Jerri Graham: What Westporters Can Do, Once The Marches End

Jerri Graham is a 13-year resident of Westport. A talented photographer, she is currently working on a portrait series capturing the stories and lives of Westporters.

Today she reflects on the past week in Westport — and the world.

Last Sunday I attended a demonstration on Jesup Green to protest the horrific murder of George Floyd. A bipartisan effort by 2 local activists that was put together within 48 hours as the country watched in anger, the gathering was a way to say” enough is enough,” and that Westport stood in solidarity with the rest of the country against police brutality.

Jerri Graham, with her daughter.

I attended as a sad and frustrated black woman, mother, photographer, and a Westporter. Walking around with my camera I saw friends I’ve known for over a decade, out for the first time in months standing in heartfelt angst with neighbors of every age, race and religion.

Over 400 locals listened to the calm, sincere and honest voices of town leaders, including the chief of police standing with us in our tears over the death of a man none of us ever knew.

As we stood together as a town, I had an overwhelming sense of pride in my community I’ve rarely experienced in my life. I felt, through the bodies — though only a fraction of our population — an immense wave of understanding.

When we stood in silence for the half the amount of time George Floyd was pinned down, we all felt the horror. We all felt the shame. We all felt the anger.

Tears came between me and my camera as I took photos. After the silence ended, I walked around the green with my daughter seeing the eyes over masks we’d known since she was in kindergarten. We even had a chance to meet up with the other black families who also live in Westport who attended the demonstration. It was also a bittersweet meeting of some of Westports finest melanin, though I wish we’d met under different circumstances.

That evening, my daughter and I recapped through tears the last few days. We, like most Americans had grown accustomed to reports of black children, women, and men murdered for existing by law enforcement. However, this time we both felt it was different. For the first time, our community was also disgusted and outraged. Over the years we had wept alone over Tamir, Trayvon, Michael, Eric, and Breonna. But this time, our grief was shared.

One scene from last Sunday’s protest …

During this period of time, the need to be vocal and loud against the injustices we see is important. We want to fix things that are broken. The racism that results in murder isn’t a hat someone pops on their heads, but are a result of generations never viewing blacks as equal. While I don’t have the answer to the ills of racism that has engulfed our country from its formation, I do know that once the marches have ended, the work for equality isn’t over and starts at home.

First, take a look at your own life and the relationships in it. Do you have black friends? It doesn’t have to be a bestie or someone you hang out with every week, but it is 2020. Broaden your horizons and circle by stepping outside of your comfort zone of who you know.

We are here in Westport. We don’t just work at the stores, and for you. Parents are currently scrambling for books on how to teach their children about racism, yet often they don’t have a diverse social circle themselves. When parents don’t, oftentimes their children won’t.

Now, don’t run out and try to befriend the first black person you see (I’m in hiding and there’s a service fee). It doesn’t work that way. But at least make an effort to establish real relationships with people who don’t look like you. It starts with a cup of coffee, a conversation, and connection. Understanding comes when we know one another as humans, not just sound bites on the evening news.

… and another. (Photos/Jerri Graham)

Second, put your money where your mouth is. No, I’m not talking about donations or setting up a fund for disadvantaged students. While I admire this level of helping others, what I want to see once the homemade signs have been recycled is monetary activism.

Vow to spend a portion of your income with black enterprises and black brands. While marching alongside us and for us can break the barriers, economic opportunity is the only way for us to be fully equal. Be an economic investor by looking at holiday and birthday gifts you plan to buy this year, and vowing that 20% or more will be from black-owned companies. It won’t be easy because they won’t always be the ones readily available, but it is a choice to spread the wealth around. Contributing to the building of a brand or business owned by a black person by consciously using your purchasing power is trickle around form of activism that kicks ass!

Do not let the fight against police brutality be where your activism to support black lives ends. Vow to carry a placard not just for a march, but one you hold within yourself through daily relationships, dollars, and choices.

8 responses to “Jerri Graham: What Westporters Can Do, Once The Marches End

  1. When we are asked what can we do to make a difference , I think Jerri’s ideas are spot on. Supporting black owned businesses is a great way to spread the wealth. My daughter sent me something called the “Twenty One Day Challenge”, with things one can do each day to make changes in thinking and acting. Searching out and supporting businesses of people of color is one very constructive step as well as Jerri’s other ideas. Thank you. Let us begin to begin.

  2. Sylvia Corrigan

    Thank you, Jerri, for all you have said here to encourage! I wish you were still making those “Nothing But” granola treats…

  3. So thoughtful, engaging, uplifting & helpful— THANK YOU for for your spot on observations and constructive suggestions.

  4. Carol Waxman

    It would be very helpful if Ms Graham or
    someone else knowledgeable about
    black owned companies would put together
    a list, please. I would love to broaden my
    purchasing power.
    I try to buy gifts from cultural entities
    to support the museums and libraries, etc.
    Thanks to Dan for his coverage of the
    interactions of this horrific time in our
    lives. Be safe and be well.

  5. Susan Thomsen

    Yes! Great ideas, Jerri Graham. Thank you.

    Here is just one guide to black-owned businesses; it’s a link from CT Bites for black-owned restaurants. The Connecticut Post recently ran a good list, too. A Google search will turn up lots!

    https://www.ctbites.com/blog/2020/6/4/guide-to-black-owned-restaurants-in-connecticut

  6. Robert Harrington

    Thanks Jerri. You make some fantastic points and bringing about reach change through natural interactions and a more inclusive and diverse community.

    I hope when additional lower cost and affordable housing initiatives are introduced in Westport in the future, we as community will open our arms and embrace a more diverse community. We will all benefit.

    Thank you for writing this.

  7. Kimberly Wilson

    Thank you Jerri, for sharing here what so many of your fellow Black Westporters are feeling and hopefully sharing with their friends and neighbors. I’m here. I live here. I work here. I’m active here. I love meeting new people. I’m always open to listen and share my personal stories, and experiences. I’m also here, choosing to claim hope for the newness that is ahead. I’m claiming it for myself, for my daughter and her husband, for my people and for other people of color. I’m claiming hope for each of us to look and see humans worthy of love and understanding, whatever color our skin radiates. I am a Black woman, mother, your neighbor and friend and I’m very happy to call Westport my home. Kimberly Wilson, The Wilson Productions.