From all indications, Tuesday’s horror in Fairfield was domestic violence.
Responding to a report of a “violent domestic assault,” police found Christopher Andrews’ wife stabbed in the head. His 12-year-old son had been nearly killed with a baseball bat. His other 2 children were also injured. When Andrews approached a Fairfield police officer with a knife — and ignored repeated requests to drop it — the policeman shot and killed him.
The tragedy put a spotlight on domestic violence. Yesterday, “06880” offered resources for victims, via the Westport Police Department. The town of Fairfield and the the Center for Family Justice — an advocacy group — planned a vigil for tomorrow, on the Old Town Hall Green.
Now the event has been canceled. According to the Connecticut Post, the Andrews family does not want “domestic violence” to be associated with the event.
Three friends of the family told the paper that what happened Tuesday is completely out of character for Andrews, a New York lawyer.
A statement by a family representative said:
Kathleen and her family are shocked and devastated by this tragedy, and continue to ask for prayers as she and her family heal. They respectfully request that no one pass any judgment on any of their family including Christopher Andrews and they respectfully request that their privacy be honored during this very difficult time.
The vigil will not take place. First Selectman Michael Tetreau urged residents to support the Andrews “in any way the family deem appropriate.”
The news from our neighbors next door is tragic. On Tuesday a Fairfield police officer shot and killed an attorney, ending a violent domestic assault involving his wife, 3 children, a baseball bat and knife.
Domestic violence knows no age, gender or socioeconomic bounds. Or town borders.
In the aftermath of Tuesday’s carnage, a number of Westporters contacted me. Some had ties to the family; others have worked for years with social service or domestic violence agencies. They hope that out of this tragedy, more people will be aware of the issue.
Verbal, psychological, emotional: Your partner uses insults, put-downs, name calling or mind games to humiliate, confuse or make you feel bad or guilty.
Isolation: Your partner controls what you do, where you go, who you see and talk to, what you read, activities you are involved in, how you dress.
Economic: Your partner controls all the finances, makes you ask for money, gives you an allowance, demands an accounting for every expenditure, prevents you from getting or keeping a job.
Coercion and threats: Your partner threatens to leave you, take the children, report you to welfare, commit suicide, hurt someone or something you love in order to control you.
Intimidation: Your partner uses looks, gestures or actions that are threatening to you.
Physical: Your partner hits, slaps, pushes, kicks, shakes, strangles or uses any kind of physical force against you. Your partner harms or destroys something you hold valuable, including pets or treasured objects.
Sexual: Your partner rapes you, hurts you or forces you to perform acts against your will.
Your partner may use one, several or all of these forms of abuse in any combination to control you.
The abuse may start out very slowly and increase over time so that you may be unaware that it is happening.
It may start as verbal or emotional abuse and become physical.
The physical abuse may become so bad that your health and life are in danger.
Any kind of ongoing abuse between adults will have a seriously negative impact on children in the household and may result in damaging psychological, emotional and behavioral problems.
The Police Department offers these resources:
If you are a victim of domestic violence or know someone who is, and you are in immediate danger, CALL 911!
If you are a victim of domestic violence or know someone who is, and you are looking for information, the following links can help:
Domestic Violence Crisis Center offers a 24-hour hotline at 888-774-2900, There are many links to information, safety planning and information on safehouses.
EsperanzaCT provides Spanish-speaking victims the same services with a 24-hour hotline at 888-774-2900 OR 203-663-6641.
Meanwhile, a GoFundMe page has been set up to help the family with what is expected to be $200,000 in medical and other expenses. As of this morning, nearly $165,000 had been raised. Click here for more information, and to contribute.
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