Ecclesiastes (and Pete Seeger) weare right: To everything there is a season.
A time to be born. A time to die. A time to plant. A time to reap.
A time to move to Westport. A time to move away.
And a time to move back again.
David Loffredo lived here as a child. He went to the Nature Center pre-school, Riverview kindergarten and 3 elementary schools.
He was a Westport YMCA Water Rat, and caught the final out in the 1976 Little League Cap League championship game. He rode the Minnybus everywhere, and saw “Star Wars” at the Fine Arts Theater.
A remnant of David Loffredo’s Westport youth.
He returned as an adult, with a wife and toddler. Over 2 stints totaling 27 years, the family grew and thrived. He works in private equity. His wife — an obstetrician/gynecologist — is at Columbia University.
A couple of years ago, the Loffredos relocated New York’s Upper West Side. But David remains connected to Westport, through “06880.”
His journey is not unique. In fact it mirrors the arcs of many lives. I’ve often thought about families’ movements in and out of town — what brings them here, and what pushes (or pulls) them away.
But the other day, David articulated it far better than I could. He describes the various seasons of Westport life this way:
A family moves here. (“It’s the rare childless couple who moves before kids,” he notes. “We came with a 3 year old, then added 2 more.”)
The family “spends 20+ years doing all the 06880 stuff. The kids grow up, go to college, hopefully don’t move home, and ideally move to New York so you can still see them.” All 3 of theirs did.
The parents “suddenly feel old, disconnected from long time friends who either retire somewhere or fade away because the kids as glue are gone.” With their children not planning to return for at least a decade — if at all — the parents sell. David says, “I exchanged my property tax bill for an entertainment budget.”
With kids gone, empty nesters often look for a smaller place. There are many in New York City. (Photo/Dave Matlow)
With everyone in New York — David’s family is scattered across 4 apartments — there is time and space for “family dinners, concerts, plays, movies, etc. This makes all that parenting worth it.”
As time passes, “kids become adults.” They exchange roommates for “partners.” That’s where David and his wife are now, with 1 child.
As the young couple matures, “they get a French bulldog. Eventually they create a human (one of the only free activities in New York). As that human grows, they realize how intimidating it is to raise a kid in the city.”
The new family moves back to Westport “to recreate their upbringing, because how do you top it?” Hopefully, David adds, “they don’t have to commute full-time like their parent(s) most likely did.”
Meanwhile, their parents — former Westporters — “realize how much fun it is to be around their new grandchild.” So they ditch Manhattan and retake Westport — either in “a fancy condo” or less expensive rental apartment.
Residences like The Mill attract former residents back to Westport.
David and his wife are partway through the process. But they’ve seen friends go all the way through it. He’s sure they’ll eventually do the same.
Of course, this is just one scenario. It’s not for everyone. Everyone’s life, lifestyle and life circumstances vary.
But to everything there is a season.
A time to kill. A time to heal.
A time to laugh. A time to weep.
A time to cash out, and a time to buy or rent again — keeping the Westport real estate market turning.
(“06880” regularly covers Westport real estate, Westport life — and the lives of people who live here. If you enjoy stories like this, please click here to support our work. Thank you!)
Roundup: “06880” Comments, Bonnie Raitt, Tennis Court Trees …
The “06880” Comments section has occasionally gone off the rails.
It belongs to all readers — not just a few, who veer off topic or use it to communicate with each other.
Effectively immediately, we’re instituting a few new rules:
A limit of 3 comments (1 initial one, and 2 replies) per thread. This is down from the previous 5. Think before posting: Is this really worth using one of my 3 comments for? (NOTE: This rule can be waived by the executive editor, for truly worthwhile, in-depth and/or serious topics.)
All comments must be directed to all readers. Offer your thoughts to the topic at hand. Do not engage in back-and-forth with 1 or 2 readers. If you do address a specific reader, this is acceptable: “Susie, I’d like to know more about why you think xxxxx. Have you considered yyyy?” Unacceptable: “Sally, were you the person who did xxxx and yyyy?” If you’d like to correspond directly with another commenter, please send me an email. I’ll forward it to that person.
One exception to the above rules: Our Friday Flashback posts are open to unlimited comments, and unmoderated back-and-forth dialogue. Have at it on Fridays at noon! For every other “06880” post: Please use common sense, and common courtesy. Thank you!
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For as long as the Levitt Pavilion has hosted a Big Name for its annual fundraiser, they’ve tried to get Bonnie Raitt.
Last night, they did.
The 13-time Grammy-winning singer-songwriter/Rock & Roll Hall of Fame member/guitarist whom B.B. King called “the best damn slide player working today” thrilled a sold-out crowd, on a humid but gorgeous evening.
Backed by musicians she’s worked with for decades, the 76-year-old showcased her wide range of guitar and vocal talents, blending rock, blues, country and folk. She even took a turn on keyboard.
The Levitt has welcomed stars like Willie Nelson, John Fogerty, Cyndi Lauper, Smokey Robinson, Chuck Berry, the Tedeschi Trucks Band, and many more.
At last, they’ve added Bonnie Raitt to the list.
Bonnie Raitt, at the Levitt Pavilion. (Photo/Dan Woog)
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A few hours earlier, Westporters took advantage of perfect summer weather to head to Compo.
Longtime beachgoers have noticed an increase in the number of people who actually leave the shore, and go in the water (one of the primary functions of a beach, after all). Sandbars created by recent storms have made it easier to wade out.
This was the mid-afternoon scene. It’s one of the reasons we live here — and love it so much.
(Photo/Dorothy Robertshaw)
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Speaking of Compo: We’ve got a new “06880” header, on our desktop and laptop platforms.
Thanks to William Weiss, for this classic mid-summer view:
(Photo/William Weiss)
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Richard Fogel continues to document the renovation of the Staples High School tennis courts.
Today’s photos show the removal of a number of fir trees, between the parking lot and the courts themselves.
Trees have been removed from between the parking lot (left) and tennis courts (right)
View from the top of the Staples “hill” parking lot. Tennis courts are in foreground; trees that have been removed are center rear. (Photos/Richard Fogel)
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The next Executive Networking Series — set for August 27 (6:30 to 9:30 p.m. Nômade), is for the dogs.
The event — bringing business owners, executives, entrepreneurs and local leaders together, while introducing companies to non-profit organizations — highlights the Pet Animal Welfare Society (PAWS0.
The series is a partnership between VTB Financial and Prestige Cabinetry & Design LLC. Click here for tickets, and more information.
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Sure, we understand that registration for Westport Weston Family YMCA programs have already begun.
And yeah, it’s kind of cute that the Y’s promotion includes an orange-clad family, with cute little jack-o-lantern outfits.
But adding a paper pumpkins throughout the building is a bit much.
Dude, it’s August 10th.
(Photo/Dan Woog)
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We’ve gotten a lot of deer photos lately, for our “Westport … Naturally” series.
Sometimes, there are 2 in the shot.
Seeing 3 — including a fawn — is a rarity.
Dalton Delan captured this early morning “breakfast” yesterday, on Spicer Road.
(Photo/Dalton Delan)
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And finally … speaking of the tennis courts (item above):
(Anyone for tennis? How about anyone for clicking here to support “06880,” your hyper-love blog? We’d “love” that. Thank you!)
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