Monthly Archives: April 2016

Mike Perlis: Publisher, CEO — And Conductor

Mike Perlis — president and chief executive of Forbes Media since 2010, and before that publisher of Playboy, GQ and Men’s Health, and CEO of Ziff Davis — was the subject of Sunday’s New York Times International Business Q-and-A.

Mike is also a 1971 Staples High School graduate. His mother — Vivian Perlis — is well known to Westporters as a talented harpist, and to musicologists everywhere as founder and former director of Yale University’s Oral History of American Music.

The Times probably did not know that. They asked Mike about his first experiences as a manager, and he replied with a musical analogy.

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Q. Do you remember the first time you became a manager?

Mike Perlis

Mike Perlis

A. Right out of college, I co-founded a small publishing company, in Camden, Maine. Because I love the outdoors, we published regional magazines on travel and outdoor sports, like canoeing and hiking. I’ve always felt that media is one of the great places where one can combine avocation and vocation. I remember being much younger than everyone else, and though I wanted to be a leader, I had to take into account that the people I was managing often had much more experience and were older than I was.

It was an extraordinary opportunity for me to hone my skill as a generalist. I learned to be a conductor rather than being the musician with a particular skill. And as time has gone by, I’ve come to realize that being that generalist is actually a specialty. It’s a real privilege to be in the role where you can orchestrate what others are doing, but it does become a specialty, and it’s very satisfying, to continue the metaphor, to listen to the music you can create with the group.

Q. What are the skills required to play that “conductor role” well?

A. You have to be able to listen carefully, you have to be patient, and you have to able to articulate to your group what the goals are, what will constitute success and then lay out, with some precision, what the overarching strategic goals are that will allow the group to get there. Perspective and being able to see the whole picture is really vital, and more than anything, listening, understanding where you have talent, where you need talent, where the market opportunities are, and then translating all of this into strategic plans.

Q. What’s the difference between a good leader and a great leader?

Forbes logo 2A. Great leaders walk the talk. They lead by example. There isn’t anything they ask people to do they’re not willing to do themselves. They’re willing to do the big things and the little things that project real support and the “we’re in it together” kind of feeling. And by the way, for me that’s when it’s the most fun. If you live in an ivory tower — and, as Donald Trump said the other night, “leadership is about telling people what to do and then having them do it” — that doesn’t sound fun to me.

Mike went on to talk about his career at a variety of different publications; his relationship with the Forbes family; his leadership style, and his growth as a leader.

The final question was, “What would you tell your younger self?” Mike replied:

I wish I’d learned to speak Spanish or Chinese — not just to be more communicative and fluent, because I can always manage to get by, but to be more of a global citizen. Culturally, it says something about you if you can speak more than your mother tongue.”

(To read the entire Times Q-and-A with Mike Perlis, click here.)

Luxe Wine Bar Sold; Reopens As Bankside Social

Luxe is mixing its last drinks.

Owner Dave Morton has accepted an offer to sell his Main Street craft cocktail and wine bar. The final night is this Sunday (April 17).

Morton bought the unique after-dinner spot from previous owner Robert Reilly in November 2013.

“I appreciate all the great people, fun times and million laughs we shared,” Morton said in his announcement. “I’ll miss being part of the Westport community.”

He gave a special shout-out to Reilly, “whose vision made Luxe a special place to so many, for so long.”

Luxe Wine Bar & Craft Cocktails

Luxe Wine Bar & Craft Cocktails

Describing “mixed feelings” at the sale of his mixed drinks lounge, Morton invites friends and customers to stop by before closing. “Help us make the final week a memorable one,” he says.

After making some changes, the new owner will reopen as Bankside Social — a Mediterranean bistro, wine and dessert bar.

Morton says, “Please make them feel welcome, as you did for me.”

The soon-to-be-former owner has one more request: “I need a job. If anyone can help with that, I’ll figure out how to show my appreciation.”

Perhaps he’ll buy you a drink.

Presumably at Bankside.

Carly Fiorina Tops Ted Cruz In Westport

Spotted earlier today, outside Town Hall:

Carly Fiorina and Ted Cruz

Westport’s Baroness Back In The News

It happened on January 2, 1972. Eight armed men stole $28 million in cash and jewels from vaults at New York’s Hotel Pierre.

But it’s back in the news. Nick “The Cat” Sacco — the last robber alive — is writing a book that’s been optioned for a movie. Yesterday’s New York Post had all the breathless details.

Baroness von Langendorff (Photo/New York Social Diary)

Baroness von Langendorff (Photo/New York Social Diary)

The “06880” connection is that the most valuable item was a $750,000 diamond necklace owned by Baroness von Langendorff. She’s the 2nd wife of Baron Walter von Langendorff, founder of Evyan Perfumes, and former owner of Westport’s Winslow Park and the eponymous Baron’s South property on Compo Road.

The baron’s 1st wife died in 1968.

According to the baron’s 1983 obituary, he “often took a blended formula to his country home in Westport, Conn., to smell it away from the air pollution of the city.”

He died in his suite at the Pierre. That’s where he lived with his 2nd wife, the former Gabriele Lagerwall — she of the $750,000 necklace.

It ended up in the hands of a Detroit mobster — who was an FBI informant. That led to arrests of 2 of the robbers (though not Sacco, who entered the witness protection program).

Turns out, baroness #2 still lives at the Pierre.

The baroness is quite a social presence. (Photo/Daily Mail)

The baroness is quite a social presence. (Photo/Daily Mail)

Another New York Post story, from 2 years ago, told the tale of “dirt-poor Nepalese relatives of late Manhattan fashion legend Shail Upadhya (who) are scraping together their meager belongings — even selling off land — to finance a battle against an evil European baroness who swooped in and made off with the designer’s $5 million fortune, according to their lawsuit.”

(It’s complicated. Click here for details.)

The Post — which describes the baroness as a “buxom red-haired widow” — notes that before marrying the Austrian chemist who created White Shoulders perfume, Gabriele was “admired and pursued by some of the richest, most powerful men in the world, including Averell Harriman.”

Several years ago, New York Social Diary described her this way:

{The baroness] is easily spotted in any crowd, gilded or no because of her tall and tumbling flaming tresses, her satin and/or taffeta evening dresses, and above all, her famous milkmaid complexion — and above above all, her ensembles of astonishing jewels. Which are always in ample supply, generous weight, high lustre, and, in short, unbelievable on sighting.

The baroness is one of those individuals of indeterminate youth and age, to put it politely, whose legend, long having departed reality, provides a rich lore that may be more enticing than the facts (although maybe not). Her presence reflects a New York that is almost entirely a memory, where women were placed on pedestals (albeit, if temporarily) as birds of paradise, living paeans to glamour and luxurious living, to be adored, and above all, worshipped….

The baroness still wears plenty of jewels. (Photo/New York Post)

The baroness still wears plenty of jewels. (Photo/New York Post)

She has resided at the Pierre for many years now, and spends weekends at her estate on the North Shore of Long Island where when she entertains at dinner, the men wear black tie and the women of course wear long dresses and jewels. In the summertime, she leaves these shores for Monte Carlo in July and August.

I guess we won’t be seeing baroness von Langendorff in Westport again soon. We’ll just have to settle for the New York Post.

(For the entire New York Social Diary story, click hereFor more on the baron’s Westport property, click here.)

Searching For Mr. Bullens

Just when I think I’ve heard every story about Westport’s rock ‘n’ roll history, I learn something new.

But I’ve never — ever — come across a tale quite like this one.

Cindy Bullens knew from age 4 that she’d be a rock star. In 1974 she left New England for fame and fortune. She arrived in Los Angeles with only $100, a backpack and guitar.

Elton John and Cindy Bullens.

Elton John and Cindy Bullens.

Fortune smiled. She met Bob Crewe — the legendary Four Seasons and Mitch Ryder producer. Six months later Cindy crashed a party, where she knew Elton John would be.

Two days after that, she was rehearsing to accompany him on his Rock of the Westies tour.

That meant turning down an invitation to play and sing with Bob Dylan. She’d been invited to join his Rolling Thunder Revue too.

Cindy went on to sing background on “Don’t Go Breakin’ My Heart.” She had 3 lead vocals on the “Grease” movie soundtrack, released 2 solo albums, and was nominated for 2 Grammys.

But that’s not the story.

In 1979 Cindy married Crewe’s brother Dan. A couple of years later — after her record company folded —  the couple moved to Westport. It was an artistic community, close to New York. They had 2 daughters.

In 1996, one of the girls — Jessie — died of lymphoma. She was 11 years old.

The rocker’s world was rocked. As part of the grieving process, Cindy wrote 10 songs. She did not intend to record them — she had no label — but after asking friends like Bonnie Raitt and Bryan Adams to join her, she recorded “Somewhere Between Heaven and Earth.” It became her best-selling album.

By default, Cindy was back in the music business. More records followed.

But that’s not the story either.

When she was just 4 years old, Cindy knew she was really a boy. In those days no one talked about transgender issues. In her teens, Cindy decided she’d have to live as a woman. She “did a work-around. I made peace with myself as Cindy Bullens.”

Four years ago, an old friend told Cindy she was transitioning from female to male.

Young Cindy Bullens.

Jessie  Bullens

Cindy was shocked. “As close as we were, neither of us had ever talked about our genders and bodies.”

Cindy’s mind imploded. Her friend’s revelation “brought up everything in my life I’d hidden away, in a very remote place.”

The timing was propitious. Cindy “had the psychic space to deal with all this. I was not in a relationship.” (She and her husband had divorced.) “My daughter had grown up and moved away. I was not in crisis.”

Once the door opened, Cindy walked through it. After deciding to transition, she spent a couple of years out of the public eye.

“I let go of Cindy. I became Cidny — but everyone calls me Cid,” he says.

But that’s not the end of the story either.

For a long time, Cindy had wanted to write a one-person show about her unusual life. Now, as Cid, he realized his transition added an exceptionally powerful narrative arc.

The result is “Somewhere Between.” The multimedia musical — a “one wo/man show” — explores the bridge between Cindy and Cidny. But it’s not just about transitioning genders. “It’s a universal and human story,” Cid says. “My transition is just a part of my life. This is about a person — not only a transgender person.”

Cidny Bullens today. (Photo/Joanne Berman)

Cidny Bullens today. (Photo/Joanne Berman)

The show begins in 1974. It travels through Cindy’s music career, the birth of her daughter and her transition. It ends with the birth of her grandchildren.

One of the most poignant moments comes with the song “Mockingbird Hill.”

“In Westport, we lived on Minuteman Hill,” Cid says of his 9 years in this area.

“It was a beautiful home, with a view of the water. We completely renovated it. It was the house I wanted to live in forever. But I was a square peg in a round hole.”

The song describes his relationship with the house and his daughters. As he sings it, a video shows footage of their renovation project, and the girls playing there.

“It’s one of the best songs I’ve ever written,” Cid says.

“Somewhere Between” earned excellent reviews in Santa Fe and Nashville. Now he’s looking to book it elsewhere.

Westport seems like a natural venue. For nearly a decade, this town meant a lot to Cindy Bullens. It was her home.

Even as she searched for her true home, where Cidny Bullens now lives.

 

Oh My 06880 — Photo Challenge #67

Last week’s photo challenge took us to the highest point in Westport.

And therein lies the story.

Peter Tulupman’s image showed an abandoned building next to the Rolnick Observatory, behind the Westport Weston Health District on Bayberry Lane.

Those buildings were originally part of the Nike missile launch site. The reason they were there — to protect Bridgeport’s electronics manufacturing industry from Russian attacks — was that the launch site (and the missiles themselves, on the North Avenue land that’s now Bedford Middle School) had to be at the highest elevation possible. Bayberry Lane fit the bill.

Edward Bloch, Dan Lasley, John Sexton, Susan Huppi, Sharon Paulsen and John Brawley all knew the photo was taken at the former Nike missile site. To see it, click here.

This week’s photo challenge comes with a back story — but I don’t know it. If you have any idea why the bridge in the background was built — or when, by whom, whatever — please add those details when you comment. Inquiring minds want to know!

Oh My 06880 - April 10, 2016

Longshore Seaplane: The Sequel

This morning’s post about Westport’s seaplane past brought an instant response from Scott Smith.

And a photo:

Last seaplane - Longshore - from John Kantor

Click on photo to enlarge.

The former chair of Longshore’s 50th anniversary as a town park got the image from John Kantor, longtime owner of Longshore Sailing School.

Scott writes:

John gave me this photo of a seaplane taxiing away from the sailing school dock. He described it as “the last seaplane” that took off from that area. Note the police vessel standing by.

Scott adds that Lucia White — a well-known artist, now in her 90s — told Scott that her brother was a seaplane pilot in the 1930s and ’40s. He once flew one of the Bedford family’s planes to Florida. When he was a few days late reporting back, Lucia’s mother raised a fit with Mrs. Bedford.

Attention All Seaplane Pilots!

Don’t ask me how, but spectacularly alert reader Mary Gai spotted this ad, from the Norwalk Hour of October 27, 1948:

Westport Seaplane Base

That’s it. I had never heard of a seaplane base — or a Sea Wings Club — ever.

A fairly thorough search did not turn up any photos, either.

Pretty amazing for an organization that was around for at least 10 years.

Inquiring minds want to know more. If you have any information about seaplanes in Westport — or can find photos — click “Comments” below. Or email dwoog@optonline.net.

Our seaplane story — with the lowest rates “in the history of aviation” — deserves to be told.

Musical Memories: The Sequel

Wednesday’s “06880” post about Bo Diddley‘s appearances in Westport sent Mike James scrambling for his scrapbook.

Sure enough, there it was: a ticket to one of the rock ‘n’ roll pioneer’s local shows. With an actual autograph from the star. (He apparently called himself “The Man.”)

Bo Diddley ticket - Michael James

St. Anthony’s Hall was on Franklin Street (you can read all about that history here.)

Meanwhile, Michael Friedman — the Staples grad who inspired that “06880” story — e-mailed me a few of the many photos he’s taken over his long musical career.

From Bo Diddley to Janis Joplin, Mick Jagger and Johnny Winter, he’s seen it all.

Janis Joplin (Photo/Michael Friedman)

Janis Joplin (Photo/Michael Friedman)

Edgar Winter and Janis Joplin (Photo/Michael Friedman)

Johnny Winter and Janis Joplin (Photo/Michael Friedman)

The Rolling Stones perform at a Hell's Angels concert in California. No, it wasn't Altamont. (Photo/Michael Friedman)

The Rolling Stones. (Photo/Michael Friedman)

Hello, it's Todd Rundgren. (Photo/Michael Friedman)

Hello, it’s Todd Rundgren. (Photo/Michael Friedman)

Jack Goldenberg “Pins” His Hopes On Hillary

Jack Goldenberg says he’s been marketing Democratic memorabilia “since Al Gore was elected president.”

That tells you all you need to know about his political leanings — and what he does to support them.

He’s sold over 30 styles of Obama Watches (“guaranteed to be more accurate than George Bush”) for the past 8 years.

Now, as a new campaign season heats up, he’s turned his attention to Hillary Clinton.

Goldenberg — a former Westporter who as a copywriter and creative director marketed national crazes like Happy Meals, Cabbage Patch Kids and Pop Rocks — is promoting the Democratic candidate with a series of 20 pins.

A Hillary supporter with her pin.

A Hillary supporter with her pin.

The biggest seller is “Hillary Trumps Them All.” Sales jump every time the Republican front-runner makes a controversial comment. “No wonder sales are so good,” the pin-maker says.

Marketing comes naturally to Goldenberg. In 1972 — 2 years after the first Earth Day — he appointed himself Head of the Earth. He then launched International Earth Day (and earned the backing of the UN).

Besides those Happy Meals, Cabbage Patch and Hot Rocks campaigns, he was among the first to suggest instant scratch-off state lottery tickets. On the plus side, he helped 300 people get new homes and jobs after Hurricane Katrina.

But back to his political work.

Goldenberg’s Obama watches (one said “Love your mama, vote Obama”; another read”Barack around the clock”) were endorsed by George Bush, who lived in a white house. Well, not, the actual president, and not 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue. But he had the same name. And his house was white.

This is the George Bush who supported Barack Obama -- and who likes Jack Goldenberg's watches.

This is the George Bush who supported Barack Obama — and who likes Jack Goldenberg’s watches.

Connecticut votes soon. It’s unknown whether Hillary will trump all (or even Bernie Sanders).

But if she does, you can pin a small part of it on Jack Goldenberg.