Category Archives: Teenagers

Another Shot At Addressing Teen Substance Use

Most Westport youths make “healthy choices” about drinking.

But students here drink at higher tates than in neighboring communities — both in high school, and in 7th grade. One in 14 7th graders reported drinking alcohol in the previous month — nearly twice the rate in Fairfield, 3 1/2 times higher than Darien, and 7 times the national average.

With statistics like those, the Westport Prevention Coalition has revitalized its parent awareness campaign.

Liquor Stickers are part of an outreach effort with the Aspetuck Health District. In partnership with local liquor stores, the campaign provides parents with information cards, and stickers to seal open, unfinished bottles of liquor.

Liquor Stickers.

The goal is to increase parents’ awareness that most teeangers get alcohol from their own home, or a friend’s house.  And the most common places where they drink are at parties, and in homes.

The Westport Youth Survey found that 54% of Westport students who drink get their alcohol from their parents — with permission.

Liquor Sticker cards emphasize the role of parents – and highlight Connecticut’s “Social Host Law.”

The law holds adults responsible for any underage alcohol or cannabis use that occurs on their property. The penalty is up to $2,000 per minor.

Liquor Stickers are available at 99 Bottles, BevMax, Black Bear, Castle Wine & Spirits, Dan’s Liquors, International Discount Wine & Spirits, Greens Farms Spirits, Kindred Spirits & Wine, The Grapevine, and Westport Wine & Spirits.

Westport stores have joined in the Liquor Stickers campaign.

In addition, Westport Together — a partnership between the schools, Human Services, police and Positive Directions — has arranged 4 educational events. They focus not just on alcohol use, but other substances, and mental health in general.

They include:

  • Suicide Prevention Training (March 28, noon, Positive Directions, 90 Post Road West)
  • Westport’s Relationship with Alcohol (April 7, 7 p.m.; community discussion at Toquet Hall)
  • Overdose Awareness and Free Narcan Givbeaway (April 9, 7 p.m., Town Hall)
  • Teen Awareness Group’s Get Real Day, including evening parent program (May 7-8, Staples High School).

For more information, email Margaret Watt (mwatt@positivedirections.org) or Kevin Godburn (kdgoburn@westportct.gov), co-chairs of the Westport Prevention Coalition.

Meanwhile — addressing another substance — several days ago elected officials, school administrators, community leaders, law enforcement chiefs and others from Westport, Weston, Wilton, Norwalk and New Canaan met at Westport Town Hall.

They announced the launch of a new Mid-Fairifeld Youth Cannabis Prevention Project.

It’s one of 10 pilot programs in Connecticut, using cannabix tax revenues. The grant from the Department of Mental Health & Addiction Services is $57,000.

Aimed at addressing underage cannabis use, it will fund a coordinated awareness campaign aimed primarily at parents, using social media and streaming media; create and train a regional youth team to provide peer education, and disseminate information and resources, including cannabis lock bags, among other initiatives.

Westport has no recreational cannabis dispensaries; the closest is in Norwalk. There is one medical marijuana dispensary here.

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Amanda Kloots’ Heart-Warming Chili Experience

A few weeks ago, Westporter Kristen Glosserman spotted an Instagram post that warmed her heart.

It was from Amanda Kloots, the noted actress, dancer, fitness entrepreneur and TV personality.

Her journey through grief has resonated with many. She lost her husband, Broadway actor Nick Cordero, to COVID in 2020, when their son was 1 year old.

But her post that day wasn’t just about grief. She wrote about chili — and about showing up for the people you love.

Kristen and her husband, Marc Glosserman, own Hill Country BBQ in New York City and Washington. They know a thing or two about slow-cooked meat.

Kristen and Marc Glosserman, at Hill Country.

Kristen also knows a thing or two about grief. When she was 13, her brother died in a ski accident.

Kristen messaged Amanda on Instagram. She then contacted fellow Westporter Sara Deren.

Sara and her husband Jon founded Experience Camps. Headquartered right here in town, the organization runs summer camps for children grieving the death of a parent or sibling.

Experience Camps has grown from 1 site and 27 youngsters in 2009, to a network of 7 camps nationwide. Each summer, hundreds of volunteers serve nearly 1,000 boys and girls ages 8 to 18.

Experience Camps also runs Grief Sucks, a digital platform for grieving teens, and Grief Quest, a  virtual scavenger hunt that teaches kids how to support grieving people.

The timing was perfect. National Chili Day was coming soon: Thursday, February 27.

Two days ago, Amanda Kloots served bowls of chili at Hill Country BBQ on West 26th Street. She drew a large crowd.

And the restaurant is donating every dollar from those sales to Experience Camps.

How’s that for a heart-warming tale?!

After Amanda Kloots served chili at Hill Country …

… she posed with (from left) Kristen Glosserman and Sara Deren. (Photo/Jonathan Terrio)

That 2032 Asteroid? Serena Diamond Says: “Don’t Worry!”

As freshmen, many Staples High School students try to find their passion.

Sports, arts, writing, community service … 9th graders give them a shot.

Serena Diamond already knows hers.

For over a year she’s recorded data of asteroid occultations, and sent it to NASA.

An asteroid occultation, as you remember from astronomy class, occurs when an asteroid passes between a star and Earth. Light is temporarily blocked, casting a shadow on our planet. 

Asteroid occultations enable scientists to determine the size, shape and position of an atsteroid far more precisely than with standard astronomical observations.

The data is especially valuable for space missions involving asteroids — and to warn us of any doomsday scenarios.

Serena Diamond and Joel Barlow High School senior Monica Charnoy, observing an asteroid occultation.

Serena became interested in astronomy years ago, at Long Lots Elementary and Bedford Middle Schools.

The summer after 7th grade, she joined an astrophysics program through the Center for Talented Youth.

Back here — with her interest sparked — she searched for more resources.

She found the Westport Astronomical Society. Housed at the Westport Observatory — the former launch site for Nike missiles on Bayberry Lane — it celebrates its 50th anniversary this year.

Westport Observatory, on Bayberry Lane.

The Observatory has become Serena’s home away from home. Odds are high that in its half century of existence, it’s never been home to a freshman girl who observes asteroid occultations.

Serena’s data is analyzed far beyond Westport. NASA’s Jet Propulsion Laboratory uses it for a variety of purposes, including assessing risks from potentially hazardous asteroids.

Serena has been inspired by several WAS members, including board members Dan Wright and Dr. Kevin Green, who spearheads the asteroid occultations project.

She started by learning how to open the dome and run the telescope.

Soon, she and a group of fellow young astronomers — including Staples sophomore Jessica Willis — gathered at 3 a.m., to catch the exact moment an asteroid cast its shadow.

Last month Serena joined Green, offering a presentation at the Observatory.

Serena Diamond’s presentation, at the Westport Astronomical Society.

The room was filled with adults — people who have been excited by astronomy far longer than the 14 years Serena has been alive.

Her co-presenters included a Joel Barlow High School senior, and a recent University of Connecticut graduate.

Serena lectured as if she were a Nobel Prize-winning professor. Clearly and confidently, she shared her insights. Audience members learned a lot.

Want to learn too? Click below, for  Serena’s lecture (and Green’s, and others’). She begins at the 22:40 mark.

Programs like that — and the opportunity to continue working with high-powered, like-minded astronomers of all ages — fuels Serena’s passion.

She looks forward to raising awareness about asteroid occultations, encouraging other young people to join her at the Westport Observatory, and keeping the planet safe from a random strike.

Serena thinka a lot about asteroids. The average person does not.

But most of us have heard about 2024 YR4 — the asteroid that has a teeny tiny (but nonetheless more than 0%) chance of striking Earth on December 22, 2032.

I could ask NASA, or ChatGPT, about the odds.

But I’d much rather go to a Westport source.

So I asked Serena Diamond.

“Thankfully, very low,” she said.

Whew!

(NOTE: Serena is not just an astronomer. In her spare time she is on the Staples math team, coaches the Bedford Middle School math team, serves as a 9th grade class officer, and sings in the Wreckeapellas. Whew indeed!)

(Hat tip: Anne Nesbitt)

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An illustration shows asteroid 2024 YR4 narrowly missing Earth and the moon. (Robert Lea, created with Canva, for Space.com.)

Staples Players Spell Success “Putnam County Bee”

When audiences fill the auditorium for a Staples Players production, they know they’ll be entertained by a cast of very talented teenagers.

Next month will be no different.

Except that the Players will be joined by men and women far past their teenage years, including 1st Selectwoman Jen Tooker, Police Chief Foti Koskinas, Staples principal Stafford Thomas, Wrecker boys basketball coach Dave Goldshore, Broadway star Kelli O’Hara, former State Senator Will Haskell, several popular teachers … and, um, “06880”‘s own founder and editor Dan Woog (aka me).

Four members of that quasi-illustrious cast will take the stage each night, in Players’ spring production: “The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.”

Anyone who saw the musical during its long Broadway run knows it is touching, sweet, and laugh-out-loud funny.

Who will win the 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee?

And, because the audience participates so directly, each show is different and unique.

Also unique: co-directors David Roth and Kerry Long’s selection of the comedy.

Traditionally, Players’ spring production has been big and showy. This year, they looked for something smaller and lighter.

They’d wanted to do a “Putnam Spelling Bee” — a great ensemble piece — for a while. In 2025, the timing was right.

Still, Players is a large organization. Roth and Long found a way to expand the show for a cast of 25.

Several cast members prepare for the show. (Photos/Kerry Long)

As expected, it’s been “super fun,” Long says. “Every day at rehearsal, I laugh at something new.”

The spontaneity of bringing spellers from the audience — and the improvisation that follows — is part of its charm.

Long admits, “it’s scary for us on stage.” Yet she and Roth are excited to see their actors rise to the challenge.

Also different from most Players’ productions: The actors play characters who are younger than themselves. Usually, their roles are older.

“The characters are larger than life,” Roth says. “They really embrace that.”

“The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee” is less than 2 hours long, including intermission.

The curtain rises Friday, March 7 at 7 p.m. Additional performances are Saturday, March 8 (2 and 7 p.m.), and Sunday, March 9 (2 p.m.). Click here for tickets, and more information.

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Staples Runner To Drivers: Slow Down!

Harrison Sydor is a junior at Staples High School.

As a member of the cross country and track teams, you may see him running on Westport roads.

He sure sees you.

He emailed  “06880” about an issue that, he says, has “bugged me and my friends for the last few months.” Harrison writes:

Traffic laws state that pedestrians should always be on the left side of the road. That is something we as a team adhere to most of the time, except for rare occasions where the shoulder is bigger, or we are shortly turning onto a street on the right hand side.

Lately, I have noticed that cars much less frequently give us space on the roads.

When there is oncoming traffic, it is much easier to slow down and safely pass us, instead of rushing through and threading the needle between the car on one side and the group of runners on the other. We have had crashes in the past.

Harrison Sydor (right), at an indoor track meet. Even in winter, Staples runners take to the roads.

On major roads we are 2 wide. One runner will jut slightly into the road, but not by a significant amount.

It is equally as important for the driver as it is the runner to pay attention and be courteous.

Recently, we have worked to make ourselves less of a hazard on the road to drivers. We would appreciate it if Westport drivers could make the same effort to use our roads properly and efficiently.

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Sail On, Young Sailors!

It’s mid-February — Valentine’s and Presidents Day season.

Which makes it the perfect time to talk about … sailing.

Gina Lewis’ children have participated in local  programs for years. They’ve made friends up and down Long Island Sound.

As parents start to think about summer programs, Gina wants to spread the word about her kids’ sport. She writes:

There are a million reasons Westport is special, but one of the most extraordinary is our incredible access to the coastline — and with it, the sport of sailing.

From first tacking at Longshore Sailing School to competing at a championship level at Cedar Point and Pequot Yacht Clubs, Westport youngsters have an unparalleled opportunity to embrace a sport that builds life skills, confidence, and lifelong friendships.

Fun …

Longshore has been a rite of passage for generations. It’s the perfect introduction to sailing, where countless kids have learned to read the wind, navigate the water, and fall in love with the sport.

But many families don’t realize that once their young sailors are ready for the next level, both Cedar Point and Pequot Yacht Clubs offer incredible junior sailing programs.

You don’t have to be a member to learn to sail. Their programs are open to non-members.

Starting in Optimists — small single handed boats, led by high school and college sailors — kids learn the basics of sailing and navigation. For a few hours every morning they are taught to rig sails, understand the wind and handle a boat out on the water.

The pride and independence they develop is amazing to see, when they bring their parents along for the annual sunset sail.

… independence …

Once kids grow out of Optimists, they have a choice to sail a Laser (single- handed), or partner with a friend to sail a Feva or a C420.

These boats are more complex and faster, allowing young sailors s to continue to grow throughout their teenage years.

… a group lesson …

In the summer, young sailors participate in Junior Sailing Association of Long Island races. They meet and race against peers from Larchmont to Milford, and across the Sound to Oyster Bay and Centerport.

At Staples High School, sailing team members race C420s in the fall (club season) and spring (varsity season).

The team practices at Pequot, and sails in regattas against local high school once a week. (Their Instagram is @staples.sailing.)

… catching the wind …

Our kids enjoy their summer program so much, they now sail year-round with a local team.  Sailing has  introduced them to people and places from all over the country. They have been fortunate enough to experience amazing places and cultures through sailing.

Pequot Yacht Club’s junior sailing registration is now open. The season kicks off June 16.

Both Pequot and Cedar Point boast superb coaching staffs, and an environment where older sailors mentor and guide the next generation. That’s a testament to the camaraderie and character-building the sport fosters.

Westport’s coastline is unmatched. But it’s the access to sailing — and the friendships, skills, and memories it cultivates — that make it even more special.

… and they’re off!

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[OPINION] AI Snags Innocent Student; Policy Needs Work

Carly Waldman is a junior at Staples High School. She is a varsity swimmer, and has lived in Westport since she was 8 years old. She writes:

I’ve always been a good student and kid. I’ve never gone to the principal’s office; I don’t sit in the bathroom and vape; I work hard and complete my assignments on time.

As much as I sometimes want to skip my AP social studies class, I show up every day with only minor grumblings. I take pride in my work, and was incredibly happy with the essay I wrote on hate speech I had just submitted for my class. That’s why it was shocking to me when, the week of midterms, my favorite teacher called me outside the room and accused me of cheating.

It had taken me 2 weeks of research, drafting, and revising to write this piece. When I finally turned it in, I felt quite accomplished. It was one of those moments when you know you did well, where you can almost picture the teacher nodding in approval as they read it. But that moment of confidence was short-lived.

Carly Waldman

My teacher stood before the class a week later, explaining that she had been reading essays that didn’t sound like students’ typical writing. Too many felt eerily polished, structured in a way that suggested a human didn’t write them. She said she was concerned — so concerned, in fact, that she had decided to have us all submit our essays to Turnitin.com, the AI detection website our school uses – although it shouldn’t. 

Turnitin.com has historically been used as an anti-plagiarism tool. The AI-detection piece has just started to be incorporated over the past few years in schools; it is imperfect and illegitimate. The site itself warns against using it to accuse students of AI-generating written work due to its fallibility. Yet, that was the sole basis of the accusation against me.

I didn’t hesitate submitting my essay to Turnitin when requested to do so, because I knew I had written the piece myself. A full month passed and I assumed everything had blown over — until 2 days before midterms when my teacher suddenly pulled me aside.

She looked upset as she told me my essay had been flagged due to Turnitin’s AI detection, that there was nothing I could say or do, and that she had already reported my name to the school as per mandated school policy.

I blinked, trying to process what she had just said. I wanted to show her my notes, drafts, and the hours of effort that had gone into my writing. But before I could say anything else, she shook her head.

I was told I would have to come in the following Monday – after 4 hours of midterm exams, and do an alternative, supervised written assignment – yet, in doing so I could only get my grade up to a 50%. If I didn’t do this, I would get a 0 on the essay I had worked on so hard.

She told me the only way I could fight this was to go through the appeals process. My stomach dropped. The appeal process. It sounded like a bureaucratic nightmare where I’d have to sit in front of a panel of teachers, defending my own work — a student on trial. The idea was infuriating. I wasn’t even allowed to explain myself before I was labeled guilty.

I left the class feeling like the ground had been pulled from under me. The stress of midterms was already suffocating, but now I had this added weight on my shoulders.

I called my parents for support, unclear about what to do and wanting to talk to them before they got notice from the school. My guidance counselor, someone I trusted, could only offer sympathy and a breakdown of the appeal process. 

But what I needed wasn’t sympathy — I needed justice. I needed someone to believe me.

The next day and a half was stressful and anxiety-inducing. Could this affect my entrance to college? Would one of my favorite classes and teachers forever think I was a cheater?

After the teacher called my parents, she agreed that she needed to bring my essay to the department head and take a second look, a human look, at the piece I wrote.

My name was quickly cleared when they determined I wrote it; even a personal story from 10th grade was flagged as “likely AI-generated.”

But that didn’t erase the unnecessary stress that the situation created. The teacher suggested my parents write to administration. The head of the department and the principal agreed to a meeting with my parents and me. However, I felt like I wanted to handle this by myself so I went to the conference on my own. (That was a little nerve-wracking!)

The worst part of all of this was the fact that no one could really explain how this had happened. When I met with the principal and the head of the department, they were polite but vague. They acknowledged the mistake but didn’t offer any real solutions.

If AI detection software is this flawed, why are we putting so much faith in it? Why are students being presumed guilty based on an algorithm’s judgment?

Situations like mine shouldn’t happen again. Schools need to approach these accusations with more care. Instead of immediately flagging students as cheaters, teachers should talk with the student, ask about their writing process, and consider the evidence beyond AI-detection software. Technology is not perfect, nor is the system that blindly trusts it.

I worked hard on my essay. I knew my own words. And yet, for a time, I was treated as if my voice didn’t belong to me.

That’s not how justice should work. That’s not how education should work. If schools want to encourage integrity and prioritize mental health, they should rethink their policies on Gen-AI accusations, because I doubt I’m the first or last person who has gone or will go through this awful process. 

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TEAM Westport Teen Essay Contest Explores “Identity”

TEAM Westport’s Teen Diversity Essay Contest has never shied away from important topics.

This year’s prompt is particularly important — and topical.

“Identity” is the topic of the 2025 contest, sponsored by the town’s multicultural organization.

The contest is open to students attending both public and private high school in Westport. Those who live in Westport and attend public or private high school elsewhere — or are home-schooled here — can also participate.

This year’s essay prompt says:

TEAM Westport is dedicated to addressing issues of bias and discrimination related to race, religion, ethnicity, and LGBTQIA+ identity that negatively impact our town’s goal of being a welcoming community for all who live and work here. The recent introduction of the Anti-Defamation League’s “No Place for Hate” initiative in Westport’s schools strives to create an environment where all students feel they belong and are free from bias, bullying, or hatred.

In our community, each person’s unique identity — shaped by their race, religion, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and other aspects of who they are — contributes to the character of Westport. In 1,000 words or less, we invite you to reflect on how your own identity shapes your perspective and the experiences you have in Westport. Please address the following considerations in your response:

  • Which aspects of your identity feel most central to how you wish to be understood and accepted?
  • How do aspects of your identity shape your daily school and community experiences, including both challenges and opportunities in expressing these parts of yourself?
  • What specific changes could our community make to decrease identity-based bias, bullying and hate?

The entry deadline for the essay contest is 11:59 pm on March 10.

The Westport Library co-sponsors the event. They’ll host the winners at a special ceremony on April 28.

The prompt and contest entry rules are available online at teamwestport.org.

Subject to the volume and caliber of entries received, at the discretion of the judges, up to 3 cash prizes will be awarded. The first prize is $1,000; second place is $750, while third is $500.

“Our community conversation to uncover ways to ensure that there is ‘No Place for Hate’ is ongoing,” says TEAM Westport Chair Harold Bailey Jr. “As we launch our 12th year of the Essay Contest, nothing could be more current than the issue of personal identity. We invite our young people to share their experiences around identity to help shape a world in which everyone belongs with mutual respect.”

First Selectwoman Jen Tooker adds, “This community encourages constructive, respectful dialogue.  As representatives of our talented and thoughtful population, the youth of Westport can be instrumental in sharing diverse ideas that ensure that everyone who lives, works, plays, and learns here feels welcomed and valued.”

Prior prompts have tackled topics from white privilege and Black Lives Matter to micro-aggressions and dialogue.

“We’re honored to co-sponsor and host the 2025 TEAM Westport Diversity Essay Contest,” says Westport Library executive director Bill Harmer.

“One of our goals as a Library is to foster inclusivity, understanding, and belonging, and to provide the tools for students learn and thrive. Personal identity is achieved through exploration and conversation, a product of introspection and community engagement — all core to the mission of the Library and representative of the remarkable students Westport engages.”

At the 2024 TEAM Westport Teen Essay Contest celebration (from left) First Selectwoman Jen Tooker, TEAM Westport chair Harold Bailey; winners Teya Ozgen, Sophia Lopez and Olivia Morgeson; Staples High School principal Stafford Thomas; Westport Library executive director Bill Harmer.

Dave Smith: Dads’ Survival Guide To Youth Sports

Dave Smith and his wife Jeanne have lived in Westport for over 15 years. Their 4 children played multiple sports, including football, basketball, lacrosse, baseball and volleyball.

Caleb (Staples High School Class of ’24) is at the University of Connecticut. Nathan, a Staples senior, will attend Trinity College. Chloe is a Staples sophomore, while Noah ooks forward to being a freshman there next fall.

From left: Nathan, Caleb, Dave, Noah, Chloe and Jeanne Smith. Caleb and Nathan starred on Staples’ 2024 state champion football team.

Dave played basketball and ran track at Trinity. He runs a leadership coaching practice.

For 5 years, he has published “Dads’ Survival Guide.” The weekly blog highlights parenting and marriage issues, with a perspective many Westport men can relate to.

This week, Dave — who coached his children on Westport Recreation, PAL and Little League teams — tackled a fraught topic: travel sports.

Calling it “a tangled and confusing web for any Dad to navigate,” he offers words of hard-earned wisdom for many Westporters. Dave writes:

The tension and stress on our kids during tryouts. The agonizing wait to hear. The disappointment of missing out. Or the joy of making a team.

Then, the commitment. To each game, practice, clinic and showcase. Year-round. An expectation from team coaches for families to rearrange their lives so players can attend everything.

And the cost! Oh, the cost! Participation fees. Off-season and pre-season workouts. Private coaching. Equipment. Uniforms. Gas. Hotels. Flights. A mind-bogglingly, expensive endeavor.

Yes, that’s travel sports. Which can make us Dads feel helpless. And hapless. Because once we get on the travel train, it seems impossible to get off. Peer pressure compels us to do it all.

Any Dad can struggle with travel sports. Even All-Pro NFLer Greg Olsen, who captured what many of us feel in a recent interview. “Everyone is fearful of our kids falling behind,” said Olsen. “It snowballs. Everyone else is doing it, so we’re just doing what they’re doing.”

Doing what everyone else is doing. Because we’re fearful of our little superstar falling behind. Yep, guilty, as charged.

In the Smith household, with multiple kids playing multiple travel sports, we’ve stumbled and bumbled our way for years. Missteps. Miscalculations. Mistakes. And wasted $$$.

But, what did we know? Nothing. And with advice coming from every angle, we were bewildered about who to believe. Or which paths to take.

Fortunately, none of our blunders were prohibitive. Or fatal. And now, with our brood playing multiple sports in high school and college, we have gained some perspective. Hindsight. Perhaps, too late for us. But maybe, helpful for others.

Here’s my 2 cents – for what it’s worth.

Specialization: 10,000 hours. Focus, focus, focus. We were told countless times the only way to play sports at the highest levels was by specializing. In a single sport. And a specific position. From a young age.

Baloney. There are countless athletes playing multiple sports in high school. Truth is, for many kids specialization is the wrong route.

With no participation requirement in high school sports, specialization narrows possibilities. In basketball, there are 5 on the court. Maybe 8 in the rotation. Chosen across 3 classes (soph, junior, senior). Only 9 on a baseball diamond. These limited play possibilities may alter one’s youth sports calculus.

Oftentimes, specialization leads to injuries from overuse. Working the same muscles again and again, year-round. TEENS having Tommy John surgery! Crazy And, kids burnout. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally. One day our tiny protégé loves a sport. The next, they’re done with it.

Personally, I’m a huge proponent of remaining multi-sport athletes as long as possible.

Nearly 57 percent of Tommy John surgeries are performed on 15-19-year-old baseball players.

Success Factors: In my experience, the attributes high school coaches value in players is entirely different from those youth coaches prefer.

High school coaches want unselfish, team-first players, who listen and learn. Mastering the fundamentals of DEFENSE and footwork are essential. Players must watch film and know the playbook. Coaches look for character in their players. Those with resolve and tenacity, an ability to fight thru adversity.

Fact is, size, strength or athletic advantages in youth play may not translate to success at the next level. Conversely, there are plenty of prolific high school athletes who were not standouts in youth sports.

Team Wins over Individual Development: Travel coaches – the professionals – focus on team success to help promote their Travel program. There is limited focus on individual skill development during a travel season. Teaching our kids the basics of how to pitch properly, swing a bat or shoot a basketball is on us Dads. Either by ourselves or with a private coach. This was a big surprise for me.

Alternative Sports: Youth programs center around a small subset of sports. With so many kids fighting for so few high school slots, the competition in these sports is intense.

However, there are plenty of high school sports for boys and girls which don’t get much fanfare but can be equally as enriching. Cross-country. Volleyball. Rugby. Hockey. Wrestling. Skiing. Swimming. Diving. Water polo. Fencing. Golf. Tennis. Squash. Cheerleading. Crew. Track and Field. Loads of options for our kids to play through high school. And perhaps, beyond.

After Staples, Terry Brannigan went on to a very successful wrestling career at Wesleyan University.

Best Fit: As we ponder the intense commitment and $$$ of travel sports, we should start by considering each child’s strengths, natural talents, and personality.

Do they prefer individual sports, relying on their own performance vs. being part of a team? Are they repeat-motion kids; meticulous and disciplined enough to do one thing over and over again (pitching, rowing or field goal kicking)? Do they have strong hand-eye coordination (hitting a baseball, tennis or catching a football)?

Are they high endurance athletes (running, biking)? Capable of hustling up and down the field endlessly (midfielders)? Or are they best suited for shorts bursts of intense effort (sprints, shot put, wrestling)? Would our kids thrive in high profile, pressure positions (QB, goalie, gymnast)? Or prefer operating in the background (lineman, outfield, defender)?

Finding sports and positions which match our kids’ nature helps build confidence from an early age. While developing a passion to improve.

Travel sports can be a terrific way for our kids to pursue what they love. And compete at a high level. Yet, travel sports can be confusing. Especially for Dads. Thinking about the down-the-road realities can help make the travel sports experience even greater for our kids. And better for us Dads, too.

Go, Dads. Go.

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