Antwayn’s Story

Westport Lifestyle magazine does a great job highlighting the beauty and benefits of Westport.

But it does not neglect the more human, less talked-about, often unseen parts of life in our town.

This month, editor Robin Moyer Chung wrote about homelessness. It’s an important piece. Here’s a slightly edited version: 

Antwayn, like every other Gillespie Center client, never thought he’d be homeless. Four years ago he had a full-time job, a home in Bridgeport with his girlfriend, a newborn and a toddler. Then one evening in March he lost everything.

Please take a moment to consider that we live in the town in which Antwayn briefly lived, but in an alternate universe. We enjoy advantages, trust and liberties that he did not.

Antwayn, today. (Photo/Mindy Briar)

Antwayn’s parents divorced when he was young. His mom raised him in Stamford. At 12 years old “I thought I knew everything,” he admits. His friend, Pookie, was in a gang, the Ebony Kings, and persuaded him to join. For initiation, 4 older members jumped him. He fought back. He walked away with a “busted lip” and an indoctrination into the Ebony Kings family.

He willingly assumed the life of a gang member. If a brother said “Jump that guy” he did.

When he turned 13 his mom sent him to live with his dad in Georgia. “I was furious,” he recalls. “But she knew I’d end up getting shot or shooting someone. At 13 you don’t understand the consequences.”

Today, he concedes that his mother saved his life by shipping him South.

He graduated from Jenkins High School in Savannah. At 19 he had 2 kids with 2 different women. “No one was teaching me anything,” Antwayn says. “My dad let me do anything.”

After graduating high school he earned a certificate and worked as a daycare assistant at the YMCA. Then he worked as an assistant camp counselor. “I love kids,” he says.

In 2003 he moved back to Connecticut and lived with his mother. He worked at Party City, then got a gig at Costco in 2007. He worked these 2 jobs for 10 years. “I was earning $21.95 at Costco,” he proudly says.

He later moved in with his girlfriend. Together they had 2 kids, Aalyah (now 7) and Antwayn (now 4). Then that day in March, after he returned from work, his girlfriend kicked him out of their home, and the police arrested him for violating a restraining order.

Antwayn couldn’t pay the $25,000 bond so they locked him in a cell for 28 days. “You don’t want to go jail,” he cautions, shaking his head.

Costco fired him for work abandonment. He had no home, no access to his money. His car was towed shortly after his arrest, his mother had no room for him in her home, and no business would hire a man fresh from the slammer. And he was not allowed to see his kids.

The only thing he had on the 29th day, finally out of prison, was his innocence. Not that it mattered. “I was confused. Lost. I lost it all in the snap of a finger.”

Devastated and shell-shocked, he dialed 211, the hotline for essential community services. They guided him toward a shelter in Bridgeport. For 15 days he lined up at 5 p.m. to get a bed for the night. Then he was granted room in Gillespie.

The Gillespie Center, in downtown Westport.

After 6 months in Gillespie, program manager Ryan Soto located and contacted Antwayn’s father in Oregon. He agreed to share his home with his son. So Antwayn relocated across the country. 33 days later he returned, shaken by his father’s violent mental health issues and veiled threats.

Again, he found himself with nowhere to turn. By miracle, Ryan discovered he was back in the system. He got a room for Antwayn in Gillespie. During the long months of his second residency he was pessimistic and untethered. Then slowly, with Ryan’s help, he took the difficult, unnerving steps to overcome fear and submit to the power of hope. Ryan says, “He says ‘Ryan, you give great advice so I’m going to listen to you.’”

Then Antwayn became one of Gillespie’s favorite success stories.

Gillespie found him affordable housing and hired him part-time in the food pantry. He serves meals, cleans up, assists with food and clothing donations. Every morning he comes an hour early — a free hour, no one pays him — to make coffee, clean the refrigerator, whatever needs to be done.

Antwayn, at work in the food pantry. 

“I want to stay working here,” he says. “Miss Pat’s worked here for 17 years. I want to beat her record.” He’s strong, good, and happy. His eyes light up when speaking of his manager, Ryan, “Man he’s the best boss I ever had in my life. He knows how to talk to people with good respect.” Then adds, “I love this job.”

On April 5, after a slew of court appearances, he won sole custody of his son and daughter. He beams, “I’m so happy! I take it day by day — everything’s fresh. It hasn’t been a week yet!

When he has a moment to talk to Gillespie residents he tells them to look on the bright side, to pick themselves up and start over. He tells his story to help others like him find the smallest toehold in the crag of hope, so they can, one day, follow him to the summit.

About that summit: Helen McAlinden, director of Homes with Hope, nominated Antwayn for the Carol E. Walter Think, Be, Lead, Change Award, from the Connecticut Coalition to End Homelessness. Recipients are honored for their
perseverance and drive.

Antwayn won, and received a plaque last June. He calls that one of the proudest moments of his life.

(To learn more about the Gillespie Center and its parent organization, Homes with Hope, click here.)

Antwayn and Aalyah. 

8 responses to “Antwayn’s Story

  1. Jamie Camche

    Thank you, Dan. Thank you, Robin for bringing Antwayn’s story to light.

  2. charles taylor

    One of the Best stories ever to appear in 06880! Thanks

  3. Audrey Sparre

    Such a happy story! Keep up the good work HWH and 06880!

  4. Alan Bravin

    What a great and heartwarming story. Thanks for sharing

  5. debbieomalley

    This started the week on such a positive note. Thank you for sharing Antwayn’s story – we are lucky to have him as part of our community:

  6. Will Gibson

    Great story, Dan. Thanks for sharing it. And, Kudos to Ryan for having faith in Antwayn.

  7. Carl Addison Swanson

    Bravo!!! A down to earth article about some of the problems we face here in Westport instead of always glamorizing it.

  8. Robin Moyer Chung

    Thank you to everyone who commented and everyone who read this post. Antwayn Riggs and Ryan Soto are so important to our community, to keep us grounded, understanding, grateful, and optimistic. Most of all to remind us how fortunate we are and what’s important in our lives. And, of course, thank you to Woog who always reminds who we truly are. The entire article is at