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Unsung Hero #99

In January, Emil Albanese saw an old friend.

The man was “never very svelte,” Emil — a longtime Westporter — says diplomatically. Now, though, he’d lost a lot of weight — and during the holidays, no less.

“How did you do it?” Emil asked.

Not a good way, the man said. He had kidney disease.

He needed a transplant. Unfortunately his wife was not a match. His son was diabetic. And his daughter was pregnant.

Emil asked his blood type. “O negative,” his friend said.

“So am I!” Emil replied.

He quickly added: “I’ll give you mine.”

Emil Albanese

Emil is 62 years old. But he’d just had a physical. His doctor pronounced him “incredibly healthy.”

Tests revealed that Emil was an excellent match for his friend. “We were like brothers!” Emil says with amazement.

Then came more testing: blood, urine and tissue samples; an MRI, to see if Emil could function with just one kidney, plus a session with a psychiatrist.

“Why do you want to do this?” the doctor asked.

“My 87-year-old father has such joy with his grandson,” Emil said. “I want my friend to have that chance too.”

In mid-April, Emil got the word: “We’re good to go.” His friend’s wife wept with joy.

Surgery was scheduled for early May.

Emil Albanese with his doctor. His name is not, as you may think, John Travolta.

The procedure took 6 hours. Small incisions were made in Emil’s navel; a long one went up his side.

His stomach was pumped with gas. The surgeon removed his kidney, tied it off, and made sure his other kidney took over.

The toughest part of post-surgery came from all that gas. Emil hurt everywhere. That’s normal, his doctor said.

This is not Emil Albanese’s actual kidney.

The pain has now subsided. Emil still has to be careful how he moves — he’s at risk for a hernia — but he considers that a small price to pay for giving his friend a kidney.

“I’ve always tried to do the right thing in my life,” Emil says. “I don’t understand how you can not do this, given the chance.”

Other friends and family members call Emil a hero. He does not think he is.

Of course, that’s one of the hallmarks of a hero. Which is why “06880” honors him today.

(For information on organ donation, click here. To nominate an Unsung Hero, email dwoog@optonline.net. Hat tip: Kathleen Galley)

Young Jameson Conte’s Gift Of Life

Tracy Hinson passes along this very sad news:

Mark and Stephanie (Fratino) Conte are longtime, well-known Westporters. Last weekend, they lost their 20-month old son Jameson.

Jameson Conte

Steph — a 1992 Staples grad — was nominated for Homecoming Queen. Mark is a Norwalk fireman. His business is saving lives.

Their young son is following in his daddy’s footsteps. He has already saved other children’s lives, through the donation of his organs.

Four children have received the gift of life, thanks to Jameson — including, yesterday, a 4-year-old who received Jameson’s heart. Even in the midst of Jameson’s tragic and inexplicable death, there is the celebration of life.

The Contes’ house borders Willowbrook Cemetery. Now they will be able to visit Jameson every day. They can look out their windows, and know they still watch over him.

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Here is Jameson’s obituary:

Jameson Daniel Conte, treasured 20-month-old son of Mark and Stephanie Conte, passed away suddenly on Saturday, February 25 at Yale New Haven Hospital. He was surrounded by those who dearly loved him.

Jameson’s life would seem too short to many, but the quality of his existence far exceeds the quantity of the time in which he lived it. Those touched by his sparkle and laughter will remember the joy he found in music, mealtimes, and being adored by his family. In addition to his parents, Jameson was the beloved little brother of Alyssa, the cherished grandson of James and Carol Conte and Daniel and Deborah Fratino, all of Westport. He was the nephew of Anthony, Michael and Matthew Conte, and Danielle Fratino. In addition he was loved by many extended cousins, aunts and uncles.

The last gift Jameson contributed to this world was the donation of his organs. He has provided four children with the gift of life and the opportunity to become extraordinary, as his family knew he would one day become.

Friends may call Thursday (4-8 p.m.) at Collins Funeral Home, 92 East Avenue, Norwalk.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Friday (10 a.m.) at the Church of the Assumption, 98 Riverside Avenue, Westport. Burial will follow in Willowbrook Cemetery, Westport.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to the following:

Yale Pediatric ICU
Gift Account: Jameson Daniel Conte
7th Floor, West Pavilion
20 York Street
New Haven, CT 06504

Hospital for Special Care
Gift Account: Jameson Conte
HSCH Pediatric Unit
2150 Corbin Ave
New Britain, CT  06053