Monthly Archives: September 2009

Homecoming Horror

Staples’ Homecoming last Saturday had everything:  Perfect fall weather.  A one-sided victory by the football team.   Several students hauled off to the hospital, after way too much pre-game alcohol.

Principal John Dodig reacted swiftly.  Yesterday he sent a strong but objective letter to parents.  It read:

Homecoming weekend has come and gone.  The 4 days of Spirit Week went very well, ending with a rousing pep rally out in the brilliant sunlight.  As principal of a school of 1,800 students, I could not have asked for a better Homecoming experience leading up to the game on Saturday.

Each year, planning for this event is a calculated risk.  Should we provide an escape valve for pent-up excitement and energy, even encouraging it with a pep rally, or avoid the possibility of mayhem by abandoning the experience altogether?  The answer we’ve come to is that it is part of the American high school experience, and at Staples can be done safely.  It helps build Staples spirit.

Saturday was Homecoming day.  Most of our teams were successful over the weekend and our football team had to restrain itself to keep an astounding lead from becoming too wide.  Coach P and our boys did a great job, and I’m proud of them.

Here is the problem, and the reason I am writing to you.  Many of our students have learned very well the lessons they see on television each week when watching college and professional sports or when attending college and professional sporting events.  It all begins with partying in the morning so they can have a good time.

Teenagers are bombarded with media messages extolling drinking

Teenagers are bombarded with media messages extolling drinking

Every one of us who has attended a game at Yankee or Giants Stadium, Yale Bowl or any other large venue knows that drinking is out of control. I’m old and wise enough to be able to say that it has become an established part of our culture not easily erased.  I’m not about to attempt that task.

On the other hand, I am the principal of Staples High School and charged with providing a safe place for your children to learn, socialize, and mature. When I know, with confidence, that drinking among a LARGE number of students WILL take place at the Homecoming Day game, why should I continue to support it?  Has the whole idea of Homecoming become nothing more than an excuse to drink and behave badly?

Sending several girls to the hospital for being intoxicated and endangering their lives is serious business.  We will start planning for Homecoming well before the event next year.  In the meantime, however, I need your support, help, and input.

What's a game without a cold one?

What's a game without a cold one?

It was truly unfortunate that we administrators had to make calls to parents to either pick up their children at Norwalk Hospital or come to the school to bring them home. There were MANY more who had been drinking but who were not caught because they didn’t pass out or vomit.  A walk into the stands left NO doubt that lots of alcohol had been consumed before the game (drinking in the morning?).  There was little or nothing we could do at that point without causing a riot.

But there are questions I have to ask before we decide whether or not to repeat this event next year.  Here are a few: 

1) Can parents do more to monitor what their children are doing before the game?

2) Should we breathalyze each student we suspect has been drinking?

3) Should we simply accept that drinking will take place, ignore it, and simply tend to the sick?

4) Should we have seniors sign the same contract they sign before prom but use it to cover ALL school events and have underclassmen sign a similar contract with different consequences?

I look forward to hearing from you about this matter.  I will bring it up as a topic of discussion at our PTA Coffees this year.  I will speak to students about this matter.  I will consult with teachers and administrators about their feelings.

The bottom line is, as you’ve heard me say many times, that we want students to like Staples. We want them to have occasional fun and let their hair down.  We can’t ignore, however, that portions of Homecoming have evolved into something very negative and potentially dangerous to our students.  That is the part I cannot ignore or accept. Let’s make something positive out of a very negative experience.

Dodig has received over 100 emails so far — nearly all of them positive and supportive.  Suggestions range from canceling Homecoming altogether, to using a breathalyzer, to raising townwide awareness. 

“The next few PTA coffees should be interesting,” he notes.

Dodig welcomes more feedback, in the form of a community-wide conversation.  Click the “Comments” link at the top or bottom of this post to add your view.

Westport’s Paranormal Activity

“Paranormal Activity” makes “Blair Witch Project” look like a blockbuster Hollywood production.

The uber-low budget film — it cost $11,000, which usually covers donuts for 1 morning of filming — debuted last week to frenzied anticipation in select small theaters around the country.  Viewers were eager to see the indie offering that EW.com’s Hollywood Insider called a “fright flick that fanatics have been foaming at the mouth to see since its storied debut at the January 2008 Slamdance festival.”

The local link:  “Paranormal Activity” stars Micah Sloat, a Westporter who while at Staples was not a member of the famed Players acting troupe.

But now he plays the male half of a San Diego couple terrorized by things that go bump in the night.  At a recent Toronto screening, EW says, “a packed audience gasped and screamed.”

The marketing campaign for “Paranormal” is a 2009 version of “Blair Witch Project.”  Midnight screenings on college campuses will lead — the film’s backers hope — to blog, Facebook and Twitter posts, creating an underground viral buzz that will carry the film to world mega-hit status.

Or at least earn back its $11,000 budget.

(To see the “Paranormal Activity” trailer, click here.)

Micah Sloat (left), actress Katie Featherston and writer/director Oren Pell pose at the Slamdance Fillm Festival in Utah.

Micah Sloat (left), actress Katie Featherston and writer/director Oren Pell pose at the Slamdance Fillm Festival in Utah.

A Special Scavenger Hunt

Youth Commission members meet at Toquet Hall, following the recent scavenger hunt.

Youth Commission members meet at Toquet Hall, following the recent scavenger hunt.

Upon this site our garbage once sat, and with a river view at that!

One of only 2 left in town.  This one is the busiest, with little parking to be found.

A work of art that many pass, not in a museum or behind glass.  Near some stores but has no price, a portrait of a town that’s nice.

Maya Angelou it’s not — or even Dr. Seuss — but poetry isn’t the main point.  The clues above were part of the Youth Commission’s recent 1st meeting of the fall.

Instead of the usual orientation and board meeting, Elaine Daignault and Kevin Godburn created a photo scavenger hunt.  The 5 teams — each half adults, half youth — had clear instructions:  Solve the riddles, find the location in downtown Westport, and photograph it.

Each team approached the challenge differently.  One solved every clue first, then took photos — but darkness fell, and their pictures were hard to see.

Others split up and attempted to solve the puzzle in smaller groups.  They ran into each other often, on their way to taking photos.

Some groups divided themselves geographically, while one photographed home-made signs, rather than actually finding each location.

Adults — especially those in town a long time — had an advantage, but teenagers enjoyed interacting with them, while learning about the town.

A few clues stumped everyone:  those leading to “historic plaques,” the actual location of the Westport Community Theater (in the basement of Town Hall), a former firehouse (either the YMCA or Waterworks on Wilton Road), and the only octagonal-roof barn in Connecticut (Westport Historical Society).

The winners?  “Everyone,” Elaine — Youth Services coordinator –said.  “Youth and adults worked together, much like they do throughout the  year, by coming to the table as equals and listening to each other to get the job done.

“They got to know someone they probably wouldn’t have, had they only sat across the table from each other at a monthly meeting. 

“It was not meant to be a competition, but a lesson in how various groups might work together to reach the same goal.  The Youth Commission is a special group of people, and each year I’m excited to see how the youth and adults approach issues that affect kids and families in town.”

(PS:  Here are the answers to the clues above:  Library; Post Office; tunnel from Main Street to the Parker Harding lot.)

 

The DL On JPs

There are no qualifications for being named a Justice of the Peace.  Nor do you have to pay a fee to become a JP.

It’s the perfect job, laughs Saul Haffner.

The retired Westporter should know.  He’s a JP himself — and perhaps the country’s foremost expert on that unique position.

“In the beginning of time,” Saul says — back when he worked for the Congregation of Humanistic Judaism, not 1362 (the first time time “Justice of the Peace” appeared in English law) — he fielded calls from couples looking for rabbis to perform interfaith weddings.  They were hard to find — so Saul vowed that when he retired, he would become a JP and do those ceremonies.

Fun fact:  Every Connecticut town is allocated a certain number of JPs, based on the number of registered voters.  Westport has 60 — equally divided between Democrats, Republicans and independents.

After becoming a Justice of the Peace in 2001, Saul wondered how anyone would find him.  He looked around for a national JP organization.  There was none.  So he and his wife formed one. 

Their website — JPUS.org – is now the go-to source for JPs around the country.  The site  offers a registry (JPs can include their political affiliation, ethnicity, religion and languages spoken); resources and guides for personalizing weddings; an interactive forum (with topics like “code of ethics,” “same-sex ceremonies” and “how the economy is affecting the JP business”), and discounts on JP merchandise (certificates, embossing seals, chuppas, etc.).

Saul Haffner (left) and a newly married couple on Compo Beach

Saul Haffner (left) and a newly married couple on Compo Beach

Saul performs 10 or so weddings a year.  That’s low, he admits.  But the JP does not want to compete with members of his own JP association.

Saul’s motto is “Your wedding, your way.”  He’s married couples on motorcycles, on a boat that sailed into the sunset (Saul returned to shore via rowboat), and in Scottish clothing (the bride and groom gave Saul a kilt). 

“Weddings are such a happy occasion,” he says.  “I come away from each one on a real high.”

Not bad for a job with no requirements, no entry fees, and no experience needed.

Planting Pasacreta Park

Quick:  Where is Pasacreta Park?

It’s the tiny plot on the Saugatuck River, across from Saugatuck Elementary School.  Most Westporters know it only as a spot for fishermen, or the place where ducks gather before waddling across Riverside Avenue.

It could be a town gem — an oasis worthy of its namesake.  (Captain Eugene Pasacreta, a revered member of the Westport Police force, was 50 years old when he died in 1976.)

Next month, Pasacreta Park gets a long-overdue facelift.

The memorial honoring Captain Eugene Pasacreta looks shabby.  It will be refurbished during the CNLA makeover.  (Photo by Silvia F. Erskine Associates)

The memorial honoring Captain Eugene Pasacreta looks shabby. It will be refurbished during the CNLA makeover. (Photo by Silvia F. Erskine Associates)

On October 7, 20 members of the Connecticut Nursery and Landscape Association will descend on the park.  They’ll plant 13 small trees, 150 shrubs and 1500 grass and flower plugs, while opening up obstructed river views.

CNLA nurseries are donating all of the plant material, with CNLA members providing free labor.  It’s all part of their annual PlantConnecticut program — a gift to the state.

Every year since 1950, the CNLA picks a different site for their complimentary planting and landscaping.  This year’s project comes thanks to the work of Wendy Crowther.

A longtime advocate for improving local parks, she discovered CNLA’s initiative by chance.  As a member of Westport’s Parks and Recreation Commission, Wendy knew that other priorities have prevented the town from allocating money for park improvements.  Her proposal to CNLA hit paydirt.

Tony Palmer is CNLA’s Westport representative.  He will help coordinate efforts with Parks & Rec, to pull off the 1-day planting blitz.

When it’s done, Westporters will have a fresh view of the river.  Fishermen will have a nicer spot to cast for stripers and blues.

And our ducks will have a new spring in their waddle.

Sherwood Diner To Close

For over 3 decades, the only time the Sherwood Diner closed was Christmas.  The door would be locked, the parking lot empty — and everyone remarked how weird that was to see.

Starting October 4, those days — well, those nights — are gone forever.

The diner will now be 24/7 on Fridays and Saturdays only.  Weeknights, they’ll close between 1:30 and 6 a.m.  On Sundays they’ll lock up at midnight.

Though the place still packs ‘em in all weekend long — Staples students, Cedar Brook Cafe goers and everyone in between — late night/early morning weekdays have turned lifeless.  Westporters’ choices for pre-dawn munchies now dwindle to a couple of gas station mini-marts — no comparison at all.

“It’s a sign of the times,” a Sherwood waitress said, referring not to the sign itself but to the cause.

She’s right.  But is it a sign of the economy?  Of a further deadening of Westport night life?

Or both?

Sherwood Diner

Saugatuck Cup: Make A ‘Reel’ Difference

Three years ago, James Spengler was diagnosed with a little-known tumor disease, and a rare form of cancer.  He was 2 years old.

Today James is a thriving little boy.  He loves fishing with his dad — Matt, a lifetime local resident, avid sportsman and devoted father.

To celebrate his son’s new lease on life — and help organizations like the Children’s Tumor Foundation and Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center– Matt has organized a fishing tournament.

Saugatuck CupThe first Saugatuck Cup takes place Saturday, October 3.  It’s a 1-day catch-and-release contest, with anglers using fly or spin rods to compete for bass, blues and false albacore in Long Island Sound.

The tournament — open to 30 boats — is presented in conjunction with Westport Outfitters.  Prominent figures in the sport, including fly-tying innovator Eric Peterson and striper expert Lou Tabory, will be there.

“Watching my son, and numerous children like him, fight for their lives has profoundly affected me,” Matt says.  “The Children’s Tumor Foundation and Sloan-Kettering not only saved my son’s life — they saved mine too.  This fishing tournament could be a good 1st step in raising awareness and giving back.”

(Visit Westport Outfitters at 609 Riverside Avenue, or click here for entry forms and more information.)

Watching Westport From Behind The Green Door

The September issue of Connecticut Magazine includes a long story on Marilyn Chambers.

Marilyn Chambers Most news coverage following her death in April has centered on her intriguing transition from Ivory Snow model to porn star.  Tom Connor’s piece focuses on her teenage years in Westport.

It’s always interesting to read someone else’s take on a story you know well.  I consider myself pretty knowledgeable on 1960s and ’70s Westport — like the young Marilyn Briggs, I grew up here then — so I was glad that Tom got most of the facts right.

What stopped me cold — and made me think — were the perspectives behind the facts.

According to Connecticut Magazine, the Westport of Marilyn’s and my youth was a “seductive mix of art and money, bohemianism and raw ambition.”

More than many places in the country, Tom wrote, Westport was “particularly tumultuous and libidinous….While towns such as Greenwich and New Canaan tilted toward conservative bankers, lawyers and financiers, Westport attracted those of a more liberal bent.”

Our artists’ colony cred was cemented in 1931, Connecticut Magazine said.  The Westport Country Playhouse opened then, “in effect posting a casting call to the entertainment crowd and furthering the town’s reputation for fabulous fun and fame.

Marilyn_Chambers “The ‘fast times’ mood still prevailed in the late 1960s,” the story continued, “when many Staples students were openly drinking — some were doing drugs in the bathrooms — and freely acting out their parts in the sexual revolution.”

And, according to Nile Rogers, a guitarist and music producer who grew up in Harlem and came to Westport in his late teens:  “I’d known what I thought were some pretty crazy girls in New York City.  But these were the wildest women I’d ever met.”

Whether Tom Connor’s portrayal of Westport is completely true, somewhat on target or completely off the mark is immaterial.  Perception is reality.  To thousands of readers across the state, Westport in the 1960s and ’70s is now forever fixed as a tumultuous, libidinous place filled with wild women, art, money, bohemianism and raw ambition.

Was it really that way?  Don’t ask me.  I was just a teenager. 

Besides, how could I remember?  It was the ’60s.

Where Have All The Flowering Trees Gone?

Yesterday afternoon in front of the new Fresh Market

Yesterday afternoon in front of the new Fresh Market

Last month, “06880″ praised the greening of the old Shaw’s parking lot.

Yesterday morning, the flowering cherry trees that stood between the lot and the Post Road were gone.  Only the stumps remained.  Several hours later, they vanished too.

Westporters wonder:  Why were the beautiful, mature trees removed?  Will they be replaced?  If so, by what?

An upscale store moves into Shaw’s next month.  Right now, the new Fresh Market is fronted by lots of dead space.

He Got The Job

Last week, “06880″ reported on David Lipson, the son of Staples’ choral director who was auditioning for a position as “hunky fitness expert” on WNBC-TV’s new LX lifestyle show.

The votes are in.  He got the job.

“06880″ claims a tiny bit of credit for helping deliver the votes that put David over the top.  We do not claim any credit for developing his washboard abs.

WNBC-TV's new fitness expert (right)

WNBC-TV's new fitness expert (right)