BoomerRoomers: Old Folks’ New Way To Shack Up

It sounds like a sitcom plot: Baby boomers facing loneliness, and financial and housing insecurity, use a website to find other boomers with houses, apartments, accessory dwelling units — even houseboats and communes — to share.

The founder of BoomerRoomers.com does indeed have decades of experience, writing for sitcoms and other shows.

But Jayne Ehrlich is deadly serious about her new venture. It went live on January 1. Now she’s matching boomers with homes, and those who need them.

This is not Ehrlich’s first “match game.” After writing for “Highway to Heaven,” and with 2 shows in development, the Bronx native weathered the 5-month Hollywood writers’ strike in 1988 by opening Malibu Mamas. She drew on her talent for helping people by connecting mothers and nannies.

What she planned as a temporary gig lasted for years.

Jayne Ehrlich

In 1992 Ehrlich moved to Wilton, and opened Hometown Nannies, Screening is thorough. She has placed “thousands of world-class baby nurses, nannies, governesses, housekeepers, couples, cooks, valets, household and estate managers, companions and certified nursing assistants, personal assistants and more.

She meets at least twice with each applicant.

(One early request: an Italian-speaking, baseball-playing manny for the family of a major movie star.)

As rewarding as Hometown Nannies is, Ehrlich kept thinking about housing insecurity. Her interest was piqued decades earlier: As a teenager she worked with a Head Start summer program in Spanish Harlem.

A boomer herself, she knew that her generation would not want to go to “nursing homes,” as their own grandparents had done. But were there alternatives?

The BoomerRoomers logo.

Twelve years ago, she bought the name “BoomerRoomers.” Finally, it’s ready for prime time.

Ehrlich calls BoomerRoomers “a living-alone-together, aging-in-place website.” It matches boomers of all socio-economic groups, by lifestyle and housing preferences.

(Boomers with homes to share have the option of renting to a college or graduate student. But that’s not the main focus of her site.)

Though Ehrlich’s office is in Westport, the January 1 launch focused specifically on New York City. Once she has 5,000 listed home shares, she’ll expand to the tri-state area, and other cities. Her goal is to go national.

The “lifestyle matching” process includes questions like:

  • How much of your home are you willing to share?
  • What about meals? Laundry? Chores?
  • Do you want to share grocery and shopping?

BoomerRoomers is a for-profit venture. However, Ehrlich hopes to spin off into a non-profit. She’s also approaching state and local government agencies, with the goal of helping them create NORCs (naturally occurring retirement communities).

Still ahead: “Living Alone Together with Special Needs.”

Housing options, on the BoomerRoomers website.

Ehrlich’s launch involves a local “boomer corps.” She’s looking for a few retired folks to offer skills with her start-up: PR, networking, social media, writing, fundraising — and venture capitalists.

She also seeks “fashion-inspired boomers,” to be featured on social media.

All jobs are “akin to paid (student) internships.”

For more information, email info@boomerroomers.com. Click here for the website.

Don’t overlook BoomerRoomers’ “Song of the Month.” February’s featured selection: “Gimme Shelter.”

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Cross Highway (Photo/Claudia Sherwood Servidio)

Remembering Joey Arciola

Westport native and longtime, well-respected Parks & Recreation Department employee Joseph “Joey” Arciola died peacefully on February 14. He was 52 years old.

Joey came from a long line of family members who served the town of Westport, as Public Works employees, police officers, firefighters and teachers.

Joey was retired from Parks & Rec, where he started his career as dock master at the age of 19. He worked his way to foreman for the department.

Joey Arciola

Joey was an avid sailor, hiker and camper. He loved Cockenoe Island. He was a passionate sports fan who never missed a Yankees, New York Rangers or Dallas Cowboys game.

His family says: “Joey devoted himself to his friends and family with unwavering commitment, love and loyalty. Throughout his life, he prided himself on making everyone around him a better person as well.”

Joey is survived by his parents, Sam Arciola Jr. and Jo Ann (Austin) Arciola, brother Sam Arciola III (Kelly), nephews Sam Arciola IV and Dominic Arciola whom he adored and treasured, and many aunts, uncles and cousins.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Joey’s memory to Save the Sound.

Friends are welcome to attend a Mass of Christian Burial this Friday (February 24, 10 a.m., Assumption Church).

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Longtime friend Andrew Colabella adds a tribute to Joey. He writes:

Joey Arciola lived and loved like every day was his last day fearlessly. He was a man who lived life to the fullest.

Today, Joey would have been 53. Six days ago, Joey left the earth, after making an imprint on thousands of lives.

Joey grew up in Westport, with his wonderful brother Sam. His hardworking parents, Samuel and Joanne, who still live in the same house today, still happily married. They followed in the same footsteps as their father, serving Westport.

Their father worked at the sewage treatment plant. Sam recently retired from the Westport Police Department, with over 30 years of service. Joey started working for the town on the docks and marinas, eventually making his way to the Parks & Recreation maintanence division as a laborer.

Joey spent the next 20-plus years in that department shape the town’s athletic and recreational fields. His work partner was Joey Saviano (click here),

The 2 Joes could be seen riding around in Truck 100, a blue single cab long bed, checking on all their hard work. Joey was easy to spot, always in cargo shorts, sneakers, a Yankees ball cap with perfectly trimmed short hair, walking fast on the ball of his feet.

He never stopped moving, except to stop at Junior’s Hot Dog Stand. He’d sit at the counter having lunch with the other Westport local legends and celebrities. His cousin Jeff was behind the counter.

In 8 hours his crew of guys had the lines stripped, grass rolled and cut, PH soil levels balanced, sprinklers timed, baseball fields ready, beach raked, trash picked up, guardrails weed whacked, and equipment ready to go. It all fell under Joey.

The town was ready to go, for all to enjoy. His style of management was sincere, yet tough. He expected the work that day to be done. But if variables beyond our control prevented completion, Joey would either show up to pitch in and help, never afraid but excited to teach, or call before it was started so that no one’s time was wasted. Joey was resourceful, fast thinking and organized.

Joey was elected president of his union, AFSCME 1303-194. He fearlessly went head to head with any and all for fair wages, incentives, protecting pensions and benefits for his employees. Joey knew the value of his talented workers and colleagues, and how much family meant to him.

Joey Arciola, enjoying Cockenoe Island. (Photo courtesy of Linda Gilleran)

Joey had no kids, but was there every step of the way from the birth of his nephews Samuel and Dominic. Those independent and successful bright boys both graduated from Staples, and went on to the University of Alabama.

Joey’s extended family members all too were influenced by his strong determination to give all and be all. Hard work, dedication and loyalty runs in all their blood.

If he had not employed me in his department for 9 years seasonally as I juggled school full time, I am not sure where I would be today. Joey gave me a chance. He gave me life, an education, knowledge, strength, determination, laughter (a lot), honesty and integrity. But he was also a boss at the same time. Respect was given and returned.

So whether you are an Arciola or a Meier, a child or adult who played on any of our athletic and recreational fields in town, or visited the Saugatuck restaurants and bars, or if you were lucky enough to go to a Yankees game with Joey, his impact is eternal.

So as I write this, knowing I unfortunately will not see Joey tomorrow, or every other tomorrow for the remainder of my existence, the ripples of his fingerprint on earth in this town will remain for decades to come.

Roundup: Lynsey Addario’s Ukraine, Mrs. London’s Credit Cards …

Yesterday’s New York Times featured a Page 1, top-of-the-fold story about a female Ukrainian soldier. It begins:

Just over a year ago, Yulia Bondarenko’s days were full of lesson plans, grading and her students’ seventh-grade hormones.

When Russian missiles shattered that routine and Russian troops threatened her home in Kyiv, Ukraine’s capital, Ms. Bondarenko, 30, volunteered to fight back, despite her lack of experience, the grave risk to her life and Ukraine’s apparently impossible odds.

“I never held a rifle in my hands and never even saw one up close,” Ms. Bondarenko said. “In the first two weeks, I felt like I was in a fog. It was just a constant nightmare.”

The harrowing text is accompanied by Lynsey Addario’s haunting photos. The 1991 Staples High School graduate — a Pulitzer Prize and MacArthur fellowship grant winner — made 5 trips to Ukraine last year.

She followed Bondarenko’s journey on four4 of them, reporting from the Kyiv, Kharkiv and Cherkasy regions.

Click here for the full story, and Lynsey’s powerful photographs.

Yulia Bondarenko learns how to use a rifle. (Photo/Lynsey Addario for the New York Times)

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Alert “06880” reader Gil Ghitelman is a fan of Mrs. London’s Bakery — to a limit. He writes:

“Mrs. London’s is a welcome addition to the Westport dining experience. While I miss the vibe engendered by Java at the same Church Lane location several years ago, their pastries, albeit pricey, are quite delicious.

“What I find disturbing is their 3.5% surcharge for credit card use. The only outfits (other than gas stations) that I’m aware of using this ploy are online gun dealers.

“Mrs. London’s is only shooting itself in the foot if they continue this practice.”

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Longtime Westporter Phyllis Makovsky died in her home, surrounded by her family, following an inspiring fight against leukemia. She was 80 years old.

The Queens native graduated from Barnard College with honors, and earned a master’s degree in teaching from Harvard University.

She was passionate in the classroom. She taught advanced math at the Brearley School in Manhattan and Great Neck South High School on Long Island, before turning her skills and compassion to her family, and through prominent roles in the community.

In 1972 Phyllis met Kenneth Makovsky. They married within months, and shared a partnership of 50 years. The couple enabled each other’s successes in business, at home and in their social and philanthropic lives. She served as a crucial strategic advisor to Ken as he built the public relations agency Makovsky & Company.

Phyllis was a doer. Her work came in many forms. She served Temple Israel as a board member for 10 years. She established a scholarship at Washington University in St. Louis dedicated to music. After her second diagnosis with breast cancer, she returned to Norwalk Hospital as a volunteer in the chemo-infusion center. She spent 20 years there — and returned to the same room for her final leukemia treatments. She was greeted with big hugs.

Phyllis used her talents as a teacher, and her combination of grace, grit and empathy, to make sure that her family could shine. As a friend and a sister she did the same. Phyllis was present, kind and insightful, and her love and good energy was returned to her by many.

Phyllis is survived by her husband Kenneth, sons Matt and Evan, and brother Stephen.

Funeral services will be held tomorrow (Tuesday, February 21, 1 p.m., Temple Israel). Burial will follow at 225 Richards Ave in Norwalk. Shiva will be observed at her Westport home tomorrow (Tuesday, February 21, post-service until 8 p.m.), and Wednesday and Thursday from 1 to 7 p.m..

To livestream the funeral service, please click here. Go to the YouTube page; it will be the first “live” video listing for the day. To share a condolence message, click here. Memorial contributions may be made to The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

(Phyllis Makovsky was the subject of a song written by her son Matt. Click here for that story, posted last Friday on “06880.”)

Phyllis Makovsky

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We’ve said it before, but it bears repeating: There’s nature all over Westport, including the heart of downtown.

Claudia Sherwood Servidio captured this “Westport … Naturally” scene, just a few feet from the Parker Harding Plaza pavement.

(Photo/Claudia Sherwood Servidio)

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And finally … speaking of Mrs. London’s pie’s: Does she know Mrs. Wagner?

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Let’s Talk: Community Conversation Set For Affordable Housing

Nancy Kail wants affordable housing — and local control of it.

She is concerned about traffic, safety, conservation and open space.

She recognizes that there are many contradictions in those beliefs.

But she also knows that the first place to address — and untangle — them is through 8-30 g, Connecticut’s most controversial and least understood affordable housing regulation.

Nancy Kail

Kail is deeply invested in Westport. A 1980 Staples High School graduate who moved back here several years ago, she is in her first term as a Representative Town Meeting member.

But despite her long history here, and strong knowledge of local affairs, she realized during the RTM’s recent debate on the Hamlet at Saugatuck project that she did not know as much about 8-30g as she would like.

(Connecticut’s law stipulates that 10% of a municipality’s housing stock be “affordable,” under a state formula. Developers may bypass local zoning regulations if they set aside 30% of a project’s units for such housing. Towns may seek moratoriums, though only housing built after 1990 is considered in the 8-30g formula.)

The RTM’s discussion of the Hamlet proposal — sparked by a citizens’ petition, after the Planning & Zoning Commission adopted a text and map amendment that would allow a hotel/residential/retail/marina complex to be built in the area around the train station, Riverside and Railroad Place — was an eye-opener for Kail.

“I came in with an open mind, but had a definite opinion,” Kail says.

“Hearing about the implications of 8-30g on the P&Z’s decision made me do a  total 180.”

The specter of 8-30g hovered over discussions of the Hamlet at Saugatuck project.

Kail began thinking about affordable housing, and all its consequences. How did it give rise to 8-30g? What are the implications when Westport’s moratorium expires next month? What can a town do, or not do, under the 8-30g statute?

She realized she needed to know more about 8-30g, so that she could understand Westport’s approach to affordable housing.

And she realized she was not the only one needing to know more.

The result is an open forum. “The Impact of Connecticut State Statute 8-30g: What We Can Expect for 2023” is set for next Monday (February 27, 7 p.m., Westport Library).

Working with fellow RTM members Seth Braunstein, Ross Burkhardt, Jimmy Izzo, Sal Liccione, Matthew Mandell, Liz Milwe and Claudia Schaum, Kail has organized a diverse panel:

  • State Representative Jonathan Steinberg
  • Westport town attorney ira Bloom
  • Planning & Zoning Commission chair Danielle Dobin
  • Connecticut Center for Ending Homelessness CEO Evonne Klein.

The event will be led by RTM moderator Jeff Wieser, former CEO of Westport’s Homes with Hope.

The panel discussion will be followed by a Q-and-A, with audience members.

This is only the start of a town-wide exploration of affordable housing. Other sessions will be held later.

“We all can learn a lot, from good, solid, non-inflammatory conversations,” Kail says.

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Longshore golf course (Photo/Patricia McMahon)

Photo Challenge #425

It’s been a while since a bottle of Pepsi cost 5 cents.

But that sign — which notes it was “worth a dime” — and another touting the soft drink remind concession-goers at Sherwood Island State Park of that bygone era. (Click here to see.)

Ian Overton, Andrew Colabella and Howard Potter all knew the location of last week’s Photo Challenge.

A surprising number of our Sunday contest images come from Connecticut’s first state park. If you have never gone there — or did only a few times, when COVID shut everything else down — add it to your list.

Sherwood Island is a 238-acre treasure of beaches, woods, walking paths and more, smack in the middle of the Westport coastline.

You’ll love it. And you’ll be able to nail a few more of our Photo Challenges.

This week’s intriguing shot is below. If you know where in Westport you’d see this, click “Comments.”

(Photo/John Richers)

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Roundup: New Trash Pickup Site, Starbucks Garbage, Sabrina & Senator Murphy …

There’s a new site for today’s weekly volunteer trash pick-up.

It’s now set for 11 a.m. at the Westport Animal Control building (6 Elaine Road, off Compo Road South between I-95 and railroad overpasses). It’s near the Saugatuck River public boat launch.

Organizer Andrew Colabella says that the previous scheduled site — the Saugatuck train station — is almost free of trash.

All volunteers are welcome. They’re advised to dress warmly, and bring garbage bags.

Questions: Email acolabellartm4@gmail.com.

Westport Animal Control building, on Elaine Road.

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Andrew Colabella and his band of civic volunteers do a great job every week, cleaning up public spaces.

They shouldn’t have to, but there’s enough trash to keep them busy.

They should definitely not have to pick up private property. That’s the job of owners and tenants.

For example: Here’s the area around the drive-through Starbucks:

(Hat tip and photo/Scott Singer)

Pretty gross. In addition to tons of garbage, there are knocked-over stanchions. How hard is it to send someone out from the frappuccino machine, to fix this mess?

And while they’re at it, maybe the manager could help move the concrete parking slab back to where it belongs, so vehicles won’t have to poke their tails out even more into the already dangerously narrow parking lot.

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Last week, “06880” reported on Sabrina Guerra.

The non-speaking autistic 10-year-old Weston girl was one of 15 winners statewide, in Senator Chris Murphy’s 7th annual MLK Day essay challenge. She wrote eloquently of her life in “a marginalized group fighting for our right to be heard, the right to define ourselves, and the right to belong.” (Click here, then scroll down for her superb insights.)

Last week, she attended an award ceremony with Senator Murphy. He cited her out by name during his speech, then sat with her for 10 minutes as she presented to him.

It was a great day for her — and the senator. Click here for the inspiring video.

Screenshot of Senator Chirs Murphy and Sabrina Guerra.

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There is a time for taking … and a time for giving.

The Remarkable Bookcycle — Jane Green’s creative free library that’s parked for the winter on Main Street — is wildly popular with readers.

That’s a problem.

Annette Norton owns Savvy + Grace, a few feet away from the Bookcycle. The other day, she added some books to the nearly bare shelves.

It looks fuller. But there is still plenty of room for more.

Any and all books are welcome. To contradict William Shakespeare, both a borrower and a lender be.

Remarkable Bookcycle (Photo/Annette Norton)

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The other day, “06880” reported that Bed Bath & Beyond’s Norwalk store would close in March.

Judging by this photo, they may not make it to next month:

(Photo/John Karrel)

Reader John Karrel asked one of the very helpful employees whether he’d be moving to another BB&B location. His response: “They’re all closing.”

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It may be a while before orchids bloom outdoors.

But these flowers — a gift to Matt Murray’s wife — give all “Westport … Naturally” readers hope that spring is just around the corner.

(Photo/Matt Murray)

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And finally … on this day in 1940, Smokey Robinson was born.

The very prolific and hugely talented singer/songwriter/Rock & Roll Hall of Famer/Library of Congress Gershwin Prize winner performed at a Levitt Pavilion benefit concert, more than 2 decades ago. He also was a guest at Ashford & Simpson’s annual 4th of July party, back when they lived on Cross Highway near Bayberry Lane.

Happy 83rd birthday, Smokey! I know all “06880” readers second that emotion.

 

 

 

 

[OPINION] A Better Way For Utility Mains And Cable Wires

We see them so often, they blend into the landscape: crews of all kinds, digging up the streets, and working on utility poles.

Alert “06880” reader Manuel Castedo sees them too. But he’s not sitting back, waiting in line for traffic to ease (or an overladen wire to fall on his head). He writes:

“On my street (Beachside Avenue), Southern Connecticut Gas just finished replacing the main.

“Now a month later, Aquarion is digging another new trench for replacing the water mains. This affects traffic to the point of having to close the street. It goes on for weeks.

“Then are the long, sloppy scars left behind on what would otherwise be smooth asphalt surfaces.

Beachside Avenue.

“In addition, cable company trucks everywhere constantly maintain their ever- expanding cables suspended from poles along the streets.

“They have grown in numbers over the years. Now the poles are under stress due to their weight. Companies are adding guy wires to secure and add stability to the poles.

“All this digging, repaving and continuous maintenance seems to be very wasteful. It cannot be the best way to do things. (Never mind the problem of power/cable outages when storms come, or trucks hit overhead sagging cabling.

“There has to be a better way.

Utility lines.

“The other day, I sent a proposal for a better approach (see email below ) to key individuals at Connecticut’s Public Utilities Regulatory Authority, Department of Transportation, the Planning and Development Committee, State Emergency Management Commission, State Senator Ceci Maher, State Representative Jonathan Steinberg, and State Representative Norman Needleman, his counterpart in the Transportation Committee.

“I also tried sending it to the heads of Eversource, Aquarion and Southern Connecticut Gas, but could not get their emails.

Manuel noted that Aquarion’s upcoming “disruptive and expensive digging up of the streets could be an ideal opportunity to plan intelligently for the future.

“When the trench is opened, why not just drop a couple of additional empty PVC conduits that could be readily accessed in the future when the time comes to replace, or add more, electrical or cable service runs.

“These trenches are usually 2 or 3 feet wide by 6 to 7 feet deep, which is enough room to accommodate water, electrical, telecom and gas lines with the required 12-to-24-inch separation between them.

“The addition of this PVC piping would be a relatively small investment because after a street is dug up –- for whatever reason — the large cost of excavation is already factored in.  The conduit pipes would be in place for future replacement of the existing vulnerable street pole system currently in use. It would eventually result a much more resilient system, which will save thousands when the storms come or when the posts come down on their own under the weight of the cables.

Getting ready for more Aquarion work. (All photos/Manuel Castedo)

“This could be a win-win project for everyone. The utility companies could make some additional income to include the empty conduits, the power and cable companies would have less constant maintenance required by sagging cables and leaning poles, and consumers would be less prone to outages than they are now.

“Obviously, this approach to improving the infrastructure would require a system of coordination and funding that is not in place, and would need to be carefully planned so it is efficiently and easily implemented. It is extremely wasteful and shortsighted to continue with this inefficient, wasteful, labor intensive way of doing business by utility companies in the state.

“The intelligent approach to burying cabling conduits as an integral part of any street excavation or repaving should be required by the State of Connecticut in order to improve grid resilience and reduce long term costs of having to continuously dig up the streets.”

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Westport PAL Longshore skating rink … (Photo/Teona Pipiya Johnson)

… and capturing the scene (Photo/Patricia McMahon)