now is the time for our Westport town leaders and citizens to demand equal revisions to the existing plans, to make sure it include noise mitigation.

“Noise has gotten worse. It will continue to do so. We have a unique opportunity to include noise mitigation before the project goes forward. It must be an incremental cost now — not a massive capital project 20 years in the future.”

*Not the sportscaster. He died in 2008.

Traffic — and noise — have increased since I-95 (then called the Connecticut Turnpike) neared completion in 1957,

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Staples Players’ production of “The Descendants” drew raves. Audiences old and (particularly) young delighted in a never-bef0re-seen production of Disney’s tale.

It’s a tradition for the high school troupe to raise awareness of important causes — and funds — at their shows. This year was especially important.

Costumed actors were on hand as audiences left the theater. It turned into a great photo opportunity for children, and their new high school heroes.

Their parents gave generously. Over 2 weekends, Players collected $8,400 for Save the Children’s Ukraine relief efforts.

Quinn Mulvey (Mal), and a new friend. (Photo/Kerry Long)

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On Saturday, a Westporter was out for a run. A few yards over the Fairfield line, where Old Road becomes Wakeman Lane, he spotted a car balanced on a stone wall, halfway into the woods.

That was bad enough. But the kicker is the bumper sticker.

It reads: “Please Be Patient. Student Driver.”

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There are matching grants. And then there are amazing matching grants.

Two anonymous donors have told Westport Country Playhouse they’ll match every dollar raised — up to $150,000 (!) — between now and June 30.

That’s great news, as the historic theater enters its 91st season. They’ve got an ambitious set of plays planned, and will leverage the funds for greatest artistic and educational impact.

Tax deductible contributions can be made online, by mail (Development Department, 25 Powers Court, Westport CT 06880), or by texting DONATE to 475-453-3553. To learn more about the perks of donating at various levels, click here. For more on this matching drive, click here.

A historic theater has a historic opportunity to raise funds. (Photo/Robert Benson)

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There are runners. And then there are amazing runners.

Monday’s New York Times included a story on Oz Pearlman. He’d just run 19 loops of Central Park — 116 miles — in a single day.

Because “06880”‘s tagline is “Where Westport meets the world,” there is (of course) a local connection.

The main photo showed Oz with a group of runners. Just to his right — wearing a blue-and-yellow hat, to match Oz’s Ukrainian-color outfit — was Alex Freedman.

Alex Freedman (blue and yellow cap) next to Oz Pearlman. (Photo/Hilary Swift for the New York Times)

Freedman — the 1996 Staples High School salutatorian — is now back in town, and running with the local Joggers Club. He is also a founding member of the Central Park Running Club. Both are led by another Westporter, Dave Menoni.

Freedman runs with a third group, the Henwood Hounds. That’s where he met Oz. Freedman joined in for “a small part” of Oz’s Central Park (and record-breaking) journey. (It was also a fundraiser for Save the Children’s Ukrainian relief. Oz busted well past his goal of $100,000.)

When he’s not outside, Freedman is the director of Advantage Testing of Westport,

Notice I resisted the impulse to say he “runs” the highly regarded educational counseling and private tutoring organization.

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Savvy + Grace’s new sign has brought color to that stretch of Main Street, and smiles to passersby.

Most probably don’t know that it’s the work of a noted artist.

Jana Ireijo is famous for her “vanishing murals.” Created with charcoal from wildfires, they are meant to disappear — just as the coral reefs, manta rays and other living things she portrays are, unfortunately, dying out.

Ireijo — a member of the Artists Collective of Westport — has created vanishing murals here. She drew a koala bear opposite Design Within Reach, and a sperm whale on a Winslow Park fallen tree trunk.

She’s worked far from Westport too — in Santa Fe and Maui, among other places.

The peonies on Jana’s Savvy + Grace sign is not meant to disappear. It’s just a colorful addition to a bright downtown spot.

PS: Savvy + Grace offers great custom and pre-made Easter baskets. Click here to see.

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Among his many civic efforts — all of them volunteer, pro bono — attorney Ken Bernhard is a state Department of Agriculture animal (victim’s) advocate. He appears in court proceedings involving animal cruelty cases.

At yesterday’s Westport Rotary Club meeting, he talked about his work. He connected animal abuse with spousal abuse and other crimes.

Bernhard noted:

“The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.

“When humans act with cruelty, we characterize them as ‘animals.’ Yet the only animal that displays cruelty is humanity.

“Animals are the real victims on this earth. They didn’t declare war, they don’t have weapons, and they don’t want to destroy humans or impose religion. Their only crime is they exist.”

Ken Bernhard, at yesterday’s Westport Rotary Club meeting.

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The Fresh Market ospreys get most of Westport’s love.

But they’re not the only ones in town.

Today’s “Westport … Naturally” feature is a two-fer. Here’s one of the Longshore ospreys:

(Photo/Patricia McMahon)

And a pair at Burying Hill:

(Photo/Alan Phillips)

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And finally … all his life, Julian Lennon refused to sing “Imagine.”

The only time he could consider singing his father’s signature song, he said, would be “the end of the world.”

The war in Ukraine is not that (yet). But it spurred John Lennon’s 59-year-old son to reconsider.

It is “an unimaginable tragedy,” he said. “As a human, and as an artist, I felt compelled to respond in the most significant way I could.”

He performed at a #StandUpForUkraine funddraiser in Prague on Saturday. The event raised $10 billion in pledges for Ukrainian refugees.

Imagine!

 

 

 

Pickleballers’ Plea: More Courts!

To the next person who tells me I should play pickleball: Join the list.

There are already 10,577 ahead of you.

My sister, a doctor friend, half the people in the YMCA locker room — all are pickleball enthusiasts.

Actually, they’re evangelists.

They tout the enjoyment of the game. The ease of learning. The health benefits. The camaraderie.

I wouldn’t call it a cult. Then again, I wouldn’t not call it one.

Pickleballers at Compo Beach.

I’ll play pickleball at some point, I’m sure. In the meantime, here’s a report on the state of pickleball in Westport.

In a few words: It’s good. But it could be better.

Everyone (except me) plays. Which means there are not enough places to play.

In fact, besides the 2 pickleball-only courts at Compo Beach, and 4 others that share tennis lines at Doubleday (behind Saugatuck Elementary School), there are no other public spots in town.

The Westport Pickleball Association aims to change that.

The 6-week-old group is well organized. They have a board. They have members. And they have a mission: raise awareness of the sport; facilitate its growth, and get more courts.

Compo Beach pickleball.

The pickleball push comes as the Parks & Recreation Department is undergoing a study of Longshore’s facilities and future. There are spaces available — like a parking area near the E.R. Strait Marina — and the WPBA wants to make sure every option is considered. They’re working with Parks & Rec’s Racquets Advisory Committee on that effort.

WPBA member Robbi Feinberg knows there are many considerations for new courts, whether at Longshore or elsewhere; topography and terrain, proximity to neighbors, accessibility.

But, she says, those courts are crucial.

Then she invited me to play.

(To learn more about the Westport Pickleball Association, email wpba2022@gmail.com.)

Tom Lowrie is 93 years old, and the face of Westport pickleball. In 2018 he posed for the Westport Library’s “I geek…” campaign  (Photo/Pam Einarsen)

Pic Of The Day #1821

A different view of Willowbrook Cemetery (Photo/Claudia Sherwood Servidio)

Roundup: Kawa Ni, Stefanowski, Figgs …

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One of Westport’s most popular restaurants will soon be even more so.

Kawa Ni — Bill Taibe’s Japanese spot in Bridge Square — is expanding into the former juice bar next door.

The 6-person bar will now double in size. The front area will open into what Taibe calls a “more useful, more playful” space.

Kawa Ni opened a decade or so ago. This expansion has run into the usual 2022 issue, including supply chain delays and the soaring cost of cedar.

But it’s proceeding well. The restaurant will be open for takeout this Thursday through Saturday. In-person dining begins April 21.

Taibe promises “a few surprises” on the new menu. Today he’s taking his chef and sous-chef into New York, for inspiration.

There’s always something cooking at Kawa Ni.

Bill Taibe, at what will soon be the new Kawa Ni bar. (Photo/Dan Woog)

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“06880” readers have appreciated and admired — and been horrified by and appalled at — Lynsey Addario’s photographs from Ukraine.

The 1991 Staples High School graduate/Pulitzer Prize-winning New York Times photojournalist/MacArthur fellow has worked in the world’s toughest trouble spots for over 2 decades.

How does she do it? And balance motherhood, and being a wife?

Yesterday, she answered those questions. Click here for an intriguing, wide-ranging interview with Yahoo. (Hat tip: Leah Nash)

Lynsey Addario (center) with her mother Camille and then-toddler son Lukas. He is now 10 years old.

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And speaking of New York Times Pulitzer Prize-winning photographers who also graduated from Staples: Tyler Hicks has photographed many harrowing scenes from Ukraine. “06880” has reposted some of them.

But how does the 1988 SHS grad actually get those shots?

With intuition. Hard work. And plenty of balance.

Tyler’s sister Darcy — who still lives here in town — posted these 2 images on Facebook.

One shows the parking lot of an apartment building in Kramatorsk, littered with debris from Russian bombs:

(Photo/Tyler Hicks for the New York Times)

The other shows the lengths Tyler went to to take it. Yes, that’s him in the tree:

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Connecticut law caps contributions to gubernatorial campaigns at $3,500.

However, there is no limit on donations to super PACS — so long as they do not coordinate activities with candidates they support.

CT Truth PAC supports Republican Bob Stefanowski. It opposes Governor Ned Lamont. So far, they’ve spent $300,000 on TV and online ads. Lamont defeated Stefanowski in the 2018 governor’s race.

Two $500,000 contributions to CT Truth PAC have helped. One came from Thomas McInerney of Westport. He’s the CEO of Bluff Point Associates, a private equity firm on Riverside Avenue.

Click here for the full CTMirror story.

Thomas McInerney is not a fan of Governor Lamont (above, on Main Street). Or at least, he backs Bob Stefanowski in the upcoming race.

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Figgs fans get an extra helping on Saturday.

The high-energy band’s MOCA performance (April 16, 7 p.m.) includes a tribute to punk. It’s part of the museum/gallery’s current “Punk is Coming” exhibition.

Food and drink from Shaken & Stirred includes sliders, and a custom “fig” drink. Click here for tickets.

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In 1987, Westport resident and small plane pilot Bob Jacobs got sandwiched in between much bigger jets — and shut down Westchester Airport as a result.

A series of circumstances (of course) led to the mishap. Now he tells the story on a Flying magazine podcast, called “I Learned About Flying From That.” Click here to listen (it helps to know all the pilot jargon).

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Michael Hannan of Westport died March 29, from complications of COVID. He was 56.

A lifetime resident of Westport, he graduated from Staples High School and the University of Massachusetts, with a degree in urban forestry.

Michael was a Connecticut licensed arborist for 30 years, and the mainstay of family-owned New England Nurseries. His passion for trees and plant science was exceeded only by his dedication to his friends and customers.

Michael was an avid fisherman. he traveled far and wide — including Central and South America, Ireland and Alaska to fish, catch and release. He was a perennial sight on Long Island Sound. He was tenacious in all endeavors that he found interesting, and had unwavering conviction in those areas. 

Michael is survived by his parents, Peter and Dolores Hannan; sister Kelly (John) Anzalone; niece Haley Humiston; nephews Ryan and Connor Humiston, and John JJ Anzalone;  an uncle; 2 aunts, and cousins. He was also survived by his constant companion Blue.

A memorial service will be held this summer, somewhere by the water. Memorial contributions may be made to a charity of your choice, or an animal rescue organization.

Michael Hannan

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The other day, “06880” previewed tomorrow’s Aspetuck Land Trust Zoom program on invasive species like knotweed.

Soon after, alert reader Werner Liepolt was at Sherwood Island. He was impressed by the grooming effort to rid the state park of knotweed — and wondered why we haven’t done the same, at some of our town’s open space.

Knotweed grooming, at Sherwood Island State Park. (Photo/Werner Liepolt)

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And finally … on this day in 1945, Franklin D. Roosevelt died in Warm Springs, Georgia of a cerebral hemorrhage. He was 63 years old.

Woody Guthrie wrote “Dear Mrs. Roosevelt,” about the president’s life and astonishing accomplishments. The refrain says it all: “The world was lucky to see him born.”

Bob Dylan and The Band performed a definitive version, at a Woody Guthrie tribute concert in Carnegie Hall.

Westport Values On Display Downtown

The sign went up quietly recently, on the bank of the Saugatuck River by the Taylor Place parking lot.

(Photo/Lynn Untermeyer Miller)

Under the heading “Westport Values” — and above photos including a multiracial family, one with 2 dads, an Asian American woman and a resident in his 90s — the text says that our town is “committed to fostering a civic culture that provides the equitable respect, belonging and treatment of all citizens, students, employees and visitors by its populace, government, schools, business and organizations.”

It mentions “races, ethnicities, religions, genders, abilities and LGBTQIA+,” but notes that the town’s civic culture commitment is not limited to those groups.

It adds: “Building on the richness of the past while acknowledging the challenges of its history, the Town of Westport commits to proactively making the town genuinely welcoming and inclusive.” (Click on or hover over the photo below to read the full statement.)

(Photo/Dan Woog)

A QR code brings up the Diversity, Equity & Inclusion page on the town website.

(Photo/Dan Woog)

Many residents don’t know the sign is there, or haven’t noticed it.

A few have contacted “06880” to applaud it. The town is taking a firm stand, they say, in a very public place.

A few others are not thrilled. They consider it unnecessary, or unnecessarily woke.

The sign is part of a continuing effort to add historical balance to town markers, and address past exclusions. Plaques have already been placed behind Town Hall, and on Elm Street near what was once a thriving African American neighborhood.

The new Diversity, Equity and Inclusion plaque by the Saugatuck River. (Photo/Dan Woog)

Pics Of The Day #1820

Sherwood Mill Pond morning … (Photo/Paul Delano)

… and homes on nearby Hillspoint Road and Compo Hill (Photo/Jenny Johnson)

 

Roundup: Affordable Housing Meeting, Tyler Hicks, Vinyl …

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Everyone in Westport has a stake in affordable housing.

For the first time, all 4 political parties — including the 2 formed around land-use issues — have joined to co-sponsor a forum. 

Tomorrow (Tuesday, April 12, 7 p.m., Town Hall and Zoom at www.westportct.gov), 1st Selectwoman Jen Tooker and Planning & Zoning Commission chair Danielle Dobin host a community conversation about Westport’s “5-Year Affordability Plan.” It’s a joint effort of the Republican and Democratic Town Committees, Save Westport Now and the Coalition for Westport.

Among Westport’s affordable housing options: Sasco Creek Village.

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Six weeks after Russia invade Ukraine, Tyler Hicks continues to show the carnage to the world.

The 1988 Staples High School graduate — a Pulitzer Prize-winning New York Times photographer — is now in Kramatorsk, where more than 50 civilians trying to flee the region were killed in a train station missile attack.

This is one of several striking images posted yesterday by the Times. Click here for more.

A worker cleans debris outside the Kramatorsk train station. (Photo/Tyler Hicks for the New York Times)

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A large crowd Saturday night helped launch what is believed to be the public library record label in the world.

The first vinyl on that first label is “Verso Records: Volume 1.” It’s a 500-copy compilation of emerging and established musicians in the tri-state region.

They play a variety of genres, including jazz, rock, folk, indie and hip hop. All tracks were recorded at the Library’s Verso Studios, a state-of-the-art, hybrid-analog SSL facility.

Chris Frantz — a founding member of Talking Heads and Tom Tom Club, and a Rock & Roll Hall of Fame inductee — calls himself “a major fan of the Westport Library, and the creativity they’re cultivating in artists throughout the region.”

Tracks available for download include Daniprobably (indie pop band), Alexandra Burnet and the Stable Six (ethereal singer-songwriter and band), Ports of Spain, (indie rock) and the Zambonis (“hockey rock”).

The album also includes hip hop artists MIGHTYMOONCHEW and Dooley-O; post punk artists Lulu Lewis; new wave musician Nicki Butane; singer-songwriter Terri Lynn; the John Collinge Jazz Quartet; indie rockers Tiny Ocean; garage punk band The Problem with Kids Today, and roots Americana rock The Split Coils.

To view session recording videos at Verso Studios, click here.  To preorder the album, click here.

Tammy Winser was named winner of the album cover design contest, at VersoFest Saturday night. Her artwork is displayed behind her. (Photo/Jerri Graham)

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Two folks with longtime Westport roots have joined the board of the Remarkable Theater.

David Waldman will serve as co-president. Angela Wormser is the director of workforce.

Waldman and his wife Yvette have supported the the Remarkable Theater  since its inception. Since founding David Adam Realty in 1991, he has developed some of the area’s most important commercial properties, including Bedford Square and the west bank of the Saugatuck River. Waldman is also a past president of the Westport Downtown Association, and has sat on its board for almost 2 decades. He was also a board member of the Downtown Plan Implementation Committee.

Wormser, an educator with a strong background in special educaiton, will help expand the Remarkable’s mission of creating opportunities for people with disabilities.

Angela’s role will focus on helping expand The Remarkable’s mission of creating opportunities for individuals with disabilities.

The current board includes State Representative Jonathan Steinberg and filmmaker Douglas Tirola. Both have been members since the beginning of the Westport Cinema Initiative. Stacie Curran continues as vice president and secretary.

Angela Wormser and David Waldman

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When Pastor Alison Patton embarks on a sabbatical in June, Saugatuck Congregational Church welcomes a “theologian in residence.”

Jim Antal — a nationally recognized climate expert, and author of “Climate Church, Climate World,” will share his expertise with the congregation and greater community through conversations, discussions, lectures and sermons.

The church seeks housing for Antal and his wife for their 3-week stay in June (June 1-22). A donation of living space, bedroom and kitchen is ideal; an inexpensive rental is the second option.

Anyone offering either possibility should email Priscilla Long: pal9948@aol.com.

Saugatuck Congregational Church seeks housing for a guest pastor.

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On Saturday, the Westport Rotary Club participated in Westport Parks & Recreation Department Clean-Up Day.

Dozens of Rotarians began and the Compo Beach skatepark, then headed to the Longshore driving range.

They shouldn’t have to pick up after the rest of us. But they sure did a great job!

Part of the Westport Rotary Club, with part of their trash collection.

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Spring weather brought many Westporters outside, preparing their lawns and gardens for new growth.

Teenagers Leilani Fleming and Ellen Ou headed to Sherwood Island State Park. They planted grass shoots today, as part of an ongoing effort to shore up the shore.

Ellen Ou and Leilani Fleming, hard at work.

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Visitors to the famed Musée de l’Elysée in Lausanne, Switzerland — one of the world’s leading institutions entirely devoted to photography — enjoy many images.

Including 2 from Westporter Larry Silver.

They’re now more accessible to his neighbors. Silver is exhibiting at Fairfield University Art Museum’s Quick Center, in the “13 Ways of Looking at Landscapes” show.

Larry will be in a conversation there about his photos on Wednesday (April 20, 5 p.m.).

“Girl at Showers,” one of 2 Larry Silver images on display in Lausanne.

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Dr. Stephen Rubin, a Westport resident for over 55 years, died last week after a battle with cancer. The educational philosopher and innovator was 83.

After graduating from Samuel J. Tilden High School in Brooklyn, he studied education and general systems theory at Brooklyn College and New York University. where he earned his (first) Ph.D. in 1965.

At 23 Dr. Rubin, became the principal of Center School in New Canaan. He made an indelible mark on education, student success and the hearts and minds of multiple generations of students, faculty and other staff from 1965 until 1983, when it closed.

Under his direction, and with a strong staff of teachers and administrators, Center School became a social-educational experiment featured in national publications like Newsweek and the New York Times for its extraordinary atmosphere and remarkable outcomes.

After closing Center School, Rubin served as assistant superintendent of schools in New Canaan until his first retirement in 2003.

As founder and president of the Institute for General Systems Management, He brought his vision about elementary education to a national audience. He was a frequent speaker at The Aspen Institute. Rubin also authored the book Public Schools Should Learn to Ski: A Systems Based Approach to Education; it is still considered seminal reading at the Harvard School of Education.

In 1994 Rubin joined the administrative faculty at Sacred Heart University, where he was founder and director of Educational Leadership and Management. He retired in 2014.

He met Adrienne Jurow in 1959, when they both taught at the same school in Brooklyn. They married in 1961.

Rubin and his wife had homes in Ridgefield; Boynton Beach, Florida, and Truro, Massachusetts. He is survived by son Jason (Louise) and daughter Tory Miller (Robert), plus grandchildren Damon, Madison, Olivia, Alexandria and Trevor, and nephew Seth.

Dr. Stephen Rubin

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I try to run “Westport … Naturally” photos within a couple of days after receiving them. Timing is everything.

It’s especially important with this spring-is-here! photo from Hillspoint Road, by Suzanne Raboy. It illustrates beautifully why this is such a wondrous time of year here.

But — sadly — if I wait even a few days, it will be gone.

(Photo/Suzanne Raboy)

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And finally … On this day in 1727, Johann Sebastian Bach’s St Matthew Passion premiered at St. Thomas Church in Leipzig.

Staples Senior Seeks Identity Beyond Sports

Ella Alpert is broadcast director of Inklings, Staples High School’s newspaper/magazine.

She is also president of the Young Democrats Club, and one of the presidents of the Staples chapter of TEAM Westport.

For far longer, she’s been a competitive swimmer. After many years in the sport, Ella was named captain of last fall’s Staples swim and dive team.

It was quite a season — but not always in ways she expected. This month, Ella — who heads to Scripps College next year, to major in political science, American studies, or writing and rhetoric — wrote about her experience for Inklings. 

Her words are insightful; her message, important. With her permission, I’m reprinting them here:

Throughout my childhood, I’ve missed birthday parties, sleepovers, playdates, you name it. Instead, I was staring at the black line on the bottom of a pool. Six days a week, 3 hours a day and around 48 weeks a year. This routine lasted for my 10 years as a competitive swimmer.

I finished my senior season as captain of the Staples swim and dive team this past fall. Then I took my cap and goggles off for the last time and quit. Even after starting the college recruitment process, I was no longer willing to keep up with the commitment and pressure of it all. I can now see how pressure and toxic competition hurt my relationship with the sport that I loved and limited my ability to pursue other passions.

Ella Alpert: on the pool deck …

I joined my first club swim team in 2ndgrade, and fell in love. Something always clicked in the pool. I loved the excitement of racing, the feeling of diving into the water, nailing the turns, pushing your body to the limit and the pride of hard work paying off.

However, I was adamant that I made time for my other interests. I liked my balance of orchestra practice, dance lessons, Girl Scout meetings and swimming. But I watched as my teammates improved greatly by making swimming their priority. And I was receiving the same advice from coaches: “You have great potential but need to be more committed if you want to improve.”

They told me double practices before and after school, 6:30 a.m. Saturday workouts and hours of daily exercise outside of the pool would be what it takes to become a serious, successful swimmer.

As a competitive person, I wanted to succeed, so I became fully committed to the sport and began to see results.

For many years, my love for swimming outweighed my desire for a normal childhood. But after years of serious commitment, my love began to fade and I resented swimming for taking it all away. Yet I wouldn’t let myself think about quitting. Swimming had become my whole life, identity, purpose. The child in me who vowed she wouldn’t let swimming consume her entire life was gone — whisked away by the pressure.

… and in the water.

I was lucky that my parents never added to the pressure that I received from coaches and teammates, but many of my teammates weren’t as fortunate. My best friend’s parents pressured her to workout at home in addition to swim workouts and hired outside coaches for private lessons. They put so much pressure on her success that she pitted herself against her closest friends, damaging friendships.

Even as early as middle school, some parents were under the impression that swimming was going to get their child to college, and they needed to stay on the path to get there.

That being said, I don’t hate swimming or even regret my years in the sport. I love swimming and despite the pressure felt a deep yearning for success just like all competitive athletes. The sport introduced me to some of my best friends and taught me invaluable life lessons. However, I do wish I could have explored my other interests without the immense guilt that came with missing practice.

Now that I’m done with swimming, I have the time and flexibility to enjoy the rest of my senior year with friends, explore new hobbies and dedicate more time to the other extracurriculars that I enjoy. I’m excited to enter my college years without 6 am practices limiting my social life.

Swimming was such a huge part of my identity and for a while I didn’t know who I would be or what I would do without it. But I am excited to find out.

Pics Of The Day #1819

Daffodil Mile, at Willowbrook Cemetery … (Photo/Andrew Colabella)

… and a closeup. (Photo/Charlie Scott)