Monthly Archives: December 2009

Feliz Navidad! Gracias Jose Feliciano y Bill Rother

If they’re lucky, most nursing home residents sing Christmas carols with a couple of karaoke wannabes.

Fairfield County residents get an annual show with Jose Feliciano and Bill Rother.

Jose Feliciano (left) and Bill Rother

Feliciano, of course, is the musician who wrote and recorded “Feliz Navidad,” one of the 10 most popular Christmas songs of all time.  (His version of “Light My Fire” also hit #3 on the American pop charts.)

Rother played guitar in the 1950s with the then-famous Fred Waring & his Pennsylvanians.  They did lots of live television, including “Ed Sullivan”; they also performed at the White House for President Eisenhower and Queen Elizabeth.

When Feliciano moved to Weston — where Rother lived — they met through Mark Graham’s WMMM radio show.  Rother was then in the midst of a 40-year career with Tauck Tours.

After Rother retired, Feliciano asked him to become his tour manager.  Rother had no desire to get back on the road — he’d already seen over 100 countries — but the singer assured him there wouldn’t be much traveling.

In their first year together, they went around the world.  Twice.

Some years ago, Feliciano’s mother-in-law was in the Wilton Meadows nursing home.  He and Rother did a Christmas show there.

The residents had such a good time — and the duo enjoyed themselves so much — they’ve made it a holiday tradition of their own.  Each year — very quietly, because they don’t want a lot of hoopla beforehand — they perform for area seniors.

This year they did shows at the Westport Health Care Center (formerly Mediplex), as well as nursing homes in Darien and Greenwich.  Last week, they starred at the Assumption Church senior luncheon.

The senior citizens like the energetic, up-tempo Feliciano.  But they love Rother.

“I play all of the old stuff, from World War II,” Rother says, with a playful jab at his friend.  “I get a bigger hand than Jose.”

We Drink To That

The email arrived too long after Halloween to use.  An “06880″ reader had gone trick-or-treating with her young children near the beach, and was shocked and disappointed to see how many adults — answering doors, and out with their own kids — were drinking.

One house featured a 5-foot inflated beer bottle.  A woman walked around with her young son, who pulled a wagon with a cooler.  The mother provided drinks to parents she met on the street.

The “06880″ reader said the adults’ message was clear:  No celebration is complete without alcohol.

“Getting drunk doesn’t start in high school at Homecoming,” she said.  “It starts at home, with a much-too-relaxed attitude toward drinking.”

When I told her the statute of limitations had passed on a Halloween-and-booze blog post, she suggested I tie it in with the upcoming holiday season.

Though — spiked egg nog notwithstanding — I’ve never thought of Christmas as a big drinkfest, New Year’s certainly is.  One of the scariest nights of my life was driving home at 3 a.m. one January 1, and seeing 2 — 2! – cars zoom past me on I-95  going the wrong direction.  (I took the Post Road the rest of the way.)

I’m not sure what the answer is.  First Night is one attempt to create an alcohol-free celebration.  But it ends at 9 p.m., leaving plenty of time for adults (and teenagers) to get liquored up.

The “06880″ reader acknowledged that complaining about irresponsible behavior makes her feel old.  She probably has as many memories as I do of New Year’s celebrations past.

But she wants Westport parents to know that their actions involving alcohol — not what they say, but what they do — have profound effects on their kids, and their kids’ friends.  Consider her message conveyed.

I’m still amazed that Halloween has turned into an adult drinking holiday.  What’s next:  Graduation Day?

Don’t answer that.

“Gracious Professionals” Crush The Competition

At first, “Gracious Professionalism” sounds weird — a bit New Age-y, somewhat soft.

Gracious Professionalism — according to the website of a non-profit founded  to encourage American students in science and technology – is:

a way of doing things that encourages high-quality work, emphasizes the value of others, and respects individuals and the community….

Fierce competition and mutual gain are not separate notions. Gracious professionals learn and compete like crazy, but treat one another with respect and kindness in the process. They avoid treating anyone like losers. No chest thumping tough talk, but no sticky-sweet platitudes either. Knowledge, competition, and empathy are comfortably blended.

Rush Limbaugh would barf.

And what about “Coopertition”?  The site explains:

Coopertition is displaying unqualified kindness and respect in the face of fierce competition. Coopertition is founded on the concept and a philosophy that teams can and should help and cooperate with each other even as they compete.

Coopertition involves learning from teammates. It is teaching teammates. It is learning from mentors. And it is managing and being managed. Coopertition means competing always, but assisting and enabling others when you can.

Rush would go into cardiac arrest.

But those are the principles of Lego League, which introduces students to real world engineering challenges by building Lego-based robots.  And for a group of Coleytown Middle School students, they’re winning concepts.

SNAP team members (from left) Lucas Nash, Ben Davis, Luke Sauer, Peter Sauer, Nathan Mosse, Alex Davis and Wells Bauman. The name SNAP comes from "snapping" Lego pieces together.

Kate Comstock Davis tried to get a team going there last year.   This fall a parent, Terry Sauer, formed a team in his basement.  His rookie team competed against large public and private middle school teams, many of which had several teachers in charge.

“We couldn’t have found a better coach anywhere,” Davis says.  “Terry lived up to the lofty ideals of Gracious Professionalism.  The results speak for themselves.”

Team members Wells Bauman, Alex Davis, Ben Davis, Nathan Mosse, Lucas Nash, Luke Sauer and Peter Sauer developed a Bike Beacon.  It uses Bluetooth technology to help solve transportation problems in the New York area.

In their 1st competition ever, the group placed 1st in the Project Research category at the Connecticut state championship earlier this month.

What a great accomplishment.  Congratulations to the entire team, and the coach.  You guys rock!

We are allowed to say that, right?

When The Times Talks

After months on the market, Adam Stolpen might have wondered what he had to do to create a buzz for his stunning 1928 Frazier Peters stone house on Spring Hill Road, off Wilton Road.

Then the New York Times came calling.

Before becoming a realtor, Stolpen’s agent — Dorothy Salisbury of Weichert — had done PR for Calvin Klein.  Twenty years ago she rolled out Obsession, so she knows something about publicity.

(Photo by Douglas Healey/The New York Times)

Intrigued by the house’s lineage — Peters’ unique stone houses are revered, for good reason — and its amenities like a sun porch, guest cottage and pond, Salisbury called the Times‘ real estate section.

A reporter spent several hours walking through the house, and interviewing Stolpen.  Three days later, photographer Douglas Healey arrived; he too spent nearly all day, taking shots.

That Saturday, Stolpen’s home appeared in the Sunday Times’ “On the Market in the Region” – in print and online.

The texts started immediately.  By the time Salisbury got to her snowy office on Sunday, she’d received 40 calls.  They kept coming.

A woman in New York was particularly fascinated by the house — and the town.  She said she’d be up as soon as she could — she wanted it for a weekend place.  She asked Salisbury not to show it to anyone else.  She said she’d pay the asking price:  $1,999,999.

(Photo by Douglas Healey/The New York Times)

Stolpen, meanwhile, was hearing from friends in California, Texas, Washington — all over the country.  A cousin from New Jersey asked:  “Is that your home in the Times?”

Stolpen wondered:  “Why do all these people look at the real estate section, when they’re never going to buy here?”

I have no idea.  But I do the same thing.

So was there any downside to having his house featured in the New York Times?

“None,” Stolpen said firmly.  “When you’re selling residential real estate, any publicity is good.”

Over Hillandale

Early last century, Michael Calise’s grandparents came to New York from Ischia, a small island near Naples.  They spent summers in Westport, and liked the town so much that in the 1920s they bought a 10-acre farm on Hillandale Road.  The land extended from what is now Cumberland Farms, down to Torno Lumber, and out to what is now the center median of the Post Road.

The cost was $25,000.  The mortgage was 100 percent.

Calise’s grandfather — also named Michael — grew vegetables in an enormous garden, and raised pheasants.  He loved his beautiful trees, and great hedges.

But when the Depression hit, he went back to work.  He opened Westport Fish and Poultry Market across the Saugatuck River, near National Hall.  Later — when Prohibition ended — he added a liquor store.

The bank called the mortgage on the 10-acre farm.  But the highest bid was only $11,000.  He kept the property, and eventually paid off the mortgage.

In the 1950s he sold the corner of his property, on Hillspoint Road, to Gulf, which built a gas station.  He then built a small shopping center, and moved his grocery and liquor stores there — much closer to home.

Michael and his wife, Caterina, maintained the farm until the early 1980s.  They added a barn, but made no changes to the house.   After they died, relatives lived there for more than a decade.  Eventually they died, and the Calise family heirs planned to sell the property.

But they did not want to lose its historic nature.  They searched for a builder who would restore it.  They found Anthony Ialeggio.  He’d done a lot of restorations in town — including the original Masiello homestead on Cross Highway.

The Calises formed a partnership with Ialeggio.  He designed 2 homes, on either side of the original.  One was Italianate; the other a Federal- style Colonial, with a barn and garage.

“He could have divided the property into 4 lots, but then he’d have had to demolish my grandparents’ house,” Calise said.  “He kept them, and now there’s a wonderful streetscape.”

13 Hillandale Road -- the original Calise farmhouse. (Photo by Dave Matlow/WestportNow.com)

The home Ialeggio restored retains the original porches, roof line, even window placements.  Most trees were saved too, including 2 magnificent magnolias.  The current owners — Peter and Stephanie Durette — received a Westport Historic District Preservation Award last fall.

“By restoring the farmhouse, and building 2 new ones in the older vernacular alongside it, it looks like they’ve all been there 100 years,” Calise said.  “It’s not a subdivision street; it’s a period street.”  Other homes on the road — including A.E. Hotchner’s nearby — date from the early 1900s too.

Calise called the project “a lesson for what builders can do.  This could have turned into an 8000-square foot monster, totally out of character for the area.  Instead the houses are attractive, and nicely proportioned.”

Calise — who owns Settlers & Traders Real Estate — knows that bigger homes mean bigger bucks for builders.  Buyers want big homes too — these days, in these parts, 4000 square feet is considered small.  With most buyers paying $280 to $300 per square foot, many builders build big to amortize the cost of land.

But 1 of the 2 new Hillandale homes sold quickly.  The other lagged a bit, because of the overall market.

Calise is delighted that his grandparents’ house has been so handsomely restored — and that now it’s surrounded by equally attractive, and well-proportioned, homes.

“People always stop and stare,” he said.  “They like what they see where my grandparents lived, and up and down the road.”

Note To The ‘Storm Of The Decade’

Never over-promise and under-deliver.

You Can Bank On It

The good news is:  Fairfield County Bank, opening next month at the formerly wooded corner of the Post Road and South Compo, looks neither new nor ugly.  In fact, it seems like it’s been there forever.

The bad news:  It’s a bank.

Just Asking…

In anticipation of today’s uber-snowstorm, Volvo of Westport moved all its new cars off the Post Road lot.  The theory, I guess, is they didn’t want them sanded, rock salted and buried by endless passes of plows.

But they’re not in the back lot — that’s empty too.

That’s the usual m.o. of dealerships in Westport.

I’m just wondering:  Where do all these cars go?

And how come no one ever sees them being driven away, or coming back?

Candlelight Concert Postponed

Tonight’s Candlelight Concerts at Staples High School have been postponed to tomorrow.  Sunday’s performances are set for 5 p.m., and 7:30 p.m.

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow…

Westport Library’s 15 Minutes

David Pogue is a man in constant motion.

The Westporter is a New York Times technology correspondent (print, online, video, blog), as well as 1 of the best selling how-to authors in the world (3 million books in print).

In his spare time, he’s an Emmy Award-winning tech correspondent for CBS News.

In that capacity, he swept into the Westport Library the other day.  He took a few photos, illustrating a piece that will run on “CBS Sunday Morning” tomorrow about wireless hot spots.

David uses Westport locations quite a bit — my favorite video had him tossing cellphones into the Saugatuck River — and while the Library’s appearance tomorrow might be closer to “15 seconds of fame” than “15 minutes,” it might be worth tuning in.  Whenever David Pogue talks, you’re bound to learn something.

Besides, what else can you do during a blizzard?