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Alan Nevas: A Friend’s Son Remembers

Douglass Davidoff writes:

I am in tears for our loss of Judge Alan Nevas. I did not know him well, and yet Alan has been a constant positive presence in my life for most of my 67 years, ever since my parents moved to Westport in 1959 when I was 2 years old.

My father, Jerry Davidoff (1926-2009), was 2 years older than Alan. From the moment my dad set up a law office on Church Lane in downtown Westport in 1959 he had a deep respect, admiration and collegial attitude about Alan Nevas.

Back during the 1960s there were only about 30 attorneys in Westport. They all knew each other. Dad talked about his colleagues often at the dinner table, so we learned about people like Ned Dimes, Steve Tate, Ed Capasse, Larry Weisman and Alan Nevas.

I think Alan and my father had a similar approach to the practice of law in Westport. They were also politically competitive. Alan was a Republican at a time when Republicans ran things in Westport, and Dad was a Democrat working to win elections whenever possible. They liked each other a lot, and I think they stayed out of each other‘s way in politics.

Alan Nevas

Dad ran for the Connecticut House of Representatives and lost. He later served on the Westport Board of Education and Representative Town Meeting. Alan won local elections. He served on the Board of Finance, and represented Westport in the Connecticut House of Representatives.

Since Dad has been dead for 16 years, I don’t think there’s any harm in reporting for posterity that he tried a couple of times to secure a state judgeship during the years that Democrats ran things at the State Capitol. Dad did not succeed in this dream — a disappointment.

But Alan succeeded in the same pursuit. He served his state and his nation as the US attorney for Connecticut, and then as a federal judge. Every single one of us is better off for Alan‘s contribution to jurisprudence in Connecticut and the nation.

That’s not me talking. That’s my father Jerry talking through me, to remember his friend.

Jerry Davidoff and his wife Denny.  (Photo/copyright Nancy Pierce)

For me, one episode stands out. About 7 years ago, when I began researching my family history on Ancestry.com, I found a news clipping from the Westport correspondent for the Bridgeport Post-Telegram providing a report on the spring 1969 Vietnam War protest in Westport. This was a day of events, when people gathered together to protest our government’s war in Southeast Asia.

I was a student at Long Lots Junior High School. Students at Staples High School secured permission from the principal and superintendent to march from Staples to the afternoon protest in downtown Westport, at the corner of State Street (Post Road East) and Main Street.

No such permission was granted to junior high school students. But there were hundreds of like-minded junior high school students, so just before the event the principals and the superintendent acquiesced and sanctioned marches to downtown by students from Long Lots, Coleytown and Bedford Junior Highs.

In splendid weather we converged on downtown, where many hundreds of adults also gathered. From the steps of the old YMCA (now Anthropologie), there were speakers arrayed against the war. A keynote address was given by a member of Congress, recruited to come to Westport to speak against the war.

 

A view from the steps of the YMCA (now Anthropologie) of the Vietnam protest downtown. Photo/Adrian Hlynka)

That night, in what became one of my strongest memories growing up in Westport, about 500 townspeople crowded into the sanctuary at The Unitarian Church in Westport for a candlelight vigil. The names of 500 Connecticut military war dead were read aloud.

After each small batch of names was read aloud in the darkened sanctuary, another row of townspeople in the pews was invited to light their candles. Slowly, the sanctuary became illuminated by candlelight. Paul Newman spoke, and we all know how rare it was for Paul Newman to speak publicly in Westport.

What I learned only recently from that newspaper clipping is that this day of townwide protest and prayer was the deep planning work of Alan Nevas and my father, along with a strong group of lawyers, physicians and clergy in the town.

They organized the program for the protest downtown. They organized the vigil that night. They were from the tight-knit group of local professional leaders in Westport — people like Drs. Jack Schiller and Paul Beres; clergy like the Revs. Ed Lane of the Unitarian Church, Ted Hoskins of the Saugatuck Congregational Church and Rabbi Byron T. Rubenstein of Temple Israel — and attorneys like Alan Nevas and my dad.

When I came across these names in the Bridgeport paper, none meant more to me than to see that Alan Nevas had collaborated with my dad on this effort.

Alan Nevas (Photo courtesy of WestportNow)

If he were alive today at age 99, my dad would be weeping for the loss of his friend, his admired colleague for 4 decades in the practice of law and service to clients and to justice in Westport and Connecticut, a man aligned with the opposite party but so closely aligned with my dad in core values and mutual respect for the law, and for the town and its citizens whom they both loved with so much heart.

Alan Nevas was a pillar of our community. As I said much earlier, I did not know him well but he was such a treasured friend and colleague for my dad that it is hard to describe what a strong presence Alan was nonetheless for me.

My prayers today and during services tomorrow are for the Nevas family, and for the cause of justice in Westport, in Connecticut, and in the federal courts of the United States, now and forever more.

Goodbye, Alan. Farewell.

Rev. Taylor Renews A Contract — And A Congregation

The Unitarian Universalist Congregation in Westport does not rush things.

Whether the issue is tapping the endowment to pay for building maintenance, or where to stand on a social justice issue, members study and debate deliberately.

Then they act decisively.

That’s the process they’re taking to replace former minister Rev. Dr. John Morehouse.

When Rev. Alan Taylor showed interest in becoming interim minister — while still serving at Unity Temple in Oak Park, Illinois, where he’d developed a refugee resettlement program and mental health awareness team, engaged his church in legislative advocacy and charity work, and where his wife and teenage children were living happily — they worked out a hybrid model.

Rev. Taylor spends 10 days a month in Westport. Back home, he carries out his duties via email, Zoom and phone. He serves in partnered ministry with UU Westport’s longtime minister of music, Rev. Ed Thompson.

Rev. Alan Taylor

The Westport church still has not called a permanent minister. They’ve renewed Rev. Taylor’s contract for a second year, through August of 2025.

And there’s an option to renew it again, for one more year after that.

As he did a year ago, Rev. Taylor asked his family if the arrangement was okay. His wife, Angelica Taylor-Cortes, gave up her career as a language instructor and cross-cultural consultant to stay at home with their children, now 16 and 13.

Being away from his family one-third of every month is not easy. But, Rev. Taylor says, “my wife recognizes how fulfilled I am. This is such meaningful work, providing leadership to a congregation that was once a flagship in our denomination.”

The congregation is still, he says, “thoughtful and engaged. They want to create a community that benefits themselves, and the entire country.

“A significant number of folks want to figure out how to live their faith in a meaningful way, through charity, social justice and advocacy.”

Noted architect Victor Lundy designed Westport’s striking Unitarian Universalist building.

The Unitarian Universalist Congregation in Westport has a long, storied history. Activists like Jerry and Denny Davidoff were national leaders in the UU movement. The church played a major role too when Connecticut considered eliminating the death penalty.

Locally, Rev. Ed Lane had coordinated clergy to protest the Vietnam War.

Over the years though, the local church pulled back a bit. There was, Rev. Taylor learned, “a certain amount of conflict” over the past decade.

They always continued their charity work. During COVID, for example, the congregation provided meals in Bridgeport, by making sack lunches. It was the only organization to do so.

That type of problem-solving — and the Westport church’s history — appealed to Rev. Taylor, whose background included 3 years as a counselor for abused children, and working in Illinois on gun violence prevention, the criminal justice system, and with undocumented immigrants.

In Westport — and from his home office in Oak Park — Rev. Taylor wants to help the church here lay the groundwork for the next 25 or 30 years.

The sanctuary on Lyons Plains Road.

He is challenging the congregation to have “difficult conversations about what is important, both as a group and one-on-one. We need to understand what we really value.”

To do that, Rev. Taylor says, “individuals need to hear each other’s thoughts. These are not natural conversations to have. They take incredible energy. But they can be really beautiful.”

Church members like David Vita are, he notes, “very effective at this. They’re helping us figure out how to come together as a progressive faith community, and discern our core commitments.”

In Westport, Rev. Taylor has joined with other clergy on important projects. After October 7 he headed to Temple Israel, the congregation’s Coleytown Road neighbor.

In return, Rabbi Michael Friedman brought their Torah to the UU church.

Rev. Taylor has also taken his congregants to Bridgeport’s Islamic Center, to show solidarity.

The newly rehired interim minister looks forward to uniting the Unitarian Universalist Congregation in Westport over the next 16 months.

Or perhaps the next 30.

Rev. Alan Taylor.

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Remembering Denny Davidoff

Denny Davidoff — a Westporter and pioneering advertising agency owner whose work with the Unitarian Universalist church helped shape liberal religion in North America, and inter-religious dialogue globally — died on December 7.

She was 85. In July she was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma in her brain.

Denny moved to Westport in 1959 with her husband Jerry — a lawyer and civil liberties advocate. They knew the town well: Both their parents had summer homes here.

In 1960 Denny joined Westport’s Unitarian Church. She became a leader locally, then nationally, fighting for gender equity and against racism. In 1973 she was chosen to be president of Unitarian Universalism’s Women’s  Federation. Her work helped lead to pioneering gender-inclusive language.

From 1992 to 2000 — as moderator, the highest lay position in national leadership — Denny wielded the gavel in what the church itself calls “sometimes unruly” debates. She preached in more than 100 congregations, and mentored generations of ministers and lay leaders.

Denise Davidoff speaks at this year’s General Assembly in New Orleans, her 50th consecutive annual meeting. (Photo/copyright Christopher L. Walton)

Denny held many other leadership positions. Until her illness, she worked for Meadville-Lombard Theological School in Chicago, supporting development of new UU ministers.

Denny was a board member and founder of the Interfaith Alliance, and its foundation. As a director of the Alban Institute, she consulted for congregations of many denominations.

Besides her role in religion, Denny was a leader in Connecticut business and politics. She founded her ad agency in Fairfield in the mid-1960s — the “Mad Men” era. She specialized in advertising for financial institutions.

Denny volunteered for non-profits, including the Westport Library, the NEON anti-poverty agency, and a mental health association in Norwalk. Her longest community service — beginning in 1992, and lasting to her death — was as a director and executive community member of The WorkPlace, helping create and manage programs in Connecticut and nationally.

Denny graduated from Vassar College. After running errands during the 1952 Democratic convention, she remained active in politics — and met her future husband on an election campaign.

In 2006 Jerry and Denny Davidoff received the Award for Distinguished Service to the Cause of Unitarian Universalism. (Photo/copyright Nancy Pierce)

Denny served on the Westport Democratic Town Committee, and ran ad campaigns for candidates throughout Fairfield County. She also provided advertising for Ella Grasso, the first American woman elected governor without being married to a previous governor.

She and Jerry enjoyed cruising the New England coast on their 38-foot sailboat. At home, she played show tunes and classical compositions on the piano. Jerry died in 2009.

Denny is survived by her sons Douglass of Bridgeport and John of Evanston, Illinois, and 4 grandchildren. A memorial service is set for February 3 (3 p.m.). Of course, it will be held at Westport’s Unitarian Church, on Lyons Plains Road.

 

Jerry Davidoff’s Concern

It’s ancient history to many Westporters, but in 1970 our town engaged in an ugly battle over a plan to bus a few Bridgeport students to Westport.

The proposal — Project Concern — was passed by the Board of Education.  Enraged citizens initiated a recall petition against the board chairman, Joan Schine. 

An enormous crowd packed a hearing in the Staples auditorium.  When Westport Education Association president Dick Leonard announced that his executive board had voted to endorse Project Concern, and oppose the recall effort, a man standing in the front leaped to his feet. 

That started a standing ovation — in part of the room.  The other part booed.

Jerry and Denny Davidoff

Jerry Davidoff and his wife, Denny (Photo courtesy of http://www.uua.org)

The man was Jerry Davidoff.  He died Saturday at 83.  A 40-year resident of Westport, he served for nearly a decade on the Board of Ed — 2 as chairman — and 4 more on the RTM.

“Jerry was willing to stick his neck out, and stand up for what was right,” Leonard recalled this morning.  “He was a liberal thinker, and a very constructive influence on Westport life for many years.”

Jerry Davidoff accomplished much in his life of service to Westport.  In addition to politics, he earned renown as a champion of civil liberties, and a national lay leader in the Unitarian Universalist church.

But Dick Leonard will always remember Jerry Davidoff for the moment he rose to his feet, in a moment of passion and power, and led a standing ovation for a cause he believed was right.