Category Archives: Looking back

Charles Joyner’s Journey: North Carolina, Africa And Westport

Growing up in Smithfield, North Carolina in the 1950s and early ’60s, Charles Joyner was embraced by his community. There were strong role models up and down the street. Everyone looked out for each other. And if he misbehaved somewhere, his parents knew before he got home.

But the small agricultural town was segregated. Charles had to walk past a white school to get to his Black one. So in 1964, when an assistant principal announced that the American Friends Service Committee was accepting applications for its Southern Negro Student Program, he was excited.

The program brought African American students north. They lived with host families, and attended desegregated schools.

Charles Joyner

Charles’ mother worked in the Burlington factory. She was unsure. His father, who had been blind since 14, helped Charles convince her. Feeling pressure to succeed — not just for himself, but his entire community — in 1964 he headed to Westport.

The Ader family — Saul, his wife Leda, and their children Peter and Wendy — opened their home to Charles. There were culture shocks (“that first Sunday with bagels and lox was something!” he laughs). But the Aders’ extended family and friends — and soon the broader Staples High school community — welcomed the newcomer from North Carolina.

It helped that Charles was a very good football player. But his friends came from many groups. Lou Nistico and his family — owners of the popular Arrow restaurant in Saugatuck — were among his strongest supporters.

Joyner’s experience was not like some others in the SNSP program. It was not easy to adjust to new schools. Northern communities were not always welcoming. He considers himself fortunate to have landed in Westport. He has nothing but fond memories of his 2 years here.

He had always loved art. But, he says, he was “busy being a jock.” He did not take advantage of Staples’ excellent art courses.

A recent work by Charles joyner.

He did, however, take a mechanical drawing course at Staples, with the legendary Werner Friess. A meticulous man, he fined students if their T-squares fell on the floor. He influenced Joyner greatly.

So did a friend of the Aders, an architect with an office in Greenwich Village. Joyner spent entire days with him.

Joyner also remembers his summer job with nursery owner and landscaper Evan Harding. Though the work was mostly outdoors, one day he asked Joyner to create a set of drawings for him.

After graduation, Joyner headed to Iowa State University to play football.

The experience was not good — for him, or the few other Black athletes there. But he got a good foundation in landscape architecture. After transferring to North Carolina Agricultural and Technical University, Joyner pivoted a bit to his longtime passion, art.

The tradition was easy. The “structure” of mechanical drawing and architecture became part of Joyner’s style. He earned a degree in art and design from A&T, then earned an MFA at the University of North Carolina-Greensboro. He added printmaking and photography to his skills.

His work won awards in national exhibitions, and is exhibited around the US and in Africa. He was awarded 2 grants for public arts projects.

“Village @ Ntonso” (Charles Joyner)

Joyner is a noted teacher of art and design too. He became department chair — and assistant dean — at North Carolina State University’s noted College of Design.

He had long wanted to go to Africa. A 1994 trip to establish a study abroad program (“at NC State the white kids went to Europe; the Black kids did not go anywhere,” he says) was the first of over 2 dozen visits.

 

Joyner helped create a robust program, extending from Accra, Ghana into small villages in nearly every region, encompassing sculpture, weaving, pottery and batik.

But Joyner never forgot his Westport roots. Two years ago, he was honored to be interviewed for the Westport Library’s Artist in Residence archives series.

And when the Westport Permanent Art Collections asked to buy one of his works, Joyner donated it instead.

Next week, he returns to Westport. A new exhibit — “Charles Joyner: Stepping Out on Faith” — opens at the Westport Library on Thursday, March 10.

That night (6:30 p.m. reception; 7 p.m. event, in-person and Zoom), he joins Emmy and Peabody-winning filmmaker, playwright and professor Trey Ellis — a Westport resident — for a panel discussion.

“As a storyteller myself, I’m proud to be right here to help ignite the conversation around the impact that the Southern Negro Student Program had on racial identity social justice and education — and the hard work we still have to do,” Ellis says.

They’ll be joined by Bonnyeclaire Smith Stewart. A former SNSP student herself at Norwalk High, she is the founder and executive director of 4 Million Voices. The nonprofit researches and publishes accounts of the lives of African Americans. She is developing a documentary film about Black students who came north to finish high school.

Smith Stewart and Joyner have been friends for over 50 years. He looks forward to seeing her here — along with many other Westport friends, old and new.

(No pre-registration is needed for Trefz Forum event. Click here for the Zoom link, to watch at home.) 

Roundup: Twilight Zone, Parks & Rec Registration, Cell Tower …

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Submitted for your approval: “Westport in the Twilight Zone.”

Rod Serling used that “submitted” phrase only 3 times, as writer and host of one of television’s most acclaimed series ever. But it’s come to be associated with him.

Did you know that? And did you know that — beyond the famed ““Willoughby” episode, featuring a train ride to Saugatuck, Westport influenced other “Twilight Zone”s?

And why not? He lived here in the 1950s.

Find out more about Rod Serling and Westport tonight (Wednesday, March 2, 6 p.m., Zoom) at a free webinar: “Westport in the Twilight Zone.” The host and guide is Westport author/artist Arlen Schumer.

You can journey into that other world by clicking here. The meeting ID is: 884 7739 9778. The passcode is 653762. No advance sign-up is necessary.

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Registration for many Westport Parks & Recreation’s spring and summer programs began online at 9 a.m. this morning. Registration for Camp Compo, RECing and pickleball begins later: 9 a.m. on Monday, March 28.

Spots go quickly. Click here to see all the choices.

Problems? Email recreation@westportct.gov or call 203-341-5152.

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Kitt Shapiro hosted an overflow crowd last night at WEST, the great downtown women’s store she owns.

But the focus was not on shopping. She was there as an author. Her book “Eartha & Me: A Daughter’s Love Story in Black and White” — published in November — is already in its second printing.

It’s a memoir of growing up with her mother, Eartha Kitt. Nearly everyone there had already read it. They asked pointed, poignant and provocative questions. Kitt described her mother’s influence and legacy — on her, and on the world.

The event was sponsored by AWARE (Assisting Women with Actions, Resources and Education), the non-profit that — like Eartha Kitt and Kitt Shapiro — empowers women every day.

Kitt Shapiro, and the WEST crowd. (Photo/John Videler Photography)

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A “balloon test” scheduled for Presidents Day — to show exactly how high a proposed 124-foot cell tower would rise, on private property at 92 Greens Farms Road — was canceled the night before. It was hastily rescheduled for 7 a.m. today.

Westporter Don Bergmann wrote several local officials, expressing anger at the late notice provided to the town and its residents.

At 8 a.m., Jaime Bairaktaris — publisher of Westport Local Press — drove by. He reports not seeing any balloon.

Neither did RTM member Andrew Colabella.

Westporter Steve Goldstein headed to the site an hour later, and saw nothing — except, that is, 2 police officers who had been there since 7.

A cell tower been proposed for the property on the left: 92 Greens Farms Road. (Photo courtesy of Google Maps)

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Jesse and Sefra Levin grew up in the comfort of Westport. Life here is almost always safe.

But for nearly 20 years, the Staples High School Class of 2003 twins have been on a mission: helping prepare people around the globe to survive any kind of disaster, natural or manmade. They’ve taught “readiness skills” to veterans, disaster response teams and entrepreneurs. The Levins call themselves “bespoke readiness outfitters.”

A couple of years ago, they had a pop-up shop in Bedford Square. They outfitted customers with gear, and offered advice and training, for every conceivable emergency.

Now they’re in Poland, at the Ukrainian border. In less than 2 days they gathered medical supplies, and made their first delivery.

Their goal is to ramp up a medical supply chain, and help coordinate between international military veteran first response efforts and in-country operational elements.

A growing network of Polish and Ukrainian contacts helps identify and relay real-time needs from conflict areas, and ensure effective distribution of supplies and equipment to where they are needed most.

(Hat tip: Lynn Untermeyer Miller)

Jesse and Sefra Levin

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There’s less than a month to go before dogs are banned from Compo Beach. Which means we won’t be able to run “Westport … Naturally” photos like this, from April 1 through the end of September.

Tessie on the Compo jetty (Photo/Gwen Tutun)

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And finally … on this day in 1498, Vasco da Gama’s fleet visited the island of Mozambique.

Remembering Mark Koffman

Photographic artist Elizabeth Opalenik lived here from 1979 to 1992, when she married and moved to California. She returns often to visit friends from those years, and calls them “the best ‘family’ I ever had.”

She loves sitting on Nick Visconti’s  porch looking at Old Mill Beach. He and Mark Koffman were partners in Ships, the legendary downtown restaurant where Tiffany is today.

Mark died earlier this month in Vermont, after a long illness. Elizabeth writes:

With the Valentine’s Day passing of Mark Koffman, a generous heart has been extinguished.

I remember Mark as a creative, gregarious entrepreneur. He started Mark’s Place East in Westport. It began as a teen club, and was being transformed into a discotheque when, looking for adventure, I answered its help wanted ad.

Like so many others, my life was changed by being in Mark’s orbit. We remained friends for over 50 years.​​

We built a plexiglass dance floor pulsing with colored  lights, and hung strands of beaded glass that you passed through to lounge on overstuffed pillows on carpeted riser steps. Disco was the rage, and nightly you could see the lights pulsing through the second floor arched windows overlooking Main Street.

Hanging out at Mark’s Place …

The crowds were mesmerized by a very good local band, The Repairs. I can attest to how busy the club was by the number of drink chips we counted late into the night after closing, while letting the iguana that lived in a large glass tank roam freely.

This was usually followed by Mark taking any staff still awake out for 3 a.m.  breakfast somewhere.

Mark had energy and ideas, that was for sure. The place was magical and lively.

… and playing there. (Photos courtesy of Rufus Eakin)

Later, Mark morphed it into a jazz club featuring many big name New York bands (including Weston’s own Don Elliott on vibraphone).

When Mark’s Place East closed it became another jazz club, Rosebud’s.

Mark then bought what was to become the Ships restaurant. In his most persuasive manner he dragged me kicking and screaming from Rosebuds, to behind his bar.  

I thought Mark was crazy. At that time the smoke-filled bar was rather seedy with local “ bar patrons” holding score cards in the Main Street window, rating any woman who walked by.  

Still, Mark was a visionary. With the help of friends he created “The Ships,” which became legendary in Westport.

In 1983 Al Willmot painted Ships restaurant, in the heart of downtown.

So did those windows. For Mark also believed in helping others — like Westporter John Huminski.​

​Mark and Ships; manager Nick Visconti trained with John. A regular, he was to compete in swimming and weightlifting at the 1982 United Cerebral Palsy Games in Denmark.

By then Mark had built a ski house in Vermont. That’s where John (and many others) learned to ski. They swam and trained with weights at the YMCA. Ships created a special drink, with a fundraising campaign utilizing the varied clientele that frequented the restaurant.

For months, the window showed photos of John with firefighters, postal workers, Tauck Tours personnel and area celebrities like James Naughton, Linda Blair and Paul Newman.

The goal was to raise funds for John’s uniforms and airfare. Children held car washes, and contributed their earnings.

The campaign was so successful it bought most of the team uniforms. UCP invited me as the photographer to document the games in Rhode Island and then Denmark. Mark, in his continued generosity, cleared me a space in his Ludlow Road home, so I could build a darkroom.​

Mark Koffman (right) working out with John Huminski.

​At both restaurants, Mark’s interest in food meant research. More than once I watched him astound a waiter by ordering nearly everything on the menu. He wanted to taste what the competition was serving.

From fondue to his own creations, Mark’s customers benefited from that research. He also turned it into a catering business for Ships, exhausting and exhilarating all involved.

Ships was the late night after-the-movies place to be.​ It was a team effort, but there was no doubt: Mark controlled it.

So many late nights come to mind. Did anyone ever sleep during those years?​​

With Mark’s Place East I remember the dancing. With Ships I remember the catered parties, laughter and conversations.

Mark — always an enigma — greeted customers at the bar, high top tables or booths as they swooned over the lobster seafood bisque, devoured a STOMP sandwich or enjoyed the cheesecake. He was probably dressed in running shorts.

A crowd on Main Street waits to get into The Ships. (Photo courtesy of Paul Ehrismann)

Mark catered parties that were over the top. Balloons and flowers were everywhere; often late night, they were then dropped off at a hospital children’s or cancer ward.

Reception halls were transformed into fairy tale ski slopes for a bar mitzvah.  Lawn weddings were  elegantly set and served from beautiful copper pots.

Ship’s was often decorated for holidays.  I remember a menorah in those Main Street windows, with a Christmas tree hanging upside down from the bar ceiling, “Poseidon Adventure”-style, while a massive Santa and sleigh lit the restaurant roof.

When Mark left Westport he settled in Vermont with his wife Sandra, where they ran Vermont.com. His children Adam, Emet and Baruch, and Adam’s fiancée Chrissy Fredette, were by Mark and Sandra’s side during his extended illness. ​​​​

Mark lived long enough to meet Adam and Chrissy’s child Goldie — his only grandchild — born in December. Emet’s partner Kyle Turner was part of the family team helping care for Mark this past year too.

​You will be missed, Mark. You were a child at heart, and you shared your heart with all.​​

(Hat tip: Miggs Burroughs)

Random Acts Of Kindness (Again)

Back in 1993, a little book called “Random Acts of Kindness” took the nation by storm.

Filled with examples of small things that brought big smiles — including kind acts by Coleytown Elementary School youngsters — it sparked a national movement. (And a cottage industry of books, over the next 30 years.)

In 1995, Westport PTA Council president Mimi Greenlee and 2nd Selectwoman Betty Lou Cummings co-chaired “Random Acts of Kindness Day” in Westport. First Selectman Joe Arcudi made it official.

All across town, kids collected mittens for people in need. The local Red Cross offered free CPR courses. The Westport Library waived fines for late books.

The Westport News’ Arnie Green noted a few other possible ways for Westporters to celebrate the day:

You are a pedestrian attempting the crossing at the Post Road and Main Street. The Mercedes bearing down on you stops well before the crosswalk you are in. The driver smiles and gives you a full-hand wave.

A usual, a UPS truck is parked beyond the last parking spot in the middle row at Brooks Corner, making it difficult for you to exit. The UPS driver appears and says, “Let me get this out of your way right now, and I’m sorry to have blocked you.”

The teenager, wearing a baseball cap backwards, and driving a modified Jeep, is cruising Main Street at what may be faster than the speed limit. You step off the curb. He slams his brakes to stop just short of you. He leaps from the Jeep and says, Boy, was I dumb to drive that fast. Please excuse me for scaring you.”

Not much has changed in 27 years, that’s for sure.

Whether 1995 or 2002, traffic has not gotten better on Main Street and in Brooks Corner. Time for kindness!

But 27 years later, both Mimi Greenlee and Betty Lou Cummings are alive and well. And very active in town.

In fact, on Wednesday Mimi emailed me all the information I’ve cited above. That was a very random act of kindness.

She did it because yesterday — February 17 — was the anniversary of Westport’s 1995 Act of Kindness Day.

I couldn’t get the story posted in time. That wasn’t very kind, I know. But the date doesn’t matter. It’s the thought that counts.

And the thought is a good one.

Just 2 years ago, random acts of kindness were all the rage. As the pandemic roared into town, Westporters delivered meals (and scarce toilet paper) to people who could not (or would not) leave their homes.

Others sewed masks, hung signs with encouraging slogans for first responders, and did thousands of other very random acts of kindness.

Today, only the rage remains. We are at each other’s throats over everything from mask wearing and vaccines to driving and parking. The Post Road and Brooks Corner are as gruesome as ever.

So — in as kindly a tone as I can muster — I wonder: Is it time for another Random Acts of Kindness Day?

Or maybe even an entire Week or Month this time.

If you think that’s a good idea, click “Comments” below. You might offer a few suggestions of kind acts yourself.

Of course, if you think it’s ridiculous, feel free to call me a soft, coddling !@#$%^&*. It’s a free country.

At least for a while.

PS: In 1995, I wrote in my Westport News “Woog’s World” column:The US Congress took time out from its important work of slashing welfare benefits, attacking Medicaid and declaring war on immigrants, homeless people and abortion doctors to declare all of next week Random Acts of Kindness Week.”

Not very kind, I know. But that too shows how little we’ve changed since the last millennium.

Roundup: Snowy Sidewalks, Gatsby In Connecticut, Hunt Club …

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Amy Shapiro writes:

“I love a snow day with my kids. However, it becomes quite an obstacle when my children and I have to walk to school each morning, and the town neglects to plow our sidewalk on Easton Road right by Coleytown Elementary.

“We live a 4-minute walk to CES, and do our part to alleviate traffic and try to save the environment by walking to school in almost all weather conditions.

“However, the town seems to forget about plowing our sidewalk for days (and yes, this is the town’s responsibility; the sidewalk in front of our home has been plowed on our dime — we know the rules), causing us to trudge through snow on our way to school or risk our lives walking the white line on Easton Road.

“My neighbors and I have called several times. Sidewalks near schools should be a priority!”

(Photo/Amy Shapiro)

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Jay Gatsby was larger than life. So was his creator, F. Scott Fitzgerald.

Next week, you’ve got a chance to watch “Gatsby in Connecticut: The Untold Story” on the much-larger-than-life Westport Library Trefz Forum screen.

Robert Steven Williams’ documentary chronicling F. Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald’s time in Westport, and its impact on his classic novel — with Sam Waterston as the writer, and voiceover by Keir Dullea —  will be shown on February 9 (7 p.m.).

The New Yorker selection as one of the best movies of 2020 will be followed by a discussion with director Williams and executive producer Richard “Deej” Webb, author of the film’s companion book “Boats Against the Current.”

Click here to register for the program.

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The Fairfield County Hunt Club has a new general manager. Mario DiPreta will oversee the staff of nearly 100, a membership of almost 200 families, and be responsible for long-term planning, dining, socializing and athletics, including nationally recognized horseback competitions.

Most recently, DiPreta was CEO and general manager of the prestigious West Side Tennis Club & Forest Hills Stadium. He has a degree in culinary arts. His 11-year-old daughter competes in regional equestrian events.

Outgoing CEO Carla Nelson was rewarded with an honorary FCHC membership. She joined the club in 1985 as a pastry and line chef, then took over as general manager 8 years later.

To learn more about the Fairfield County Hunt Club, click here.

Mario DiPreta

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David Loffredo sends along this photo, with the pithy caption: “If 2022 was a picture …”

(Photo/David Loffredo)

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Yogi Bear stars in today’s “Westport … Naturally” feature. He enjoys the snow!

(Photo/Cathy Malkin)

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And finally … Black History Month begins today. Here are 3 very powerful songs to usher it in.

MLK

his story has become a Martin Luther King Day tradition on “06880.” After the events of the past couple of years, today — more than ever — we should think about the history of our nation before Dr. King was born.

And where we are, more than half a century after his death.

Today is Martin Luther King Day. Westporters will celebrate with a day off from school or work. Some will sleep in; others will shop, or go for a walk. Few will give any thought to Martin Luther King.

Twice, though, his life intersected this town in important ways.

Martin Luther KingThe first was Friday night, May 22, 1964. According to Woody Klein’s book Westport, Connecticut, King had been invited to speak at Temple Israel by synagogue member Jerry Kaiser.

King arrived in the afternoon. Kaiser and his wife Roslyn sat on their porch that afternoon, and talked with King and 2 of his aides. She was impressed with his “sincerity, warmth, intelligence and genuine concern for those about him — our children, for instance. He seemed very young to bear such a burden of leadership.”

King’s sermon — to a packed audience — was titled “Remaining Awake Through a Great Revolution.” He analogized his America to the time of Rip Van Winkle — who also “slept through a revolution. The greatest liability of history is that people fail to see a revolution taking place in our world today.  We must support the social movement of the Negro.”

Westport artist Roe Halper presented King with 3 woodcarvings, representing the civil rights struggle. He hung them proudly in the front hallway of his Atlanta home.

Artist Roe Halper (left) presents Coretta Scott King with civil rights-themed wood carvings.

Within a month Temple Israel’s rabbi, Byron Rubenstein, traveled south to take place in a nonviolent march. He was arrested — along with Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King.

In jail, the rabbi said, “I came to know the greatness of Dr. King. I never heard a word of hate or bitterness from that man, only worship of faith, joy and determination.”

King touched Westport again less than 4 years later. On April 5, 1968 — the day after the civil rights leader’s assassination in Memphis — 600 Staples students gathered for a lunchtime vigil in the courtyard. Nearby, the flag flew at half-staff.

A small portion of the large crowd listens intently to Fermino Spencer, in the Staples courtyard.

A small portion of the large crowd listens intently to Fermino Spencer, in the Staples courtyard.

Vice principal Fermino Spencer addressed the crowd. Movingly, he spoke about  his own experience as an African American. Hearing the words “my people” made a deep impression on the almost all-white audience. For many, it was the 1st time they had heard a black perspective on white America.

No one knew what lay ahead for their country. But student Jim Sadler spoke for many when he said: “I’m really frightened. Something is going to happen.”

Something did — and it was good. A few hundred students soon met in the cafeteria. Urged by a minister and several anti-poverty workers to help bridge the chasm between Westport and nearby cities, Staples teachers and students vowed to create a camp.

Within 2 months, it was a reality. That summer 120 elementary and junior high youngsters from Westport, Weston, Norwalk and Bridgeport participated in the Intercommunity Camp. Led by over 100 Staples students and many teachers, they enjoyed swimming, gymnastics, dance, sports, field trips, overnight camping, creative writing, filmmaking, photography, art and reading.

It wasn’t easy — some in Westport opposed bringing underprivileged children to their town — but for over a decade the Intercommunity Camp flourished.

Eventually, enthusiasm for and interest in the camp waned. Fewer Staples students and staff members wanted to devote their summer to such a project.  The number of Westporters willing to donate their pools dwindled. Today the Intercommunity Camp is a long-forgotten memory.

Sort of like the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King. Even on his birthday.

MLK speech

Happy 100th, Betty Dorfman!

Tomorrow, Betty Dorfman turns 100 years old!.

Westporters with long memories remember her as part of the family that owned the Connecticut Yankee — a clothing store where ASF Sports is now.

But there’s much more to her life to celebrate.

Betty Rosalind Strauss was born in Brooklyn on January 12, 1922. She and her brother Sheldon were raised by a father who was left an invalid after World War I, and a strong mother who ensured her children the finest educational opportunities.

Betty attended New Utrecht High School in Brooklyn and then City College of New York, from which she graduated with a BA in business administration in 1941. She added an MS in 1945.

Betty married college sweetheart Arnold Dorfman in 1942. While Arnold served in the US Army during World War II, Betty taught high school. After the war they moved around a bit for Arnold’s retail business, and began to raise  daughters Merle and Wendy.

The family moved to Westport in 1955, where they opened their Connecticut Yankee store. Betty worked alongside Arnold there. So did her mother Estelle, who had then moved to Westport as well.

The Dorfman family, early 1950s.

Betty also became active in the Temple Israel Sisterhood, and served as president of the Fairfield County chapter of the National Council of Jewish Women.

After the Connecticut Yankee closed, Betty earning a 6th year professional diploma in education. She joined the University of Bridgeport as associate professor of secretarial studies in 1964.

Her career at UB was long and successful. Betty established and directed the nation’s first university-level word processing major. She shared her expertise with educators, publishers, and executives from around the country.

Betty was a stickler for the English language. She insisted that all secretarial students learned traditional English grammar and punctuation, and later taught journalistic style and usage to students in the Mass Communications Department.

Upon retirement in 1985, Betty was named associate professor emeritus by the UB Board of Trustees. Arnold suffered a serious stroke the following year, and she spent the next 6 years as caregiver. Arnold died in 1992.

Betty Dorfman, late 1990s.

During the next 2 decades Betty was an active member of Y’s Women, including co-chair of Trips and Travel for 10 years. She organized European excursions with co-chair Dorothy Coen.

She enjoyed playing bridge and taking classes at the Senior Center. Betty alao had a rewarding 10-year relationship with fellow Westporter Max Levinson. They had been couples friends for years. Max’s wife Eve had died a year after Arnold.

Betty moved to independent living at Meadow Ridge in 2012, where she remained active as chair of the Activities Committee. She moved into assisted living there in 2018, where she still resides.

Betty is delighted with the excellent care she receives and by her private part-time aide, Andrea Roudenis. She still gets her hair done every week, and appreciates comments about what an elegant woman she is even in her late 90s.

Although Covid has made it difficult for her family to visit recently, Betty is surrounded by a loving family. It includes daughter Merle Spiegel, who moved back to Westport in 1988; her daughter Kate Rosewood and husband Rich, and Betty’s great-granddaughters Vanessa and Fiona.

Betty’s other daughter, Wendy Roberts, has lived in Virginia most of her adult life but visits regularly, even during the pandemic. Wendy has 2 daughters: Jenn Roberts Ma, who lives in Virginia with husband Roger and Betty’s great-grandson Owen; and Amanda Pierson, who lives in Houston with husband Gene and Betty’s great-grandsons Robbie and Bennett. All keep in regular touch with Betty by phone and FaceTime, when not able to visit.

4 generations, 2021.

Betty’s family says she is “beloved for her sharp wit, deep intellectual curiosity, kindness, fierce loyalty to friends and family, and impeccable elegance. Hers is a life well lived – and an inspiration to those who know and love her.”

Happy 100th, Betty!

Roundup: Tweed Airport, Dobie Gillis, Winslow Sledding …

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A reader writes:

An excellent alternative to New York airports is now Tweed, in New Haven.

If you want to get to Florida hassle-free, Avelo Airlines flies to 6 cities. Flights ae cheap, very nice, with good service. They fly older but totally fine 737s (minus USB ports and TVs, so download something to watch).

At Tweed you not only avoid New York, but it’s also easier to get ride shares. I missed a JetBlue flight because Uber showed up 45 minutes late (they took off while we were in the terminal), I had to find a better way.

Driving myself to La Guardia is a nightmare. I wouldn’t ask an enemy to drive me, let alone a friend or relative.

So it’s no frills — but these days, what airline isn’t?

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Dwayne Hickman — who played Dobie Gillis on that pioneering TV sitcom from 1959 to ’63 — died yesterday in Los Angeles. He was 87.

The Westport connection? The show was created by Westport writer Max Shulman. He also wrote “Rally ’Round the Flag, Boys!,” a novel based loosely on the Nike site controversy then roiling Westport.

The year before “The Many Loves of Dobie Gillis” debuted, Shulman’s “Rally” book was made into a movie. Hickman had a role — though not as large as another actor, Paul Newman.

That film, of course, introduced Newman and his wife, Joanne Woodward, to Westport. They moved here soon after, and never left. (Hat tip: Peter Blau)

Dwayne Hickman (left) and Bob Denver, in “The Many Loves of Dobie Gillis” in 1959. (Photo courtesy of the New York Times and CBS)

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Winslow Park is one of Westport’s favorite sledding spots. It got tons of action after Friday’s snowstorm.

But at least 2 kids lost their hats. If these look familiar, they’re sitting on the fence post next to the hill.

(Photo/Wendy Crowther)

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The snow turned every corner of Westport — including the few living things at Sherwood Island State Park — into a winter wonderland. Today’s starkly beautiful “Westport … Naturally” photo comes from Mary Sikorski.

(Photo/Mary Sikorski)

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And finally … Michael Lang — a co-creator of the Woodstock Music & Art Fair that defined a generation — died Saturday in New York, from non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. He was 77. Click here for a full obituary.

 

Remembering Dick Berkowitz

Richard Berkowitz — an attorney whose involvement for more than 50 years in politics, sports, civic organizations, and much more helped shape Westport into what it is today — died peacefully on New Year’s Eve. He was 80 years old.

He practiced law here until his death, most recently “of counsel” at Berkowitz, Trager & Trager. He represented high-profile individuals, leading executives and members of the media. He was a president of the Connecticut Bar Association.

But his impact spread far beyond his profession.

Dick Berkowitz

In his 55 years in Westport, Dick was elected to the Planning & Zoning Commission and Representative Town Meeting (RTM).

He served as president of the Westport Kiwanis Club, Westport Bar Association and Birchwood Country Club, and was a board member of Staples Tuition Grants and the Westport National Bank.

He was a director of Project Renaissance, a drug treatment project; the Dartmouth Clubs of Westport-Weston and Fairfield County, and the Temple Israel Brotherhood.

In 1970 — 3 years after Berkowitz (then 29 years old), his wife Carole and children moved to Westport — 1st Selectman John Kemish appointed Dick to be chair of a new commission on youth and human relations activities. It was the forerunner of today’s Youth Commission.

He was a longtime assistant basketball coach at Staples High School, working with head coach Brian Kelley. For many years he coached Pop Warner football, Little League baseball and youth recreational basketball. He was also an avid member of the Compo Beach Irregulars, an “informal group of enthusiastic athletes.”

Rooms have been named in Dick Berkowitz’s honor at Temple Israel, and the Roth Center for Jewish Life at Dartmouth College.

He graduated from Dartmouth, and earned his law degree at the University of Connecticut.

He is survived by his wife Carole; children Jody, Emily, Suzy and Adam, and several grandchildren.

Information on services on memorial contributions will be announced soon.

Question Box #5

Our Question Box is once again full.

Here are the latest answers — to the best of my ability, anyway. I’m stumped by many of these queries. So readers: Please chime in with any additional information. Click “Comments” below.

And if you’ve got a question for our box, just email dwoog@optonline.net.

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I read a lot about “affordable housing” in Westport. What is considered “affordable,” and who sets the guidelines?

Guidelines are set by Connecticut General Statute 8-30g. Click here for the exact 2021 income limits, and rental maximums.

Housing limits at places like Sasco Creek Village are set by the state.

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Who hires the town attorney, and how much is he or she paid? (David Meth)

According to town attorney Ira Bloom, the First Selectman (or woman) appoints the town attorney. The budget for the position has various components:  retainer amounts for the town attorney and assistant town attorney; a component for labor and employment, and the contract services — the largest piece — which covers litigation and longer-term projects.

Neither Bloom nor the assistant town attorney, Eileen Lavigne Flug, are town employees, so they do not receive a “salary” per se from the town.

Town attorney Ira Bloom

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Is there a committee for the Baron’s South project, or a way to get involved? (Whitney Raith)

Baron’s South falls under the purview of the Parks & Recreation Department. Contact director Jen Fava (jfava@westportct.gov) to let her know you’re interested.

Baron’s South is a gem in the heart of Westport. (Photo/Wendy Crowther)

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Also from Whitney Raith: Why are there so many dead-end private streets? Does this lessen the town’s road upkeep?

Now that’s something that I — as a native Westporter — never thought about.

My guess is it’s a function of how the town grew. As farmland was sold to developers, they built homes off the main roads. If the houses were behind each other, they needed a way to get to the main road. Because there was still undeveloped land behind, the new roads did not connect to others, so they became dead-ends (more delicately, cul-de-sacs [or “culs-de-sac”?]).

I’m sure the nature of people moving to town — seeking privacy, which “private” roads provide — had something to do with it too.

I don’t think it was a way for the town to avoid upkeep. But if my theory is wrong — or you’ve got other ideas — click “Comments” below.

In this 1965 aerial view, Staples High School is on the left. An arrow points to High Point Road. Located off Long Lots Road, and the longest cul-de-sac in Westport, it was developed in the 1950s.

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Was there a mini-golf course where Lansdowne is now located? I was also told that it previously was the dump. (Antonia Zegras)

Fore! The 33-acre Lansdowne condos — located on Post Road East, just west of Stop & Shop — were once the site of mini-golf, and a driving range. For a while, a Bedford Junior High phys. ed. teacher had a trampoline business — “Ed Hall’s Jumpin’ Gyminy,” or something like that — out in front too.

Plus a skating rink, which eventually morphed into the short-lived Nines Club discotheque, courtesy of orchestra leader Lester Lanin. (You can’t make this stuff up.)

That rink/disco lives on, as the Westport Tennis Club.

As for a dump: I recall stuff being dumped in the back of the driving range after the mini-golf complex closed, but I can’t swear to it. Readers: If you remember: Click “Comments” below.

Once a mini-golf course and driving range; now well-established condos.

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I drive up and down Long Lots Road several times a day. Almost always, I see a flock of hawks circling, always between Turkey Hill Road and Hyde Lane. Can any readers explain why? (Lawrence Weisman)

Hawk-lovers: What’s up (ho ho)? Click “Comments” below.

Not Larry Weisman’s hawk — but very cool nonetheless. (Photo/Lou Rolla)

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I know that Alcoholics Anonymous meets at the St. Luke Church stables on Long Lots Road. Were there actual stables there at some point? (Arthur Hayes)

I don’t know the answer. I’m sure some of our alert readers do. But I’m guessing there were. It doesn’t seem like a name that came from thin air.

The St. Luke Church stables. Were there once horses there?

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Is there anything new concerning the incomplete structure on Hillspoint Road diagonally across from Joey’s by the Shore, where a series of restaurants used to be located? (Paul Rohan)

Nope! Negotiations continue, following a cease-and-desist order for violations on the residence that was slated to replace (most recently) Positano’s.

Construction has been halted at 233 Hillspoint Road. (Photo/Dinkin Fotografix)

Do you have a question for the Question Box? Email dwoog@optonline.net. When it’s full, I’ll answer them.