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Help Pours In For Westporter Paralyzed In Nor’easter

Somehow, in the swirl of news following last week’s nor’easter, this awful news was overlooked everywhere.

A week ago, as winds howled, Victoria Gouletas — a real estate attorney, and member of Westport’s Zoning Board of Appeals — was crushed when a large tree branch snapped. It hit her head and back, fracturing several bones in her neck, scapula and sternum.

Victoria Gouletas

The tree also broke her back, paralyzing her from the chest down. She has been told she will never walk again.

Victoria retains complete mental capacity, and can use her head, neck and arms. Doctors assure her family that, with intense physical therapy, she can regain her daily independence, care for herself and her family, drive her children to school and return to work full time.

Still, her life will be very different.

Victoria and her husband, Troy Burk, and their children Ana (10), Tafe (9) and Zoe (2½), love Westport. They have been touched by the outpouring of love and well wishes they have received from the community. Many people have offered to help.

Victoria is committed to her family, her town and her career. She is fiercely determined to live a full life, regaining as much mobility as her body will allow. She has vowed to work as hard as possible to beat the odds.

Victoria Gouletas, her husband Troy Burk and their kids.

However, her recovery will be a marathon, not a sprint. Out-of-pocket costs of retrofitting her life — while continuing to care for her family — will be immense and ongoing.

Upcoming expenses include a house renovation or relocation, vehicles to accommodate her limitations, ongoing nursing care, plus child care and housekeeping services.

A GoFundMe page was set up yesterday. The goal is $75,000. In less than 24 hours, it’s collected over $11,000.

Click here to contribute. The Gouletas and Burk families thank all for their support.

“Post Road Hero” Sequel: Daily News Coverage; GoFundMe Campaign

“06880” and WestportNow readers have responded strongly — and generously — to the story of Aaron Tucker.

The 32-year-old halfway house resident sacrificed his dress shirt — and a chance at a job interview — to help save the victim of Wednesday’s horrific Post Road automobile accident.

Now, millions more people will know about Tucker. The New York Daily News just published a big story about his heroics.

It includes this great quotes from Tucker:

Aaron Tucker (Photo courtesy of WestportNow.com)

“It didn’t go through my head, because a job can come and go, but a life is only one time. The only thing running through my head is that person in the car could pass away and I could help him.”

And this, about the outpouring of support from Westporters: “I just want everybody to know it’s not about what people could do for me. It’s just about me saving his life,” he said.

His story — including his desire to move on from a weapons conviction, and to support his 21-month-old son — clearly resonates.

The Daily News reports that a GoFundMe “thank you” page has set up to help Tucker.

In just 13 hours — as of 7 a.m. today — it already raised over $5,000.

(Click here for the GoFundMe page. Hat tip: Adam Goldberg)

Charlie Capalbo’s Biggest Battle

Charlie Capalbo is not a Westporter. He’s a senior at Fairfield Ludlowe High School.

But his ties to this town are long and deep. Everyone here knows his grandmother: writer/poet/storyteller Ina Chadwick. Her husband, Richard Epstein — Charlie’s grandfather — is a Westport native; his parents moved here in 1958.

Charlie’s mother, Jennifer Wilde Capalbo — Ina’s youngest daughter — is a Staples graduate. For many years, she worked at a Westport asset management company.

Charlie’s aunts are Nina Wilde and Becky Wilde Goldberg Jarit. Years ago — to support her former Staples boyfriend, who suffered from lymphoma — Becky began running in charity events. She completed her first New York Marathon this year, at 50.

Ina Chadwick’s daughters: Nina, Becky and Jennifer.

Charlie has led a pretty good life. This winter as a goalie, he helped the Fairfield co-op ice hockey team make history. For the first time ever, the Mustangs qualified for the FCIAC and state Division I tournaments.

But other parts of his life are not good at all.

A few years ago, his house burned down. And just a couple of weeks ago — after making 27 saves in Fairfield’s 5-2 state tournament loss to West Haven — Charlie was diagnosed with cancer.

Charlie Capalbo (Photo/Dave Gunn)

His tumor is located near his heart and lungs, and has spread to his lymph nodes. Doctors say right now, an operation is not possible.

Charlie has already had a 5-hour biopsy at Yale-New Haven. Many more procedures lie ahead. Chemo starts tomorrow.

The Fairfield community — led by his coach and teammates — have rallied around Charlie.

Charlie Capalbo’s teammates lend support, as he heads to the OR.

A GoFundMe page was created Sunday night. In just 3 days, it’s already brought in over $129,000.

And that’s without most of Westport knowing his story.

Now we do.

(Click here for Charlie Capalbo’s GoFundMe page.)

Helping Peter Pastorelli

Peter Pastorelli is a longtime, well-known, much-loved Westport character.

He was a movie and TV location and production manager forever. His credits include “American Psycho,” “Fame,” “Midnight Run” and many more.

He’s got countless stories about actors, directors, musicians, and everyone else in Hollywood.

Plus, he hosted some of the most interesting and eclectic parties I’ve ever been to.

Over a year and a half ago, Peter was diagnosed with stage 3 pancreatic cancer. He’s undergone chemo and radiation, but the treatments are no longer effective.

Peter Pastorelli (3rd from left), and his family.

Peter Pastorelli (3rd from left), and his family.

Until a few months ago, he managed his own care. But extreme fatigue and weakness have caught up to him. He stayed at home as long as possible. Now he needs full-time care.

Peter has chosen the Regional Hospice & Home Care Center in Danbury, so he can be close to his family. But to be admitted within a week, he needs financial assistance.

Peter’s family set up a GoFundMe site to help raise money.

“Peter has been a tremendous friend to so many,” the page says. “His wit, humor and intelligence are defining characteristics of this incredibly generous man.

“We would greatly appreciate any donation that is given to assist Peter. With deep gratitude, we thank all those for their kindness and contributions.”

(Click here to contribute to Peter Pastorelli’s GoFundMe page.)

Meghan Scheck’s Story

When cancer strikes, some people take time off from work. The struggle is tough. A job can wait.

Meghan Scheck was diagnosed with breast cancer in early January. But instead of requesting a medical leave, she headed straight back to Staples High School.

Scheck is a beloved English instructor. She teaches Advanced Placement Language, English 3A, and 2 sophomore classes.

That’s tough, on the best days. But Scheck never thought twice about where she should be.

“Teaching is my happy place,” she  says. “It’s so nice to be there, in a place where I’m not a ‘cancer patient.’ When I’m at school, I forget about that part of my life.”

That part of her life included 6 weeks of chemotherapy. She’s got 2 sessions to go. She undergoes surgery at the end of the school year — “great timing!” she laughs — followed by more chemo.

Meghan Scheck, with her husband and son.

Meghan Scheck, with her husband and son.

She’s facing the ordeal with an upbeat attitude, enthusiasm, and a strong desire to deliver a rich and rigorous education to her students, no matter how tired or sick she feels.

The Staples community has responded to Scheck’s unflagging optimism.

“The kids have been great,” she says. “They’re so understanding and supportive. I’ve gotten so many sweet emails.”

The staff has been “like family,” Scheck adds. Her colleagues throughout the school — particularly those in her English department — have gone “dramatically out of their way” to help.

In ways large and small, they make her life a little easier. She was particularly touched when — at crunch time, just before grades were due — they volunteered to grade papers for her.

“It’s been humbling,” Scheck says of the outpouring of support.

Office-mate Heather Colletti-Houde has gone one step further. She set up a GoFundMe page.

GoFundMe logoScheck — who is married, with a 4-year-old son — will probably run out of sick days this fall. The fund will also provide a cushion for health care costs, when the school system’s very good insurance policy (with a high deductible) rolls over.

There are many unforeseen costs too, for any cancer patient.

In the first days since the GoFundMe site went live, Scheck’s friends — many of them Staples staff and parents — donated $8,000.

Meghan Scheck has touched hundreds of students — and plenty of colleagues — in her 7 years at Staples. Now it’s time for all of us to provide our own lesson in the importance of community.

(Click here to contribute through Meghan Scheck’s GoFundMe page.)

Olivia And Katterine

Olivia Allen is a 2010 Staples High School graduate. After graduating from Northeastern University, she joined Teach for America.

Her story of her experiences as a 1st-year teacher in North Carolina was published last week in the Charlotte Observer. As the immigration debate rages nationally, it deserves a broad audience — especially here in Westport.

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Katterine walked through my classroom door in August 2014 on “meet-the-teacher” night at Newell Elementary. She hid behind her father, Cesar, who indicated that she had recently arrived from Guatemala, was very nervous, and spoke zero English.

Olivia Allen

Olivia Allen

As a 1st-year teacher, unsuccessfully trying to evade questions about my young age, and wearing a heavy blazer advertising that I was clearly new to North Carolina summers, I was just as nervous. I too had a lot to learn, including picking up more Spanish.

I responded, “podemos aprender en juntos … we can learn together!” At that moment, we both employed a growth mindset – a mutual dedication to hard work and resilience.

As the year progressed, my teaching abilities improved, as did Katterine’s English proficiency, grasp of 5th grade content, and comfort with her peers. Never unnerved by others’ behaviors, always showing a palpable sense of gratitude to me and other teachers, and regularly motivated during our Saturday morning tutoring at her house, she began to exemplify success.

A few weeks into school, after having used her bilingual classmate Ashley as a conduit for all communication, she finally broke her silence and answered a question in English. Her 27 10-year-old peers erupted in applause without any prompting, as they knew this was an important first glimpse of Katterine’s growing confidence and success. Her impenetrable work ethic paid off: she scored in the 99th percentile for growth, and in just one school year, she grew 3.3 and 2.2 grade levels in math and reading, respectively.

If this is not the narrative that comes to mind when you think of an undocumented immigrant, you are not alone. Katterine is undocumented, and I did not learn of her illegal status until the summer after she had left my class. Next month, I will say goodbye to Katterine when she is deported back to Guatemala.

The sacrifices made by Katterine’s family to educate her in the safety of the United States and the tragedies they suffered in Guatemala that unfortunately do not warrant refugee status are astonishing. But let me focus on their contributions, which often go unnoticed.

Katterine and Olivia Allen.

Katterine and Olivia Allen.

Katterine’s parents, also undocumented, pay taxes (they have Individual Tax Identification Numbers) and are exemplary in their interest in their daughter’s education. During home visits, they asked for lists of reading apps for their tablet and frantically called me before her science fair project was due to ensure her model volcano met the requirements. Despite their own hardships, they demonstrated empathy. When another classmate, Ramon, was in the hospital for cancer treatment, Katterine brought in an envelope with a card and a $20 bill from Katterine’s family to his.

I am aware that one family’s narrative does not warrant dramatic policy change; not every undocumented family exhibits the same values. However, from the narrow lens of my classroom, I contend that Katterine gave and contributed more to my school and our city than she took. Students who come to Charlotte solely to be educated safely are not deserving of deportation. We need to recognize that these students are not draining resources, but rather are sources of boundless potential.

In a city like Charlotte, which has the country’s lowest rate of social mobility, we must find a way to capitalize on the success of our students, not force them back into terrible circumstances. Education can be transformative for disenfranchised students like Katterine, and as an educator, my goal for all my students is that they attend college. I truly hope Katterine can return to the U.S. one day, as her story deserves to end with a college acceptance, not a one-way ticket to Guatemala.

(After Katterine was hospitalized with appendicitis, Olivia set up a GoFundMe page to help with medical and legal expenses. Click here for more information. Hat tips: Julia McNamee and Cecily Gans)

10K!

On Friday, “06880” posted a story on a citizens’ campaign to install mobile speed signs — “traffic calming devices” — on Imperial Avenue and Bridge Street.

The GoFundMe drive had already garnered $1975 in pledges. The goal was $10,000 — by December 31.

Today — just 72 hours later, and nearly 60 days ahead of schedule — that figure has been reached. (And more: As of this morning it was up to $10,100.)

Nicole Dodge — one of the organizers — says:

This issues clearly resonates with residents of our neighborhood. It’s the first step towards addressing the issue of excessive speed on Imperial and Bridge Street and the surrounding areas. We are pleased we were able to raise the money so quickly, so we can move forward in further addressing this problem and prioritizing pedestrian safety.

Well done, Gang of 6 who came up with the campaign.

And well done, “06880” readers. You rock!

Now please be sure to slow down on Imperial Avenue, Bridge Street — and everywhere else in town!

A typical mobile speed sign.

A typical mobile speed sign.

Rock On, Justin!

At Staples High School, Justin Slosberg battled leukemia. With the help of family and friends — all of whom dressed in purple one day, to show support — he returned to classes and to his passion, the drums. He graduated last June, the day after pounding out a great solo at baccalaureate.

On the last day of his 3 1/2-year treatment regimen — just after he moved into his dorm, beginning his freshman year at Berklee College of Music — Justin learned his cancer had returned.

Justin Slosberg

Justin Slosberg

Many of Justin’s bills are not covered by insurance. He’s looking at a 3-week hospital stay, followed by a bone marrow transplant and another 2 months in the hospital

The Slosbergs have been Westporters since Justin was in kindergarten.  Their strong, long local connections have led friends to organize a GoFundMe campaign to cover unpaid bills and treatment costs.

Click here to contribute. It’s time to drum up support from everyone!

 

Tough Times In A Town Of Plenty

There are nightmare scenarios no one wants to think about.

One struck a Westport man named Gary.

His wife died 7 years ago, of stomach cancer. Their 3rd child had just been born.

Gary

Gary

Gary raised them on his own, helping them move beyond their devastating loss. Proudly, he says, they are “growing as well-rounded, loving and respectful kids.”

A sales trader who deals in equities, he works on a commission-only basis. Over the past few months, business dried up.

The family lived in a very modest 2-bedroom apartment. He fell behind on his rent. Last Friday, his landlord evicted him.

Gary is 3 months behind on payments for his 2007 Jeep too. Repossession is imminent.

Two of his 3 children are living with relatives this summer. He’s spoken to Homes With Hope, but they have no housing for a single father and his family.

“I’ve done everything possible to stay positive, and provide for my children these last few years,” he says. “But I find my back up against a wall, and don’t see any other avenues to pursue.

“My credit rating suffered terribly after my wife passed, so a bank loan is not an option at present. I hope business will pick up shortly, and we will be okay.

“I am also a realist. I’m looking for new employment, but that is not an easy task these days.”

He posted those words on GoFundMe.com. It could not have been easy to ask for help like that. But he can’t think of what else to do.

GoFundMe logo

A friend asked me to tell Gary’s story on “06880.” I called Gary, to get his permission.

I warned him that cyberspace can be cruel. Some readers might make snarky remarks about a Westporter — even one who has been evicted from his home — asking for help.

He’s willing to take that chance.

And I’m betting that “06880” readers will understand that Gary’s story could be any of ours.

(To make a contribution to Gary’s GoFundMe page, click here.)

 

 

Laura Loffredo Offers Adoption Hope

Laura Loffredo is a child of Westport. Her father was the hard-working, generous owner-operator of Belta’s Farm on Bayberry Lane. Her mother helped out there too.

From childhood on Laura wanted to have kids, and be a mom like her own mother.

Laura first babysat at 14. She continued until graduating from Staples in 1995, then earned a BA in psychology at the University of Connecticut and a master’s in community counseling from the University of Bridgeport.

Laura Loffredo

Laura Loffredo

She worked as a mental health counselor and case manager, then went back to school for a 6th-year degree in education. She’s been a teacher for the past 7 years, while also working for Big Brothers Big Sisters.

To this day, Laura remembers crying at TV commercials showing starving children in Africa. At 14, her parents helped her sponsor a little boy overseas. She still recalls his name: Saul Hormiga Donu.

When she got married, Laura and her husband John expected to have children right away. Instead they endured a 6-year struggle that included thousands of dollars spent on 8 failed fertility treatments, and a miscarriage.

“I prayed every night for a baby. The longing inside my heart was unbearable,” Laura says.

“I didn’t understand why God was denying me the one thing I wanted more than anything in the world. I was angry, bitter and heartbroken. I couldn’t breathe.” She calls this “the darkest time of my life.”

When Laura and John finally made the decision to adopt, it was “like a light in the darkness.” For the first time, Laura felt hope.

Laura and  John Loffredo, with their daughter.

Laura and John Loffredo, with their daughter.

The first time she held her minutes-old daughter in her arms, Laura was overcome with emotion. All the pain washed away.

“At that moment, I understood the reason for everything,” she says. “This little girl was always meant to be ours. It just took her a while to come to us.”

But she agonized over all the people who did not have $40,000 to adopt a baby. The thought of not being a mother was overwhelmingly painful.

So Laura adopted a new cause: adoption advocate. She began forming ideas for what is now the Adoption Hope Foundation. Its mission is to provide grants to people who hope to build families through adoption.

The Adoption Hope Foundation is seeking non-profit status. It’s inaugurated a GoFundMe campaign, to cover start-up expenses and initial grants. The goal is to award the 1st funds by the end of the year.

“Adoption is a beautiful gift,” Laura says. “It is a life-altering experience that has allowed me to feel the deepest kind of love imaginable.”

That love extends from her daughter, out to the birth parents who selflessly placed her with Laura and John.

Now, Laura is paying it forward. She’s spreading that love — and the funds needed for it — as far as she can.

(For more information, or to support Laura’s work, click on the Adoption Hope Foundation’s GoFundMe site. To contact Laura directly, email loffredo.laura@gmail.com, or call 203-354-4971.)

Laura and John's daughter. Her outfit says "And baby makes 3."

Laura’s daughter. Her outfit says “baby makes 3.”