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Staples Administrator: “We Have Lost Someone Special”

Pat Micinilio is Staples High School’s assistant principal for the Class of 2025.

That’s the senior class Max Harper was part of.

In the aftermath of his tragic death yesterday, in a dirt bike accident, the assistant principal offers these thoughts. He incorporates some insights from Max’s counselor, Mattie Sokoloski.

Max was a beloved student at Staples High School.

I know this is said too often, but Max truly did have a larger-than-life personality.

He had only been at Staples for a little over a year, but he made his presence known from the moment he stepped onto campus.

Max Harper

He had an engaging and warm personality, filled with enthusiasm and happiness. Because of his genuine warmth, he quickly made friends here, and had so many of them.

Students were drawn to him, as evidenced by all of the kids who sat with him at lunch, walked with him in the hallways, or worked out with him in the fitness center after school.

He was such a bright spot in so many people’s day. And he had, perhaps, the best manners of any teenager with whom I have ever worked.

He was a “please” and “thank you” kid. No matter what kind of conversation we had in my office, he ended every one of those conversations with “I appreciate you.”

In fact, those were the last words he said to me.

Max loved to chat it up with many of us about his future plans. He had so many dreams and ambitions.

He often talked of wanting to start up new and unique businesses. From a clothing line to a construction business to working on automobiles, he had his sights high.

With Max’s personality, there was no doubt he would have had an amazing future in whatever avenue he decided to explore.

Max truly discovered his true self here at Staples, and flourished. He helped to make our school a brighter place by his sheer presence.

Staples assistant principal Pat Micinilio (right), speaking about Max Harper at this morning’s Compo Beach memorial. (Photo courtesy of Inklings)

Max was strong-willed and passionate about the people and things that were important to him. His ability to connect with others, no matter who they were, was unmatched.

He never shied away from a conversation or meeting someone new.

Even if you only met Max once, he was a friend for life. He greeted everyone in the hallway, no matter if he knew them or not.

His kind, laid back and fun-spirited nature made his peers gravitate to him. To know Max was to love Max.

His love for life and his big dreams were an inspiration to all. His impact on our school and our community is a true testament to how special a person Max is. He was one of a kind.

The loss we are feeling now is because of how special Max was, and how much he meant to so many at Staples.

Malik Brantley: “This Place Has Given Me Everything”

Staples High School graduation is Friday. As they receive their diplomas, 463 seniors will earn well-deserved applause and whistles.

None should be cheered louder than Malik Brantley.

Malik Brantley a few days before graduation, in front of the Staples track trophy case.

Malik Brantley a few days before graduation, in front of the Staples track trophy case.

His story begins in Georgia. His father disappeared when Malik was 2, and his sister Claudine was 1.

His mother, Monique, married a man named Lavert. Malik called him “Dad.” But the couple divorced when Malik was 12.

Monique took her kids to Norwich, Connecticut, where she had an aunt. She got a job as a home health aide.

The next year, they moved to nearby Montville. Malik played middle school football — he was fast and good. The day he scored his 1st touchdown, he looked jubilantly into the stands. Lavert had promised he’d be at the game.

He wasn’t there.

“I shut down for a while,” Malik recalls. “Most kids had dads who taught them football. Everyone always asked where my dad was.”

Monique trained him to run faster. “She pushed me,” he says. “I hated her for that. But she’s tough. She took on both roles: mother and father.”

Malik Brantley.

Malik Brantley.

Moving again, Malik entered Norwich Free Academy (the city’s public high school). “All I cared about was football, hanging out and girls,” he says. Around that time, a drug dealer in his building was killed.

“I smoked a lot of weed,” Malik says. His friends sold drugs. But Malik  soon pulled away from that group.

An assistant principal at NFA was like a father figure. Yet the atmosphere was not encouraging. A guidance counselor told Malik he could go to community college, at best.

Malik got a job at Foxwoods’ bingo hall. Sometimes he worked double shifts. He gave most of his money to his mother. But he also bought sneakers and clothes. He wanted to look as good as the other kids.

In the middle of sophomore year, Malik’s mother took him to Greenwich Village. He always had a way with words. She’d arranged for him to meet with the director of a comedy club. He took classes, learned stand-up, and performed. The crowd loved him.

He also joined the NFA track team. When he ran, he thought of his paternal grandfather. He’d met him for the 1st time a few months earlier, and been inspired by him. Eight months after Malik met him, though, he died.

Midway through junior year, Monique’s name finally came up for housing — in Westport’s Hales Court. It was financially difficult, but she was determined that her children go to the best school possible. The family moved from a 2-bedroom apartment to a 3-bedroom house. “It’s really nice,” Malik says.

Yet Westport was a culture shock. On his 1st day at Staples, Malik walked into the cafeteria. He saw a sea of white faces — and walked right back out.

For 2 or 3 months, he felt uncomfortable. But, thanks to members of the track team — particularly star distance runner Henry Wynne — Malik found a spot for himself.

Malik Brantley, Staples track star.

Malik Brantley, Staples track star.

Coach Laddie Lawrence provided constant encouragement. So did guidance counselor Deb Slocum. When Malik repeated what his NFA counselor told him —  that all he could hope for was community college — she shook her head. She told him he could go to a 4-year school. And she followed up often, pushing him with a combination of toughness and tenderness.

When he handed in his research paper, English teacher Susan O’Hara gave it a “B.” Malik was content. O’Hara was not. She told him she knew he could rewrite it. He did — and got an “A.”

“Staples is the same size as NFA,” Malik says. “But the support system here is so much stronger. Mr. (John) Dodig (principal), Laddie, all my teachers — I can’t thank them enough. They were all there for me.”

Earlier this year, Malik got in some trouble. Assistant principal Pat Micinilio said, “I still respect you as a young man.” Malik was surprised — but soon realized the administrator truly meant it.

“I like getting up in the morning and going to school,” Malik adds. “I’ve found my place socially. I’m friends with a lot of different types of people.” Last week, he finished his senior internship at Green’s Farms Elementary School.

Malik says, “Staples changed my life. I honestly believe if I was back in Norwich I would’ve kept smoking weed, working 9 to 5, hanging out, or even worse, got into dealing.”

Malik Brantley in culinary class.

Malik Brantley in culinary class.

Instead, he’s headed to Monroe College. He’ll study culinary arts and physical education. He’s a recruited track athlete.

And — because he received the Laddie Lawrence Scholarship, Staples Tuition Grants and other awards — he does not have to worry about student loans.

“I’m poor,” Malik says. “I’ve worked hard for these” — he points to his Nike sneakers. “I keep them clean. I can’t go out and get another pair just like that.”

But — despite his preconceptions — he does not find Westporters stuck up.

“It’s not a rich, snobby town. Yes, there is money here, and big heads. But lots of people are willing to help.”

As one of very few black males at Staples, he felt intimidated at first. But, Malik says, “In Norwich I had to be tough. Here I didn’t have to show that side.”

Instead, he turned a 1.0 GPA into a 3.4. He made countless friends and memories. He shakes his head. “When I look back at what I used to be, that’s just crazy.”

Malik smiles broadly. “Given the chance, I’d be so happy to come back to teach and coach here. I feel I owe something to Staples. It’s given me everything.

“I love this school and town.”

Malik Brantley, surrounded by Staples friends.

Malik Brantley, surrounded by Staples friends.