Today’s New York Times “Lens” section examines the difficulty of being (female, of course) overseas photographers who are also raising young children.
The story focuses in part on Lynsey Addario. The MacArthur “Genius Grant”-winning/Times staffer/Staples graduate has a 2-year-old son, Lukas.
She describes her husband Paul de Bendern, a former Reuters correspondent, as “Unbelievable. Spectacular. Hands on. Good father. Understanding. Patient.”
But, “Lens” says, before they met she “had difficulty sustaining a long-term relationship and her career.”
Before I got married it was almost impossible to be in a successful relationship because no man wants to hear, ‘Hey, I’m going away for a month, I’ll see you when I get back. I was fully committed to my work. You can’t ask someone to be fully committed to you when you’re not fully committed to them.
Lukas has already traveled with her to Mississippi, and Lynsey takes him to speaking engagements. But, “Lens” says, he usually remains in London with her husband and nanny.
Lynsey has been captured by forces loyal to Qaddafi in Libya. Since becoming a mother, “Lens” says, she takes fewer risks — “not only because she is a parent, but also because she has lost friends and colleagues.”
“Before I had Lukas I thought, ‘Well, it is very possible that I might get injured or killed in the line of work,’ and I just accepted that as part of what I do,” she notes. “Now that I have a child I’m much more conscious of my mortality. I have to stay alive because I’m responsible for someone else.”