Category Archives: Staples HS

Thanks, Jeffxs!

Last October, “06880” published the uplifting story of Brian Hershey.  The Staples junior won an international contest sponsored by Polar Bears International, aimed at educating teenagers about climate change.

Brian Hershey, proudly wearing his Polar Bears International fleece. Hong Kong this summer will be much warmer.

After writing an essay and undergoing interviews, Brian traveled to the Arctic Circle.  He and 17 other bright, committed students from around the globe met with scientists, studied polar bears, and tried to figure out how to stop our planet from falling apart.

Brian returned to Westport excited and inspired to do what he can to help change the world.

The post drew 98 comments.  This being “06880,” not all were positive.  Several readers hammered Brian for — among other things — his love of travel, and his belief that there is a cause-and-effect relationship between manmade gases and global warming.

A reader who nicknamed himself “Jeffxs” was particularly vocal.  He said that Brian was “pitching his ideas,” and — as an aside — decried the Board of Education’s elimination of science courses in favor of “mural painting.”

Brian responded to his critics with grace and poise.  He countered their blasts with reasoned arguments, facts, logic — and far more restraint than adults 2 and 3 times his age showed.

So it was with particular joy that I read an email the other day from Brian.  He wrote:

When that blog post was published on Facebook, a friend of my family’s from when we used to live in Hong Kong read it.  He is an executive at a PR firm based in East Asia whose specialty is “crisis management.”

Apparently he liked what he saw!  He sent me a friendly email saying he saw a great PR agent in me, and that he liked the way I “managed the crisis.”  He ended his email with, “I’d love to have you as an intern!  Your choice of Hong Kong, Syndney, Beijing, Shanghai, Singapore,or Kuala Lumpur!”

When I read this I was shaking in my seat at the idea of being able to go back to that part of the world.  I have been dying to go back to Asia ever since I lived in Tokyo this past summer as an exchange student.  I couldn’t believe the offer was real.

It was confirmed today.  For the month of July I will live in an apartment in Hong Kong, and work as an intern for this guy at his office.

It’s the experience of a lifetime!  And none of it would have been possible without your blog post, and Jeffsx and others’ criticisms!  That’s fate!

Actually, it’s a great credit to Brian, and his maturity and wisdom.

As for Jeffxs:  Please send me your address (email or snail).  I’ll pass it along to Brian.

I’m sure he’d like to thank you himself, just as soon as he gets settled in Hong Kong.

Saving The World One Teen At A Time

Saving the world is a big project.

Doing it when you’ve got kids is waaaay tougher.

Abby Margolis Newman is trying.

Abby Margolis Newman

The 1979 Staples graduate has teamed up with a mother of 5 to write “Saving the World One Teen at a Time.” A weekly column — available by newsletter or through the Mommy Tracked website — it helps harried women navigate “the tween-teen years in an increasingly thorny, competitive and tech-dominated world.”

Abby has 3 kids:  “two teenage sons, and one prematurely teenage 11-year-old son.”  She has written for the New York Times, Parenting, Working Mother and Scholastic, among many others.

She nails some hot-button issues.  Last month — several weeks before President Obama’s call for kinder words — she wrote a column on “Fretting Out Loud:  On the Disintegration of Civility.”

Abby began:

Is it just me, or does it feel as if, over the past several years, civility and polite discourse in our society have utterly deteriorated? And what are our kids learning from the horrible examples being set in the realms of politics, sports, and bullying (cyber and otherwise)?

Abby said that when her kids were little, she posted rules for being polite and respectful, including saying “please” and “thank you,” shaking hands and making eye contact — simple stuff, yet now as rare as a unanimous vote in Congress.

After describing a litany of boorish behavior by politicians, athletes and sports fans, and celebrities, Abby asked:

What is all of this teaching our kids?  And how pathetic and impotent does my “Top Ten Rules for Being Polite and Respectful” seem in the face of the reality of today’s mean, uncivil, impolite and disrespectful world?

She had no answers.  But she hoped to open an important — and civil — dialogue.

A couple of months earlier, Abby tackled a topic few “mommy blogs” address.

Imagine this scenario: your child comes to you, years from now, and tells you he is gay.  (I know, many of you are parents of very young children – just bear with me.)

Then a few years later, he falls in love and tells you he wants to marry his boyfriend.  You love your son, and you’ve grown to love his boyfriend, too.  Yet the state you live in says no, he cannot marry the person he loves.

How would you feel about this? To paraphrase the Facebook Queen Sarah Palin, would your “Mama Grizzly” come out roaring in protest?

Of course, Abby talks about less weighty issues too.  A Beatles fan — as are her 3 boys — she wanted to take her family to the Cirque du Soleil tribute.

The good news: the “Love” show had gotten excellent reviews.  The bad news: the show is exclusively playing in Las Vegas.

She overcame her aversion to gambling, neon, cigarettes, alcohol, heat and long lines to see the performance.  It was, she wrote, “fabulous…. a stunningly creative, magical, unique, colorful burst of music and acrobatics – all set to Beatles songs.”

But it was over before 9 p.m.  The Newmans went to get ice cream — and encountered the Strip.

Abby was not impressed.

(We) grimly made our way down the street toward the famous Fake Paris, complete with Fake Eiffel Tower.  The ground was literally covered with postcards of topless, huge-chested women.  The sandwich-board men were ubiquitous.

The neon signs were bright and blinking.  The crowds were relentless.  The heat was oppressive.  The cigarette smoke was stifling.  The loud, drunken jerks were, well, loud and drunk.  The general tackiness was unbearable.  With every step, I rued our decision to venture outside.

But kids are kids.  They must have loved the Vegas decadence, right?

Well, Abby’s oldest son called it a “skeeze-fried hellhole.”

Her 15-year-old was even harsher:  “If there is one place that is literally God-forsaken, it’s Las Vegas.”

Abby Margolis may not be saving the world one teen at a time.  But she sure has raised them to have opinions.

And to express them clearly, cleverly, and convincingly.

Leaving The Nest

John Dodig is one of Staples' -- and Staples students' -- biggest fans.

After 42 years in education, Staples principal John Dodig has a deep and perceptive understanding of teenagers — their minds, their moods, the rhythms of their lives.

He knows too how those rhythms affect those around them.

Last week, Dodig sent a note to the parents of Staples seniors.  His message was tailored for them, and for the next few months of the school year — but it deserves to be read by everyone.

He said:

One of the great joys of being a principal is watching young people enter the school as freshmen and seeing how they grow and mature into young adults over four years.  This senior class is one that will be remembered by adults in this building for many years to come.

From the moment they walked into Staples they have lived up to our expectations and, in many regards, exceeded what even we thought they could do.  We have reached the halfway point of the year, which means I am beginning to feel pangs of loss.  I don’t want to see them leave, but leave they must.

If you have never had a high school senior, I warn you that you will begin to feel “strange” in the near future.  Some of you won’t know what it is, and it will border on depression.  Not being a physician, I can only tell you from experience that it will be feelings of impending loss and not clinical depression.  Your wonderful child is growing up faster than you imagined, will soon live elsewhere, and will become whomever she/he is destined to be.

All of those trips delivering your child to sporting events, play rehearsals, and other extracurricular activities will come to an end.  You might even begin to wonder what you will do with your time when your child is gone?  My experience tells me that it all works out in the end, but the transition is always difficult.

Even if you have other children yet to reach senior year, hearing your senior child talk about Senior Prom, Baccalaureate Night, Awards Assembly, senior trip and graduation will take its toll on you.  I remind myself each year that if I am feeling a sense of loss, I can only imagine how you must feel.

Assistant principal Jim Farnen and I have been meeting with small groups of seniors since October.  We invite one homeroom at a time, and about half of the students show up each time.  These are kind of like exit interviews where I ask what we can do to make Staples even better than it already is.  I also take the opportunity to thank them for what they have contributed to making Staples the wonderful school that it is.

Students in all other grades take their cue from the senior class each year. Believe me from experience, if 1,800 students want to make life miserable for the 200 adults each day, they can.  We work hard to treat your children with kindness and respect and, in turn, we are treated the same way.  You have done a remarkable job raising your sons and daughters.  You should be proud of who they have become.  Your job will continue to change, but you will always be an important part of their lives.

The countdown to graduation has begun.  It is an exciting, challenging, introspective, frightening, joyful, overwhelming and invigorating time for students.  John Dodig, his staff, the parents of Westport — the entire community — share those emotions.  It’s all part of preparing the next generation, and ourselves, for the future.

Channeling Jasper McLevy

Jasper McLevy, the former mayor of Bridgeport, once famously responded to the question of snow removal:  “God put it there, let Him take it away.”

Well, He certainly has His work cut out for Him right now.

In related news, when principal John Dodig arrived at Staples at the crack of dawn today, he realized parking would be tough.  He immediately texted and emailed students:  Please don’t drive.

Amazingly, many heeded his call.  Today’s lots were almost empty.

Sure, plenty of teenage drivers hadn’t yet dug their cars out.  (Or had them dug out.)  Still, it’s the thought that counts.

Staples High School, 9 a.m. today.

What The Hell Is Matt Doing Now?

Most internet sensations have the shelf life of a firefly.

But Matt Harding dances on.

The 1994 Staples graduate earned international acclaim the same time YouTube came of age.  Abandoning what he thought would be his life work — designing video games — Matt decided to travel the world.

In 2003, he did an impromptu dance in Hanoi.  A friend filmed him, and a tradition began.

By 2006 people around the planet were viewing his videos.  He danced — “badly,” which was part of the charm — in Mongolia, Cambodia, Antarctica, Machu Picchu, Namibia, New York, Fiji and Iceland.

And everywhere in between.

Matt Harding and friends in Papua, New Guinea.

Over 75 million folks watched him.  His videos — showing him dancing on a crab-filled South Pacific Beach; in the mountains of Kyrgyzstan; in the slums of Mumbai — are goofy, gleeful, and oddly compelling.

Sometimes he dances alone.  In the DMZ, 1 somber Korean soldier stood behind him.  Usually, though — in the plazas of Buenos Aires, the villages of New Guinea, the plains of Africa — folks of all ages giddily join in.

And Matt dances on.

Last summer he danced in places most people hesitate even to walk:  Haiti.  Iraq.  Afghanistan.

He was welcomed joyfully.  “I keep learning, and re-learning, that people are friendly, everywhere I go,” Matt told KING-TV last week.  He lives in Seattle now, and the local station caught up with him there.

In 2011, he heads to Cuba.

“I’m still dancing,” he said.  “It’s become my job.

“This is what I do.  And I can’t think of anything better to do.”

Last summer Matt danced -- and juggled balls -- in Kabul, Afghanistan.

Gaga For Emerson

Nine minutes of Lady Gaga might not be your cup of tea.

And — unless you’re a certain age — you probably have no idea what a lipdub is.  (It’s a music video that combines lip synching and audio dubbing.  Duh.)

But you should still check out Emerson College’s Lady Gaga Lipdub.  It could be the best in the entire who-even-knew-it-existed genre?

You won’t be alone.  It’s already been viewed over 850,000 times.  That’s right up there with the little kid who acted high after visiting the dentist.

Staples graduate Ariana Sigel — a member of the high school Media Lab‘s Wall of Fame — had a hand in the now-gone-viral dance video (and a bit role — you can see her at the 1:36 mark, with a camera).

She had plenty of help.  Scores of students worked on production.  Hundreds of others — sorority girls, athletes, quidditch players, gay activists — danced, jumped and gyrated through the streets of Boston, on campus, and at random other sites in that well-choreographed, uber-enthusiastic, “Fame”-style way.

A scene from the Emerson College lipdub.

Emerson is known for its communication department, and this lipdub shows how skillful Ariana and her classmates are.  It was shot over 2 weeks, in many different locations — with the usual endless production problems — but the editing is so seamless it looks like one long, perfect, 9-minute take.

(It even fooled an ABC newscaster, who shook his head in wonderment at “one take — pretty impressive!”)

The idea was to use the video to advertise the Evvy Awards — a college-wide show in which student work is judged by industry professionals.  It’s the largest student award show in the country.

It created a buzz, alright — and much more.

“Imagine what their school musicals are like 🙂 ” someone commented on YouTube.

“I am SO applying here!” someone else said.

And this from Emerson Class of 2013 dad:  “Makes the tuition payments worth it.”

Industry professionals loved it too.

Even those who don’t love Lady Gaga.

(Click here to view Emerson College’s Lady Gaga Lipdub.)

99% Chance Of A Snow Day Tomorrow!

No, that’s not Elliott Landon speaking.

Or me.

It’s the “Snow Day Calculator” — and that website is as scientific as it gets.

First you enter your school’s zip code.

Then some very important information:

  • Type of school (public, urban public, rural public, private/prep, boarding)
  • The number of snow days already this year
  • “Leniency of administration” (easy, okay, harsh)
  • Is there a special event or activity scheduled?
  • Is your school in a mountainous area?
  • Hype for a snow day (0 = no one talking about it; 1 = many kids talking about it; 2 = kids, teachers and media talking about it; 3 = administrators are talking about it too!)

Click “Calculate” — and it’s 99% certain Westport kids can sleep in on Friday!

But you should still call 203-341-1SNO tomorrow morning.

Just in case.

Even Westport's crack snow plow drivers will be unable to help Westport schools open tomorrow -- or so says the Snow Day Calculator. (Photo by Luke Hammerman/Inklings)

Jon Gailmor Joins The Beatles

What do the Beatles and Jon Gailmor have in common?

You can finally get their music on iTunes.

Jon Gailmor

The Fab Four caved in November.  It took Jon — the fabulous Westport-bred singer (and former Staples Orphenian), now an official Vermont “state treasure” — a bit longer.

But his catalog is now available with the click of a mouse.

My favorite album — “Gonna Die With a Smile if it Kills Me” — includes the joyful “Woody,” the wistful “Ae Fond Kiss” (perhaps the only folk song ever written by Scottish poet Robert Burns), and the lovely “Long Ago Lady,” Jon’s elegant tribute to his adopted state of Vermont.

I know — it’s still January 1.  But Jon finally joining the 21st (iTunes) century is the best news I’ve heard all year.

“Race To Nowhere” Heads Here

Audiences in Chappaqua, Bethesda, Winnetka — high-achieving, high-pressure Westport-type towns across the country — have flocked to “Race to Nowhere.”

The film — fueled largely by word of mouth (internet-style) — has drawn so many SRO crowds at schools, churches and town hall auditoriums around the country, it’s already the 20th most successful documentary ever.

Parents, educators, clergy, physicians — and teenagers — are drawn by the theme:  that years spent building resumes, being tutored and seeking perfection may not produce perfect, healthy, high-achieving kids.  The result, rather, could be “unhealthy, disengaged, unprepared and stressed-out youth.”

After screenings, audiences stay for facilitated discussions.  Recently, in New Canaan, a few high-achieving fathers took issue with the film’s premise that intense pressure is bad.

That’s the way the world works, they said.

Two Staples students disagreed.  They’d gone with Chris Lemone — the outreach worker who runs the school’s Teen Awareness Group — and stuck around to talk.  (Most of the New Canaan kids left — maybe too much homework?)

The Stapleites refuted the dads — strongly and eloquently.  Their words made a tremendous impact on the adult audience.

Now, “Race to Nowhere” is coming to Westport.

The PTA Council is sponsoring a Feb. 15 viewing at Bedford Middle School.  In 2 days — and with virtually no publicity — 600 free tickets sold out.  It happened so quickly, the Staples student and parent communities had not even received details.

The screening cost has already put the PTA Council over their measly budget of $1000.  They hope to recoup some of the money from audience donations that night.

A scene from "Race to Nowhere." A typical Westport scene too?

The Council plans a 2nd screening in March.  They need someone to fund the  $2500.  In a high-achieving community like this, someone should write a check today.

In the meantime, Westporters can click here to find details on other local screenings — including January 28 at Town Hall. Tickets to that show cost $10 each; it’s sponsored by the Learning Community Day School.

Are Westport students engaged in a “race to nowhere” — or do we avoid many of the traps that snare youngsters in similar communities?

Those questions — and others like them — will be explored here this winter.  Whatever the answers, it’s clear — by the race for tickets — that “Race to Nowhere” is important to run.

Zach Slater Demolishes “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

The Secretary of Defense is for it.

The Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff is for it.

So — particularly eloquently — is Zach Slater.

Zach Slater

“It” is repealing “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” — the policy that prohibits gay men and lesbians from serving in the U.S. military.

Zach — a Staples senior, and captain of both the water polo, and swimming and diving, teams at the high school — tackled the controversial rule during the finals of the local Rotary finals last week.

Organized by both Westport Rotary Clubs, the oratory contest asks students to apply Rotary’s 4-Way test to ethical issues.

The test asks:  Is it truth?  Is it fair to all concerned?  Will it build goodwill and better friendships?  Will it benefit all concerned?

Zach’s answer to “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is a resounding “no!”  Here’s what he said:

Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.  It is a policy that has discharged over 14,000 members of our armed forces.  It is a policy that has cost our government hundreds of millions of dollars and it is a policy that has rid our armies of brave gay, lesbian and bisexual service members.

I have determined that this policy must be abandoned and I have done by asking myself:  Is it the truth?  Is it fair to all concerned?  Will it be beneficial to all concerned?  And will it build goodwill and other friendships?

First, is it the truth?  Some of our political and military leaders believe that “don’t ask don’t tell” creates cohesion among the armed forces.  They claim sexual orientation ambiguity makes sure that there will be no distractions while fighting for our country.

However, those serving in the military feel differently.  A study released this pass week by the Pentagon reports that over 70 percent of people serving in the army are comfortable with gay, lesbian and bisexual peers.  A majority of Americans, also 70 percent, believe that gay people should be allowed to serve openly.  This is what America wants, this is the truth, and why “don’t ask don’t tell must be repealed.”

Second, is it fair to all concerned?  “Don’t ask, don’t tell” is not fair to those brave enough to risk their lives for our country.  If discovered to be gay, a serviceman or woman is immediately discharged, and any openly gay person qualified to serve our nation is turned away at military offices around the country.

According to the Pentagon, over 75% of young Americans are unqualified to serve in the military because of growing drug use, obesity, law-breaking and poor education.  Yet a physically fit, law-abiding, well-educated gay person interested in serving is not allowed. Why someone interested in protecting us, Americans, should be turned away, simply because of their sexuality when there are only so many people qualified to fight?  This is unfair and why this policy must be forgotten.

Third, will it be beneficial to all concerned? “Don’t ask, don’t tell” is disadvantageous to our country and all Americans. Expelling someone from the military because of their sexuality simply makes us less strong.  It is one less person keeping us at home safe, safe from an enemy, safe from terror, safe from corruption and safe from the evils of our world.

There are an estimated 66,000 closeted gays is the armed forces.  Imagine if all of them were to be outed and discharged.  That is 66,000 less people keeping us safe.  By abandoning “don’t ask don’t tell,” more gay people would feel comfortable joining the armed forces.  Therefore, more people to keep us safe and more people fighting for the greater good.  It will be beneficial to all concerned if “don’t ask, don’t tell” were to be revoked.

Fourth, will it build goodwill and other friendships?  “Don’t ask, don’t tell” currently limits goodwill and friendships in the army because it is a policy not in touch with the times.  The Servicemembers Legal Defense Network reports that a majority of those who have fought in 21st century wars do not care if someone is gay or straight and do not find any connection between sexual orientation and job performance.

The Joint Force Quarterly reported “after a careful examination, there is no scientific evidence to support the claim that unit cohesion will be negatively affected if homosexuals serve openly.”  And if gays were allowed to be open, in a way they could be there true selves, creating true cohesion between the troops, building true goodwill and friendship.  This is why “don’t ask, don’t tell” should be repealed.

By using the rotary four-way test, I have come to the conclusion that “don’t ask, don’t tell” is not the truth; “don’t ask, don’t tell” is not fair to all concerned; repealing “don’t ask, don’t tell” will be beneficial to all concerned, and repealing “don’t ask, don’t tell” will build true goodwill and friendships.

This policy is not in touch with the times and is unsupported by a majority of Americans, and servicemen and women. This is why it must be repealed, and this is why it must be repealed now.  Those who understand that this policy is not right must call their senator today and let them know that they can repeal this policy today, and let them know that “don’t ask, don’t tell” is not the truth, not fair, not beneficial and does not build good will and other friendships.

Zach’s speech won him $500, and advances him to the Rotary 4-Way Test regional contest next month at Fairfield University.