2 Women Who Believe They Are Cars

The sidewalk/lamppost renovation of Main Street is proceeding nicely. Downtown is looking up.

Unlike 2 women in a photo below, who apparently think the project includes a new pedestrian mall.

Workers were finishing the left-side sidewalk yesterday. But that was not why traffic was snarled.

The cause of the holdup was 2 women — one pushing a stroller — walking side by side. All. The. Way. Down. The. Middle. Of. Main. Street.


There was a perfectly good sidewalk on the right, so maybe the ladies were meandering toward a shop on the left?


They continued north, oblivious to the scrum of cars behind.

The (very patient) driver who inched her way up Main Street behind these 2 Very Special People turned right on Elm. So we don’t know how far they kept walking, smack in the middle of the road.

To be fair, perhaps they were reenacting the British march to Danbury 238 years ago.

If so — and you’re driving on Route 7 today — watch out!

35 responses to “2 Women Who Believe They Are Cars

  1. Julie Fatherley

    Love your gentle humor of more entitlement in Westport.
    I was brought up to always be thinking about other people (and to a fault) but I have come to treasure those value systems implanted in me. Obviously, there are those who have not been so honored as to respect
    other people. I am grateful that our two sons honor others and do thoughtful
    gestures in their own community everyday. No matter how small a gesture it makes a difference…when my neighbor and I walk in the early morning cars will stop for us to cross…most of them are men…what does that tell us about where we have gone with equal rights…Most of the times someone is honking at me or giving a finger is a woman…oh my!

    • Susan Hopkins

      As was I, Julie. My siblings and I were were raised to “T-O-O” : “Think Of Others”. Wouldn’t change a thing. Thank you, Mom ….

  2. Marcy Fralick Class of 1970

    Selfishness and entitlement are learned behaviours. Whether these adults were spoiled as kids, or if they were latchkey kids who now want to feel special, is debatable, but their kind of “It’s all about me” attitude gets old very quickly. Kindness, compassion, being considerate, and putting others before yourself are qualities that seem to be fading from our society. These women need lessons in respect, selflessness. and kindness. Maybe their picture in this blog will identify them and call them out. I hope so.

    A program that started here in Tucson is called Ben’s Bells and it’s a program of kindness and compassion. Volunteers go to schools and daycares and teach the kids to make “Ben’s bells” and to hang them in trees, in parks, in playgrounds and other public places to remind people to be kind. You’ll see many cars with the green flower sticker that says Be Kind on it. I know the bells and the kindness messages were sent to Newtown, but it’s a program all communities should embrace as a way to encourage and spread kindness, and it starts with kids. Kids who learn kindness and compassion at a young age will usually carry those traits throughout their lives.


    • Heidi McGee

      Ben’s Bells has a chapter in Newtown, Marcy. They do all sorts of great work in surrounding communities, including Westport.

      • Marcy Anson Fralick Class of 1970

        I thought they did, Heidi, and I saw that there’s a kindness celebration June 7th in Newtown. They started in Tucson when the founder’s son (Ben) died at age 3 of airway obstruction on May 10, 2009. They channelled their grief into ceramic bells they made at their home, then hung all around Tucson on the 1st anniversary of Ben’s death. The idea was that citizens find a bell, take it home, and pass it on in recognition of a kind act they witnessed. Thousands of bells have been made and distributed throughout Tucson, Phoenix and Newton. The “Be Kind” bumper sticker is on thousands of cars throughout Tucson as a reminder to others that kindness counts. I’m so glad they’ve spread to Connecticut. It’s a wonderful program!

    • Staples High School has a great organization called Kool To Be Kind (K2BK). They do fantastic work in the elementary schools. Here’s a story about them: http://06880danwoog.com/2014/02/28/k2bk-a-special-kind-of-impact/

  3. I’m not surprised at the indifference of these two ladies you see it quite often in the driving habits in Westport

  4. Susan Hopkins

    This lovely little scene of blatant disregard for others and entitlement may just “take the cake”, Dan. It’s also gotten on my last nerve. Truly, what goes through a person’s mind that manifests this kind of arrogance and self-entitlement. Rhetorical comment/question.

  5. Aren’t there more serious issues at hand?

    • Marcy Anson Fralick Class of 1970

      I think many of the incidents Dan’s written about in his blog — the notes in bags, parking at Starbucks and these women on Main St. for example, are all incidents of blatant disregard for others, which is a serious issue. When we stop caring about our fellow citizens, neighbors, friends or strangers, we’ve lost the core of our humanity. Kindness, compassion, caring, respect for others, tolerance of all are what make us human. Once we lose those traits, we’ve lost what makes us humans. That’s a pretty serious issue, I think.

      • Ignore the women on Main St., parking problems at Starbucks…
        That you can simply laugh off.

        Don’t ignore the outstanding problem of racial divide.

    • Nancy, even The New York Times has, as part of its coverage, the “Metropolitan Diary.” And this blog has never purported to be strictly about serious political and social issues (although I suppose there are some who might deem the selfish behavior depicted above to be emblematic of a serious social issue). Dan offers a cross-section of Westport-related stories (which seem to attract the interest of a number of viewers/readers who are either current or former residents). So I would say he has a successful formula.

  6. Andy Yemma

    Must not have been any beemers in that line of traffic or these gals might have wound up in the hospital. (said half in jest)

  7. Sharon Paulsen

    I’m really scratching my head here, because this behavior is so totally odd, and seems to go beyond the scope of “regular acts” of entitlement or rude happenings that we normally encounter.

    I mean, like, maybe you’d see a drunk or crazy person meander up the middle of a road in this way, or someone suffering dementia, or just off their rocker.

    I’m just totally perplexed.

    Also, it’s hard to believe that no one said anything to them during their Main Street journey in the twilight zone.

    If this is “the new entitlement”, then I guess I’ll just give up trying to figure out this mindset altogether.

    It’s beyond me.

    • If only they had rear license plates, then they could be reported and jailed!

      • Grayson Braun

        Are you sure your a Canadian from Vancouver? Seems I have never interacted with such a bitter Vancouverite.

    • Cathy Barnett

      I agree with you Sharon…why did noboody honk their car horn or say something to these ladies? Westporters are so used to rude, self-absorbed drivers that it’s easy to pass judgement on anyone with a screw loose. Maybe they were out of towners who thought Main Street was an outdoor shopping mall. With all the construction going on, especially on the sidewalks, maybe there was no place to walk but in the street.

      • Usually Westport drivers are rude — this time they were not! And, as noted in the story, the right-side sidewalk was completely clear and open.

  8. Jo Dickison

    Looking closely at the photo, perhaps all is not lost on that next generation. The child in the stroller has his/her arm extended out, pointing to the right, the side of the road those grown-ups should have been on to avoid the left-side construction, and the direction they might have considered to cross safely.

  9. Morley Boyd

    As Lily and Helga walked up the middle of Main Street, Lily nervously wondered if anyone would notice the fake baby in her stroller. It seemed so obvious. Helga stole a sideways glace and caught the eye of a Westport official. In all their previous conversations leading up to this day she had never learned his name. He gave her a quiet thumbs up. Westport’s innovative new traffic calming program was now going live. Next stop: the Post Road.

  10. Liz Doyle Boyd

    Marcy, your comments are right…. on Nancy get a grip

  11. Liz Doyle Boyd

    oops, right on….Nancy get a grip!!

  12. It’s good to read another Morley Boyd “story”. Also, Sharon’s eerie “twilight zone” reference is spot on.
    Happy Mother’s Day to all moms and mother figures.

  13. Fides Ostbye

    Dan, what worries me are the students who walk in the morning, after parking their car at Wakeman and walk in front of Bedford and goes to Staples. They just walk in the middle of the road and they don’t even look for the cars who are driving fast trying to get the kids to both school. That area is an accident waiting to happen. Someone needs to take a closer look to that area during school hours, before a kid is killed. A side walk needs to be build and inforced.

  14. Sharon Paulsen

    Cathy B. – yup, I also had those thoughts you brought up too. Something is just “too off” here, like maybe they could be confused-out-of-towner’s. But still … It’s plain Weird!

    Morley – hilarious! Love your prose – good stuff.

    Nancy – thanks for liking my Twilight Zone reference!

    Dan – this post has the potential to reach the “Queen of F – ing Everything” status, ha!

    Jo – yup, children can still right our wrongs – there IS hope, LOL!

  15. Cathy Barnett

    Thanks Sharon, glad we agree. I was discussing this with my family yesterday and they seemed to think the behavior of the drivers was just as weird as the ladies from LaLa land.

  16. Sharon Paulsen

    Haha, agree with that as well, Cathy!

    Still scratching head here on this one!

    New short film: “Zombie People Invade the Main Streets of ‘merica”