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Mental Health Matters, Age 50+: Layoffs, Empty Nests, Loneliness And More

May was Mental Health Awareness Month. But the topic is important 12 months a year.

In the latest installment of our “Mental Health Matters” series, Timothy Schmutte — a Westport resident, clinical psychologist and assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine — and his wife Elenee Argentinis focus on mental health issues faced by people age 50 and older.

Names and details have been modified, to protect privacy. Timothy and Elenee write:

About 1/4 of Westport’s population is over age 60.

According to a 2025 report on healthy aging in Connecticut, Westport was among the healthiest towns, with lower rates of various chronic illnesses and disabilities.

Additionally, more Westport seniors were employed in the last year (31%) than the state average for those aged 65+ years (22%).

Nonetheless, around 6% of Westport seniors have a substance use disorder. 27% live with significant anxiety; 29% with depression.

Despite being one of the wealthiest towns in the state, roughly 15% of Westport seniors live in poverty, or are considered low-income.

Modern medicine enables many people to live into their 80s and 90s. What does it mean that many people are living into late adulthood?

This phase of life has evolved into several distinct stages. During people’s 50s and 60s, many work and family changes occur.

Jobs and careers may conclude. Children may move out. Long-term marriages or committed relationships may end. Health concerns emerge.

For some people, mid- and later adulthood can be a rebirth. New vocations are discovered, new love interests are found, new friends are made.

Often though, these chapters begin with transitions that bring grief, loss, and fear of the unknown.

Therapy can help patients acknowledge and verbalize their loss or pain, and transition into healthy thoughts and actions. Cognitive behavioral techniques include challenging thinking errors about how life may never be as great as it once was. Acceptance and commitment therapy can help people identify what they can control, and move their lives forward.

Westport has a very active Senior Center — and groups like the Y’s Men (whose Hoot Owls, pictured above, sang there), offering activities for retired and semi-retired people. (Photo/Ted Horowitz)

I’ve worked with a few executives who are starting to feel burnout they’ve never felt before. Symptoms like sleeplessness, aggravation, excessive drinking or taking sedatives to sleep can be signs that it’s time to make a change. Sometimes parents struggle with their child’s pre-college academics, getting nervous about where their child will go and feeling sad that they will soon leave home.

Often in “mid-life” people can feel like they are being bombarded by several major changes at once. Their own parents can become ill, kids reach college age and careers end, all at once. The 50s can feel like a “when it rains, it pours” period of life.

As adults reach their 60s and 70s health issues can crop up. Social isolation can set in, as peers and family members die or move away.

Two memorable clients included a woman who developed anxiety while living alone that made her too fearful to leave her home and take public transportation. We used exposure therapy to get her back on the bus and back into life.

Another female client experienced rapid onset of an aggressive neuro-motor disease, and faced her own mortality in just a couple of years. She sought coping skills to take control of the parts of her life that she could, and do everything she could to feel a sense of control, like making end-of-life plans, and doing activities she had wanted to do with her family while she was still able.

The seventh decade and beyond can bring cognitive changes, including the risk of dementia and personality changes as the brain ages. Mobility may be reduced, with aging joints, pain and surgeries.

Sleep quality tends to decline with age as well, which can impair cognitive function and affect mood. In cases like these, I often work with social services providers to help people maintain independent living, or make decisions about where they can live their lives most fully as they age.

Older adult health can be more complex, as people develop multiple health conditions and may take several medications to treat them. Sometimes symptoms that appear to be mental health-related may be caused by an underlying medical condition, or be a side effect of an existing medication. We work closely with physicians to ferret this out.

The period of 30-40 years after age 50 is like living an entire second lifetime. It can be a phase of freedom, self-actualization and discovery, but it often comes with hardship. This life phase includes changes in family structure, work, social connections and health.

Each decade brings new challenges that we should all be aware of, for ourselves or as we watch aging grandparents, parents, and members of our community.

Spotting and acting on signs of struggle can alleviate unnecessary sufferingm and unlock new possibilities well into our later years.

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Mental Health Matters: Recognizing And Acting On Teen Concerns

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Each week, Timothy Schmutte — a Westport resident, clinical psychologist and assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine — and his wife Elenee Argentinis will address a different mental health issue that impacts Westporters.

This week, they focus on how to recognize situations when adolescents may need help. Names and details have been modified, to protect privacy. Timothy and Elenee write:

“Max” was a forward on the high school rugby team. A collision with another player caused a concussion, which took several weeks to resolve.

After being cleared by his doctor to return to playing, Max enjoyed practices. But the night before games he complained of an upset stomach, headache, or other symptoms to avoid playing. His symptoms “magically” disappeared when friends called to get together.

“Sarah” started sophomore year at a Westport private school. Most students already had established friendships. She found it hard to make connections. At her prior school she was a theater star, but now she did not get a leading role. Her grades were notably lower than at her prior school. When her parents asked about her day, she gave short responses like “fine” or “O.K.” She seemed withdrawn, and had secretly started cutting herself to deal with her suffering.

“Axel” had played baseball since age 7. He’d managed his ADHD successfully with medications, but high school brought new challenges. Several boys on the team smoked carts (vaping marijuana), which he used to fit in. Many had also gotten fake IDs, and used them at bars in Norwalk. High school was proving to be a big step up in academic demands. Axel found that vaping and drinking provided a convenient escape from the stress.

What’s common to these vignettes? Before high school, these teens were on successful paths. But high school and teen life came with new challenges, complexity, and adversity that they did not have the tools to cope with alone.

Being a teenager today is arguably harder than it’s ever been. Last week, we mentioned some key statistics worth repeating. The 2025 Connecticut School Health Survey found that in the previous 30 days, 21% of high schoolers reported that their mental health was “not good,” either always or most of the time. One- third of high school students reported feeling sad or hopeless almost daily for at least 2 weeks in a row, to the extent that they stopped doing activities. Staples seniors’ use of alcohol is, on average, 10 percentage points higher than the national average.

So, we still have work to do to help equip Westport teens with the tools to deal with the challenges of their generation.

It starts with shifting our own beliefs about mental health. For prior generations, seeing a therapist was usually reserved for times of crisis. Rather than wait for a breaking point, if parents can identify early signs of challenges and reach out for help, it may help many teens avert a mental health crisis.

How can you tell a teen needs help? Like many things, it depends. It starts with having a good sense of your teen’s baseline (normal everyday) behavior, so you can gauge changes in frequency, intensity, and duration of behaviors.

  • Communication: Changes in a teen’s depth and specificity of information shared is important. So are changes in the topics they mention (for example, negative views of self, life, social circle, appearance etc.,).
  • Mood: Frequent anger, testiness and stonewalling are strong signals that something is wrong.
  • Sleep: Changes in sleep (oversleeping, hyperactivity or excessive daytime fatigue).
  • Friends: Social withdrawal or abrupt changes to their friend group are especially important at this age.
  • Weight and diet: Noticeable weight gain or loss can be a sign of depression, eating disorders and other problems.
  • Screen time: 4 or more hours of daily screen time are strongly associated with teen depression, anxiety and behavior problems. If time online has increased (or teens resist parental time limits), this is important.

If something feels off, trust your instincts.

Reaching out for help can feel daunting. Picking up the phone to call a therapist can feel like an admission of failure or fault. But that notion is part of an old paradigm we should leave behind. When a child shows symptoms of physical illness such as a sore throat, ear pain or fever, we know when to call a doctor.

The same should be true for mental health. If we can flip our internal script about what it means to get mental health support, together we can bend the curve on teen mental health.

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Mental Health Matters

Timothy Schmutte is a clinical psychologist and assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine. In his private practice he focuses on children and teens with a variety of mental health issues, including anxiety, depression and OCD, and the challenges of people over 50 like grief, job loss, and coping with severe illness. 

Tim often works with his wife, Elenee Argentinis, to create mental health content. Elenee has a law degree, and has worked in the life sciences industry for more than 20 years. Together, they are raising 2 high school-aged boys in Westport.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Tim and Elenee are helping “06880” readers understand mental health, from several angles. This is their first piece.

Most of us think of Westport as one of the most idyllic communities in the country. With picturesque beaches, downtown boutiques and winding tree-lined roads, Westport seems like the perfect place to live.

When it comes to mental health, at first blush it seems to be true.

In “The State of Mental Health in America,” created by the organization Mental Health America, Connecticut ranks as the state with the lowest rates of mental illness and substance abuse in youth and adults. 

Dr. Timothy Schmutte

Local data is hard to come by. But the 2024 Westport Youth Survey conducted by Positive Directions also reports some good news. Rates of teen substance abuse in Westport have decreased since the pandemic. Use of tobacco, alcohol, vaping, marijuana and abuse of prescription drugs have all declined since 2021.

But as with most things, the devil is in the details. The last Westport 2025 Equity Report published by DataHaven raised several key issues related to mental health.

For example, 1/3 of all Westport families are cost-burdened by home ownership; economic stress can contribute to mental illness.

In the western Connecticut community of municipalities that includes Westport, rates of anxiety and depression are highest in adults 18-34 (20% and 18%).

Westport high school seniors’ use of alcohol (38%) is much higher than the national average (24%), and 23% of all Westport High schoolers reported gambling. 

Data at the state level suggests that up to 30% of high school students have felt sad or hopeless daily for more than 2 weeks within the last year. 12% have considered attempting suicide, and about 6% tried.

Elenee Argentinis

What does all this mean? Mental illness, from addiction (e.g., drugs, alcohol, vaping, gambling and screen time) to mood disorders (anxiety, anger and depression) and other unhealthy behaviors are still problems for our community.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. To emphasize the importance of mental health in Westport we writing “Mental Health Matters,” a short series exploring mental health in our community by looking at teens, parents and older adults.

Our goal is to raise awareness about the unique mental health challenges each group faces, as well as how to recognize them and get help.

Mental Health Awareness month was established in 1949 by the National Association for Mental Health (now called Mental Health America), after passage of the 1946 Mental Health Act and the end of World War II, with a wave of soldiers affected by the war.

Before these milestones, mental illness came with shame, stigma and often maltreatment of patients in mental institutions.

Connecticut played an important role in destigmatizing mental illness, and in mental health care reform.

Clifford Beers, born in New Haven in 1876, led mental health care reform here. A Yale graduate, he suffered maltreatment and abuse in Connecticut mental institutions during episodes of depression and paranoia.

He published “A Mind That Found Itself,” recounting his abuse. He founded the Connecticut Society for Mental Hygiene (renamed Mental Health Connecticut) and the National Committee for Mental Hygiene (now Mental Health America). He founded the first outpatient mental health clinic the United States, the Clifford Beers Clinic, in 1913.

Here in Westport, we had 2 mental health facilities. The Westport Sanitorium was located at the corner of Post Road East and Compo Road North (now Winslow Park), in the former mansion of State Senator Richard Henry Winslow. beginning in 1891.

Westport Sanitarium, at the corner of Post Road East and Compo Road North.

Nine years later, McFarland’s Sanitorium was opened on Long Lots Road. It become Hall-Brooke Hospital, and absorbed into St. Vincent’s Medical Center. It was acquired by Hartford Healthcare in 2019.

Part of Hall-Brooke Hospital, on Long Lots Road.

It’s difficult to get a precise read on the number of mental health care providers in Westport. But Healthgrades notes upwards of 600 practitioners and over 200 psychiatrists in Fairfield County.

Yet many practices are booked, and waitlists are months long.

Cost is another issue. Many practitioners in our area take “private pay” only, because insurance companies reimburse too little, and limit the number of sessions they cover.

So thank goodness for Mental Health Awareness Month. We’ve come a long way in recognizing and caring for mental illness.

But we’ve still got a long way to go.

In our next article, we’ll talk about teen mental health. Until then: Be well.