Amy Van Arsdale De-Clutters My Life

“06880” — my blog — has a clean, uncluttered look. I’m proud of that, and work hard to maintain it.

My office is another story entirely.

It’s cluttered. It’s messy, disorganized, and filled with stuff I think I need, but really don’t.

In other words, it’s like nearly every other home office in America.

Every home office that has not yet been professionally cleared, de-cluttered and reclaimed by Amy van Arsdale, that is.

Amy van Arsdale

Amy is a Westporter. In 2008 she, her husband and 4 kids lived near Old Mill Beach. In preparation for renting their house for the summer, she moved everyone’s personal items to the attic.

When she returned in late August, she retrieved only what her family needed, loved and used.

It was a lot less than what she’d moved upstairs.

The next 2 summers, Amy did the same thing. Each time, there was less to bring back downstairs.

And each time, she got more and more efficient.

After Amy put her new skills to use helping downsize her mother, and move her aunts into assisted living facilities, she realized she was on to something. Not only could she de-clutter people’s homes — she could do the same for their minds.

The result was Cleared Spaces: a lifestyle service helping people live better, with far less.

Marie Kondo’s recent fame has shined a light on the process of de-cluttering. But Amy has been doing it for a decade too.

Plus — unlike Marie — she doesn’t leave, then come back weeks later to see the results. Amy is there with her clients, every step of the way.

In fact, she does all the dirty work for you.

I know first hand. The other day, Amy came over to de-clutter my office.

Well, part of it. Even a miracle worker like she could not do everything in one afternoon.

Amy began with a closet. It’s where I’d stuffed everything — old newspaper articles, scrapbooks, report cards from Burr Farms Elementary School, tax returns dating back to the Reagan administration — in the belief that it was important and useful.

That closet was where I needed to move all the crap from my desk and the rest of my office. But first it had to be reclaimed.

Ta da! Thanks to Amy, I’ve reclaimed the closet in my office.

“Eighty percent of what I do is purge,” Amy says. “People have too much stuff, and it’s not sorted well.”

No shit.

So Amy spends a lot of time helping clients figure out what should go, and what must stay. “People pay me to stand over them, and do what they can’t do,” she says. “It’s not brain surgery,”

Her mantra is simple, but key: “If you don’t need it, love it or use it — get rid of it.”

The space Amy creates is not only in the home. It’s in the mind too. She is a certified Kripalu yoga teacher. When she de-clutters, she doesn’t dwell on that part of her life — though she does start with “take a deep breath. People are nervous that I’ll get rid of everything.”

But Amy firmly believes “you really don’t need a lot of stuff to be happy.” Clearing out physical space is centering and relaxing.

My desk still needs a ton of work.

It sure is. As we worked together — she handing me boxes; me realizing I didn’t really need to keep all the correspondence about every book I’ve written, but that I loved every photo I found; she sorting everything I was tossing into bins marked “recycle,” “incinerate” and “donate” (to Goodwill, Habitat for Humanity and other organizations) — I felt awe.

And relief.

Amy was right. I felt better. Lighter. Freer. I was ready — eager! — to attack the piles of who-knows-what cluttering my desk and chairs, filling up my floor (physically) and my head (mentally).

Amy is a pro. She’s non-judgmental. She’s confidential. And — this may be most remarkable of all — she hauls most of the stuff away, fitting whatever she can into her SUV for distribution to Goodwill or the dump.

Amy van Arsdale gets set to make a dump-and-Goodwill run for me.

She even brings bins. This woman is the real deal.

Amy’s services go beyond de-cluttering. She does estate dissolutions, and helps senior citizens downsize. (“Your kids don’t want it!” is another favorite mantra.)

She’s available too for “virtual organization”: telephone consultations, or video chats via Skype and FaceTime.

I’m glad we got together in real time though. Amy was fast, efficient — and fun.

I’m enjoying my un-cluttered closet. I’m ready for the next round.

And I don’t miss all those old Christmas cards, my notebooks from college, or that VHS cassette telling me how to use my Kaypro computer at all.

(For more information on Amy van Arsdale’s Cleared Spaces, click here.) 

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This morning’s sunrise at Old Mil Beach (Photo/Matt Murray)

[UPDATE] The Next Big Thing In Education: Regionalization?

NOTE: The story below has been edited to reflect that Senator Looney’s bill refers to municipalities with fewer than 40,000 residents — not “40,000 students.”

Westport’s education leaders are experienced at multi-tasking.

That’s good. They’ll need those skills in the coming months.

Besides figuring out next steps for Coleytown Middle School, and grappling with next year’s budget, there’s a new issue coming down the pike: a bill in the Connecticut State Senate to regionalize school systems.

The proposal — SB 454, introduced by Senate President pro tempore Martin Looney, a Democrat representing New Haven, North Haven and Hamden — would combine state school districts with fewer than 40,000 students residents into regional ones.

Looney says the bill would “create a more efficient educational system.” In addition to schools, regionalization would include boards of education and central office staffs.

A different bill — filed by Senate Majority Leader Bob Duff, a Democrat from Norwalk — would require only those districts with fewer than 2,000 students to regionalize. Governor Ned Lamont supports that proposal.

Westport has approximately 5,692 students. Weston has around 2,399. Neither would be affected by Duff’s legislation.

“I have a ton of respect for Senator Looney,” says State Senator Will Haskell. “I understand where he’s coming from. There’s unbelievable inequality in Connecticut education.”

The 1st-term legislator adds, “I was so lucky to go to Staples High School. I had the highest quality teachers, smartboards in every classroom, the amazing Staples Players program after school.

“Fifteen minutes away, they don’t have all that. Students fall behind. Equal opportunity is important.”

Staples High School — well funded by Westport taxpayers, and supported by a strong school district — offers opportunities that many other schools and districts do not.

But, he says, Looney’s bill is “the wrong approach to that problem.” If that legislation passes, Haskell foresees “mammoth districts, increased bureaucracy, and students traveling far from home for school.”

The state senator prefers to focus on ideas like reforming the cost-sharing formula for state aid, “to make sure students with the highest needs are getting state dollars.

“We need to find greater efficiencies to save tax dollars and improve the quality of education. But we have to do it with the participation and consent of the towns.”

Looney’s proposal has sparked quite a debate. Haskell has heard from hundreds of constituents. He will bring the concerns — of parents, teachers and students — to the Democratic caucus.

“We’re a big tent party,” Haskell says. “I work well with Senator Looney. But we disagree on this. There are other ways to reform education that don’t involve creating massive school districts.”

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Golden light at Compo Cove (Photo/Patricia McMahon)

TEAM Westport Teen Essay Contest Targets Micro-Aggressions

You might not see it in Westport. But the US is fast moving toward becoming a “minority majority” nation. The Census Bureau says that Americans identifying as “white” only will be in the minority by 2042. Since 2014, most students in this country are part of the formerly minority “of color.”

Meanwhile, the number of racial, religious, ethnic and gender identity bias incidents is increasing.

That’s the background for this year’s TEAM Westport Teen Essay Contest. The town’s diversity committee — in conjunction with the Westport Library — asks students to explore the concept of micro-aggressions towards marginalized groups.

This prompt says:

As defined by Derald Wing Sue,micro-aggressions are “the everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults — whether intentional or unintentional — that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their membership in marginalized groups.” 

 For example, an African American is told, “When I look at you, I don’t see color.” An Asian-American — born and raised in this country – is told, “You speak very good English.” A person of color accepted at an Ivy League school is told, “You must be grateful for affirmative action.” 

In 1000 words or fewer, describe your experiences witnessing, delivering, and/or receiving micro-aggressions focused on race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation and/or gender identity, and describe the likely impact that such statements have upon the recipients. Consider steps that you believe organizations, schools, and/or individuals could take to greatly reduce or eliminate such behavior. In particular, what can students do to address incidents of micro-aggressions when they occur — whether as initiator, recipient or witness?

The contest is open to students in grades 9 through 12 who attend Staples High or another school in Westport, or reside in Westport and attend school elsewhere.

 

Applications and more information about the contest are available here. Essays are due February 28. Winners will be announced at the Saugatuck Church on April 3. Subject to the volume and caliber of entries received, and the discretion of the judges, up to 3 prizes will be awarded: $1,000 (first place), $750 (second) and $500 (third).

Individuals or organizations who would like to help sponsor the contest can contribute via the website, or by emailing info@teamwestport.org.

Fortunately, Westporters Can Get Flood Insurance Discount

Floods are a fact of life in Westport.

Fortunately, homeowners in certain areas can buy flood insurance.

Unfortunately, it’s expensive.

Fortunately, FEMA — the Federal Emergency Management Agency — offers discounts. They’re based on rankings of each community. #1 offers the highest reduction; #10 the least.

Unfortunately, Westport is #8.

Fortunately — thanks to efforts implemented by the Planning & Zoning Commission — that’s up from #10.

The high water mark on an “06880” reader’s garage is very high. This was last October.

Fortunately too, the Westport Progress Report on Floodplain Management is available online. It enables residents to receive a 10% reduction on their flood insurance.

Unfortunately, the report itself is not available online. You’ll click on the town website, and see that the online document merely tells you the next step to complete to receive the information.

Fortunately, I’ve cut and pasted the relevant information:

A copy of the CT South Western Regional Natural Hazard Mitigation Plan (2016) is available either in person at the Westport Planning and Zoning Office (Town Hall, Room 203), or by clicking here.

Unfortunately, the link above does not bring you where you want to be. I think this is the relevant document: https://westcog.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/HMP-2016-WestCOG-South-Plan.pdf

Fortunately, there are no floods in the immediate forecast.

Mark And Tanya’s Excellent Caribbean Adventure

Both Mark LaClair and his wife Tanya grew up in Rowayton. He started sailing at age 8. They water skied, camped and played on Sheffield Island, fished, lobstered, and drove their boats as far as they were allowed.

They got married, and vacationed by chartering sailboats with friends. The couple tried living in Weston and New Canaan. But, he laughs, those towns were too far from the water.

In 1998 they moved into a little cottage on Compo Beach’s Fairfield Avenue. Instantly, Mark says, “it felt right.”

They asked their landlord to eventually sell to them, but he was reluctant. So the couple — he’s a builder, she’s in real estate — decided to throw most of their savings into buying a boat. They planned to spend 2 years sailing around the world.

Five months after their purchase — while preparing for their great adventures — their landlord said he would sell the house to them, after all.

Mark and Tanya changed course. They put their journey on hold, and placed their newly acquired sailboat in a St. Lucia charter fleet.

Now — years later — Mark and Tanya own a catamaran. Named Pack ‘N’ Play, they call it their “Winnebago on the water.”

Mark and Tanya LaClair’s Pack ‘N’ Play.

He says, “We feel a boat offers the best perspective to any place we visit. Waking up at first light, sipping coffee, looking from the water onto an island we have only read about and knowing our family will soon be exploring — that’s priceless.”

That family now includes Tessa (age 12) and Bode (8). They’ve spent most of the last few summers exploring Block Island, Martha’s Vineyard, Nantucket and Cape Cod.

Mark and Tanya still fantasize about taking a year or two to explore the world. First though, they want to see how they feel after a few months of Caribbean cruising.

Which is how the family headed south from Westport during Christmas vacation They’ll be gone through February break. Already they’ve visited Tortola, St. John, St. Bart’s, Saba, Nevis, Guadeloupe, Îsle de Saints, Martinique and St. Lucia.

Bode, Tanya, Mark and Tessa LaClair.

The adventure involves sailing, exploring — and home schooling. That latter piece is a challenge — and an excellent experience.

Most days go smoothly. “The amazing people the kids meet, and the places they’re learning about, has been a great education,” Mark says.

Having the children read about each island they visit, then write about and post what they learned on Instagram, is also part of their schooling. (You can follow them: Packnplay4).

But, the parents agree, teaching their own kids is not easy. If they do another trip longer than 2 months, they’ll recruit a teacher as crew to come along.

After studying a destination — including its history, geography and more — the family plans their day. Sometimes they visit museums or ruins. They use their dinghy and paddle boards to search for secluded snorkeling spots.

Snorkeling in the Caribbean.

They hike to rainforests and waterfalls, and trek a few miles into town for provisions from local markets (plus a taste of local restaurants).

But Mark and Tanya most enjoy the time with their kids. They connect as a family — and disconnect from electronics.

That’s how magical moments occur. One day, as they all sat on the bow on a passage from Guadeloupe, they sighted their first whale. It was just 20 yards away.

Tessa and Bode say they like meeting new people and seeing new places. They do miss their friends and teachers.

Meanwhile, the adventures continue. In Saba, they were the only cruising boat. The winds blew more than 30 knots, for 3 days. At night, winds screeched through the rigging while Pack ‘N’ Play rose up and down in a 16-foot swell.

But reaching the beach — then climbing the 800-step “ladder” hand-carved into rocks, so they could hike into town — was absolutely worth it.

Bode and Tessa on top of the Saba “ladder.” The LaClairs’ catamaran is moored in the distance.

Tessa and Bode’s independence has “blossomed” since Christmas, Mark says.

And they’ve taken over some responsibilities, like driving the dinghy, setting and hauling the anchor, and beginning to understand navigation.

“Hopefully, they’re getting an understanding of how a lot of people live and survive in different regions,” Mark adds.

In Martinique and Guadeloupe, the family stayed in fishing villages. They saw men running nets at first light 50 feet from the boat, fishing for their day’s pay; then pulling traps, prepping and selling their catch. Local fish, fruit and vegetable markets have helped the youngsters gain a feel for an island, and its residents.

It’s not a bit like Westport.

But Tessa and Bode will be back after February break. Their teachers better plan extra time for Show and Tell.

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Manhattan skyline, from Beachside Avenue (Photo/David Squires)

Photo Challenge #213

Maybe the lousy weather meant everyone was binge-watching Netflix or making fires. Maybe everyone was away for Martin Luther King Day weekend. Or maybe everyone who leaves Granola Bar is so excited about their granola bars that they don’t look around.

Those are some reasons I came up with to explain the dearth of responses — and, after more than 24 hours, only one correct one — to last week’s Photo Challenge. (Congrats, Jay Dirnberger!)

Elaine Marino’s image showed a mysterious crop circle-like scene, all green and gray. It sure looked like an aerial shot.

It wasn’t. It was the design in the median strip at Playhouse Square — you know, the one right outside Granola Bar.

Click here to see Elaine’s photo. Then get ready to click “Comments” to answer this week’s Challenge.

It should be easier than last week’s. At least, you have to look up instead of down.

(Photo/Amy Schneider)

Henry Wynne Won!

On Friday, “06880” previewed Henry Wynne’s attempt to break the world 4×1 mile relay. The former Staples High School and University of Virginia track star now runs for the  professional Brooks Beast track club.

The race was yesterday, in New York. Many Westporters were on hand to watch Wynne and his teammates not only beat, but absolutely demolish, the world mark. Peter Gambaccini — also a former Wrecker runner, now a noted track journalist — reports:

Westporter Henry Wynne and 3 Brooks Beast track club teammates traveled 3,000 miles and fulfilled their mission by shattering the world record for the 4×1 mile relay by almost 9 seconds on Saturday, clocking a 16:03.68 at the Dr. Norbert Sander Invitational at the Armory Track & Field Center in New York. The quartet broke the old record of 16:12.81 set 2 years ago by the Hoka One One NJ/NY Track Club.

“Winning this race and not getting the record wouldn’t have meant nearly as much,” said Wynne, who established a Connecticut high school mark of 4:05.04 for the mile while at Staples, and has since gotten down to 3:55.23 as a pro with the Seattle-based Brooks team. Wynne ran a 4:02 for the second leg of the relay and gave the Beasts a slight lead in what remained a tight race with the Hoka foursome, before anchorman Izaic Yorks pulled away to give his team a victory by more than 12 seconds.

An extremely animated Wynne bounced up and down on the track, shouting and gesticulating with his arms as he exhorted his last two teammates through  the efforts that gave Brooks the triumph and a world best time. At the end, there were plenty of hugs. Brooks Beast coach Danny Mackey’s observation that “Henry’s a team guy” seemed like an understatement.

Henry Wynne and his father, after the race. (Photo/Jeff Mitchel)

“This is just a starting point for what we want to accomplish,” said Wynne. Indeed, he and his 3 relay partners have all broken 4:00 for the mile, and Mackey had declared before the race that the foursome might go under 16:00. With the confidence Saturday’s race brings, that could well be achieved if the team returns to the Armory in 2020.

Wynne, who had a sizable and demonstrative personal cheering section on Saturday, attended the University of Virginia after his Staples years and was the NCAA Indoor mile champion in 2016. In his senior year, his athletic life was undone by a bout of pneumonia and knee surgery.

Mackey couldn’t really know what Wynne’s post-surgery prognosis would be, but was drawn to his personality and believed he’d be “a good fit” for the Brooks Beasts. “He gets the details. Right away, he bought into everyone on the team.”

In 2018, Wynne set career bests for 800 and 5000 meters and the mile. “I owe him a debt of gratitude,” he said of Mackey. “He believed in me when a lot of others didn’t.”

Healthy and again making progress, Henry Wynne can continue paying that debt with his next race: an individual mile at the University of Washington in Seattle in 2 weeks.