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Women’s Equality: A Letter, 102 Years Later

Over 100 years ago, women of both political parties worked together to provide women the right to vote. Westporters played a big role. (Click here for the back story.)

Now, in 2022, a bipartisan effort involving women voters is underway here.

Recently, Wilton resident Pamela Hovland was asked to write a letter to the editor for a political candidate.

She decided to do something more impactful: submit a non-partisan statement from women, to women. Those signatures would mean much more, she thought, than a letter signed by only one voter.

Pamela thought of the suffragists, and her own role designing a series of commemorative 19th Amendment “I voted” stickers for the 2020 election. The state of Connecticut printed and distributed 6 million of them, celebrating various women of that era. She repurposed them for her 2022 letter (below).

Pamela reached out to women and girls in Wilton. They covered a range of ages and political affiliations — but all are united around women’s equality.

Westporter Jessica Hill heard about the initiative. She asked if a similar letter could be circulated here. Pamela said, of course!

The letter is a way of using collective voices to to speak out about “the sacred law of humanity” (a suffragists’ phrase).

So far, over 125 Westport women have signed on.

“At a time of political polarization, this letter is not about political affiliation,” Pamela notes.

“It is, rather, a united voice for equal rights from the people whose lives depend on it.”

A 92-year-old woman added her name. So did a young mother of 2 daughters. High school and college students have signed too.

“We’re all in this together,” Pamela says.

She is excited to see more names added to the letter every day. It is a public acknowledgment, Pamela says, that “we celebrate all that we are, and all that we can be.

“Much is written about voter fatigue and apathy. But the recent actions taking away reproductive healthcare have prompted many of us to find new ways to create community, and to feel empowered to ‘get back out there’ and demand what is rightfully ours.

“We all have our voice, our vote and our signatures. And we will one day be treated as equal citizens under the law.”

After the election the physical letter, with all signatures, will be donated to the Wilton Historical Society. “It will be proof that women in this community are committed to this cause, and that we are thankful for — and inspired to continue the hard work done by our suffragist role models,” Pamela says.

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The letter says:

We believe this moment in time is not “politics as usual.”

We are inspired by Westport women who came before us – Republicans and Democrats alike – who rallied and door-knocked and wrote letters and took personal risks for over 7 decades in pursuit of the right to vote.

Today, more than 100 years after the 19th Amendment was added to our Constitution, women are still not equal under the law. This is both unethical and un-American. Overturning Roe v Wade was, quite simply, a violation of our dignity and human rights.

Join us in mobilizing the power of the collective to promote women’s issues in 2022. Issues that are personal, familial and community focused. Issues that include privacy and individual freedoms and the education, safety and well-being of our children. Issues that impact the identity and vitality of our town.

When we cast our ballots in November, we must vote for policies, candidates and parties that validate our equal status, shared values and the survival of our democracy. Throughout history and in societies across the globe, women have united against marginalization. Demanding that our elected officials stand up for the rights of more than half the population is fundamental to our life, liberty and pursuit of happiness.

Committed to moving forward in our homes, our schools and workplaces, our village, our state and our country, we respectfully ask you, friends and neighbors from diverse political ideologies, to:

  • Recognize your power
  • Accept your responsibility
  • Vote in the best interests of yourself and your sisters, daughters, mothers, girlfriends and granddaughters.

As Westport suffragists Lillian Wald, Amelia Shaw MacDonald Cutler, Sara Buek Crawford, Anna Holden Mazzanovich, Laura Gardin Fraser, Rose O’Neill and others bravely did over 100 years ago, stand up for the women and girls you know and don’t yet know, in Westport and in destinations far from here.

Our causes are also theirs.

Women of Westport unite. And V O T E.

Westport women wishing to sign the letter should email Jessica Hill: jmbhill24@gmail.com.

Working Mothers Forge Post-COVID Bonds

Raising children in the suburbs during the pandemic is hard.

It’s especially difficult for women, who often bear the greatest burden.

Even women working in the mental health field have found themselves anxious, uncertain and alone.

Jessica Hill

Jessica Hill has spent her life bringing people together. Now she’s doing it again — specifically, for women in the maternal mental health space.

The other night, a group of mostly solo entrepreneurs and practitioners gathered at Nômade.

The goal was to share lessons learned during COVID, network, forge partnerships — and realize that as they manage the many physical and emotional transitions of parenthood, they’re not alone.

Hill has the chops to do all that. A Massachusetts native and motherhood coach, she moved here with her husband and young children in 2013.

When her husband was transferred from London to New York, a colleague told him to check out Westport. “It’s a kid’s mecca,” the co-worker said.

The Hills were not disappointed. They drove from the airport to Compo Beach, fell in love with the playground, and never looked anywhere else.

In 2017 Hill started The Parent Collective. Its classes, support groups and coaching sessions support mothers at all stages.

Her latest venture — the result of a conversation with Dana Czuczka, a certified lactation consultant — drew about 15 women. Another dozen or so were interested, but (perhaps because they are working mothers) unavailable.

The group included OB/GYNs, a pelvic floor specialist, yoga teacher, acupuncture and wellness experts, and family, couples and sex therapists.

Jessica Hill’s group, at Nomade.

They described the loneliness of working alone, and the overwhelming feelings of parenthood. They discussed ways to work together holistically, through referrals and projects.

“There are mothers raising children who have never had playdates,” Hill says, referring to the coronavirus’ collateral damage. “But the mothers are isolated too. People just want to feel connected now.”

After the meeting, several participants said they’d hesitated to come. “They were tired. They just wanted to put on sweatpants and watch TV,” Hill says.

“But they all said they were glad they came. They met old friends, and made new ones. They felt energized.

“We’re all juggling lots of plates. It takes a lot to get motivated, and out the door. But this is really important.”

Hill says the group will meet quarterly. Several women have already offered to host meetings at their workplaces.

(For more information, email jessica@theparentcollective.com.)

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Pregnant Parents Collect Info, Friends

It’s tough being pregnant. (I am told.)

It can even be tougher once your baby is born — particularly if your partner works long hours, and you’re home alone. (That makes sense too.)

Every new mother has questions and concerns. Every new mother needs a support network.

The Brits have an answer. Their National Childbirth Trust offers pre-natal classes — organized by neighborhood and due date. Mothers-to-be receive important information — and new mums have a ready-made, nearby group of friends.

Melissa Griffin is a native of London. When her daughter was born 5 years ago, the NCT was a godsend.

Jessica Hill is American. She spent 10 years in the UK. When her son was born there 7 years ago, she was an ocean away from family. She too found education and friends at the Trust.

Melissa Griffin and Jessica Hill.

Melissa Griffin and Jessica Hill.

Melissa and Jessica did not know each other in England. But a few years ago, both moved to Westport. Both had children at the same pre-school. As they became friends, both realized that nothing like the National Childbirth Trust existed here.

So they set out to create one.

“So many newcomers in Westport are pregnant,” Jessica says. “It can be an isolating experience. You have no way to meet people. And once the baby comes, you’re on your newborn’s schedule.”

Beginning last fall, the women conducted focus groups. Out of those discussions came The Parent Collective.

Parent Collective logoIn some ways, it’s even better than the NCT. Melissa and Jessica reach out to women pregnant with their 2nd or 3rd children. Husbands are warmly welcomed too.

The Parent Collective launches its first classes this fall. They’ll be taught by labor delivery nurses, childbirth educators, lactation specialists and therapists, from Yale and St. Vincent’s Hospital.

Each group of 12-15 couples will attend 4 sessions (once a weekend, for a month). There’s 90 minutes of content, and 30 minutes of socializing (“tea and biscuits,” Melissa calls it).

First-time parents will talk about labor and delivery, pain management and relaxation, breast and bottle feeding, and new baby care. Second- and 3rd-timers get a refresher on delivery and newborn care, plus sleep training and scheduling tips, strategies for helping older children adjust, and — kids are encouraged to attend — how to be a good big brother or sister.

Classes are “judgment-free,” Melissa notes. “It’s not about breast feeding or bottle feeding, or natural childbirth versus Caesareans.”

The women begin with 3 locations: Intensity Fitness on the Westport/Norwalk border, Magic Beans toy store in Fairfield, and Go Figure barre studio in New Canaan. All are “peaceful, beautiful, clean spaces,” Jessica says.

(Photo/courtesy of Classic Kids Greenwich)

(Photo/courtesy of Classic Kids Greenwich)

Sure, hospitals offer informational sessions for new parents. But, Jessica says, they don’t include the social aspects. It’s important for wives (and their husbands) to form friendships with others whose kids will be born around the same time. They can offer each other help — with newborns, and with life.

Jessica’s husband reluctantly went to the London NCT group, she says. He quickly learned how to help her in many ways.

She recalls an exercise the men went through: Donning a backpack filled with water bottles, and wearing it around their chest and stomach. “It was eye-opening,” she smiles.

The response during this roll-out phase has been uplifting. Mothers-to-be are delighted to find both support and friends. Ob/Gyns are recommending it to their patients.

Jessica couldn’t imagine being pregnant, and then a new mother, without the NCT. She recalls her last session, when the group planned a party before their due dates — and scheduled a morning coffee for after their babies arrived.

Her new British parent friends acted collectively.

Now — thanks to the Parent Collective — Fairfield County parents can do the same.

(The Parent Collective is accepting applications for its fall classes. Parents who are due then — and any others — can click here for more information.)