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Experience Camps’ Expansion: Helping Local Kids

For 6 years, Westport has supported the Day of Champions.

The spring event draws a few dozen teams — families and friends, kindergarten through adult — to PJ Romano Field.

They compete on an obstacle course, doing hula hoops, dancing and more. It’s like a family-friendly, fiercely competitive (and fun!) camp color war.

The Day of Champions raises over $200,000 for Experience Camps. Since 2009, the Westport-based non-profit network of summer camps and other resources has provided a way for boys and girls who have lost a parent or sibling to share their grief with peers, volunteers and trained professionals who understand, in a loving, supportive (and fun!) environment.

Soon, the tight connection between our town and this national organization headquartered here will grow even tighter.

Experience Camps’ 7th location will open in the summer of 2025, at KenMont and KenWood in Kent, Connecticut. It will offer local youngsters — who previously had to go to Maine or Pennsylvania — a chance to appreciate the compassion, connection and play of Experience Camps, and find a life full of hope and possibility.

KenMont and KenWood’s grounds include a lake for swimming, canoeing and kayaking; athletic fields and courts, a ropes course and go-kart track.

Sara Deren — founder and CEO of Experience Camps — is excited that children and teenagers from Westport and nearby towns will benefit from the organization that over the years has enjoyed so much support from residents here.

The pool of potential campers is large. Deren says that 1 in every 12 people will experience the death of a parent or sibling by the age of 18. Experience Camps has a wait list of 200. 90% of campers return each year, drawn by the power of a week with other kids, counselors who have also lost loved ones, and therapists who help them process their feelings (while having a ton of fun).

The Connecticut camp is the first in a series of expansions. Deren says they’ll open 1 to 2 new locations each year, after KenMont and KenWood in 2025.

Running those camps takes money. This year’s Day of Champions — a major fundraiser — will be more important than ever.

It’s May 19 (8:30 a.m., PJ Romano Field). Click here to register. Volunteers are needed too, to help the event run smoothly. To help, email gerygrove@gmail.com.

For more information about Experience Camps — including volunteering as a counselor, medical professional, social worker or another capacity — email sara@experiencecamps.org.

Last year’s Day of Champions, at PJ Romano Field.

ONE MORE EXPERIENCE: Experience Camps works year-round to help grieving children and teenagers.

Their newest project is “Grief Sucks.” Aimed specifically at teenagers — and with the tagline “join us in a movement to make it suck less” — the website says,
“Screw school pamphlets, unhelpful grief groups, and people saying ‘sorry for your loss.’ It’s time to get real about grief. We’re in this together.”

The platform offers videos and posts on subjects like “Why the ‘5 Stages of Grief’ is a Big Fat Lie,” “Is it OK to Experience Joy When I’m Grieving?” and “Super Cringey Things People Said to Cheer Me Up.”

It strikes just the right tone for teens. And it’s a great way to reach the many youngsters who cannot attend an Experience Camp.

“Day Of Champions” Will Be Quite An Experience

Westport is awash in organizations that benefit young people — here, in the rest of Fairfield County, the country and the world. It’s one of the strengths of our community.

Many throw fundraisers. Westporters support them generously, with time as well as money.

But most of these kid-focused groups’ events don’t actually involve young people themselves.

That’s why Experience Camp’s Day of Champions is so wonderful.

Not to mention unique, cool, and tons of fun.

Experience Camp is the Westport-based network of summer camps for youngsters who have lost a parent, sibling or primary caregiver. The program builds confidence, encourages laughter, and allows them to navigate grief through friendship, teamwork, sports and the common bond of loss.

This year, Experience Camps will serve 1,000 boys and girls, at 5 locations from Maine to California.

Of course, running such a life-changing program costs money: $1,000 for a week at camp.

For much of its first decade, Experience Camps — founded by Westporter Sara Deren — relied on gala fundraisers in big cities, and foundation grants.

In 2017 Deren asked fellow Westport resident Gery Grove to help raise funds here. She teamed with Melissa Post, who like Grove loved the idea of the camp.

They thought about the usual events, like cocktail parties. But they realized the best way to raise money for kids was to involve kids themselves.

Together with a hard-working committee, they launched the first Day of Champions in 2018.

Fun at Experience Camps’ Day of Champions …

Camp Mahackeno was the perfect venue for the camp-like color war/field day. Twenty teams of 10 to 15 people each (kindergarten through adult) competed in sponge races, an obstacle course, toothpick pickup contest with oven mitts, archery and others activities. Many wore costumes.

Points were awarded for spirit, fundraising, cheering and more. It was a joyful day — and it brought in over $150,000.

… and funny hair …

To participate, teams had to raise at least $1,000. Some were well over $25,000.

Organizers feared the first year might have been a fluke.

It wasn’t.

Last year’s Day of Champions brought in more than $225,000. Over the past 2 years, Westport’s Michelle Yanover — who lost her mom at 7 — has raised over $45,000. Working with his New York Life firm, Grove’s husband Matt added another $40,000-plus.

… and a tug-of-war …

This year’s 3rd annual event is Sunday, May 17 (8 to 11:30 a.m.). Due to construction at Mahackeno, it’s moved to another great location: Fairfield County Hunt Club.

Yet as fun and financially important as the Day of Champions is, there’s another element that makes it special.

… and more fun. (Photos/Stephen Dodd)

“It teaches kids a lot,” Grove says. “They learn there are other kids who need their support — kids who don’t have their entire family here anymore.

“Kids get a chance to raise money for a resonant cause. And they have the best time doing it. Our lives are busy, but families come and do this together. Kids, teachers, parents, town officials — everyone puts concerns and differences aside for the day. It’s a great time!”

(Click here to register a team. Spectators are welcome too.)

[OPINION] Fatal Accident Fails To Deter Westport Drivers

Gery Grove moved to Westport from Brooklyn 7 years ago. She thought the drivers here were crazy — but they’ve gotten worse. She lives on a street that is a Waze shortcut, and uses the Bayberry Lane/Cross Highway intersection often. Everywhere in town, she says, people speed. 

Paloma Bima has lived in Westport for 16 years — 14 of them on Cross Highway. “I have seen way too many accidents,” she says. “I love walking to Wakeman, but it is dangerous!”

Andi Sklar’s family rented for 4 years on Bayberry Lane. They then built a house on Cross Highway, and have been there for 6. Every day, she sees drivers run the stop sign at the intersection of those 2 roads. She worries about the safety of her daughter, who attends Bedford Middle School and walks to Chef’s Table.

Following this week’s death of 25-year-old pedestrian Peter Greenberg on Bulkley Avenue North, the women write: 

Peter Greenberg

The loss of any life, especially someone young, can be devastating. But why does it resonate here in Westport so much? Because as a community we observe countless near misses – misses that might end up differently the next time due to our pedestrian-unfriendly roads, and our constant battle with speedy or reckless driving.

(Details of that accident have not been revealed, so this is not meant as an accusation of reckless driving against the driver on Bulkley.)

The next day, Gery Grove passed a multi-car accident at the corner of Bayberry and Cross Highway. While waiting for police to wave her through, a dark grey Ford Explorer behind her honked aggressively. The driver stayed on her bumper all the way to Long Lots Road.

Less than a day had passed since a pedestrian was killed nearby. Many children live in this neighborhood. They walk to or from school, and Chef’s Table.

Slow down, Westport. Another serious accident is right around the corner.

The intersection of Cross Highway and Bayberry Lane is just one spot with frequent reckless driving, running stop signs, and near misses. The three of us have been searching for ways to manage the dangers on our roads.

After near misses with her own children at that intersection near her home, Andi worked with Westport police on the visibility of stop signs.

Officer Al D’Amura has been extremely helpful. After riding together, he cut big branches that might have blocked the signs.

He also had an officer sit at the intersection. That provided only temporary relief. Andi said he is requesting that Public Works trim more bushes.

Paloma sought approval for a crosswalk from one side of Cross Highway to the other near Wakeman Fields, in light of the recent creation of a mega-campus at Bedford and Staples. So far, no measures have been enacted.

Gery grew up in Chevy Chase, Maryland. Years ago they installed cameras, to catch speeders. Tickets are sent by mail. The first time she returned home, she wondered why everyone drove so slowly. Clearly. the cameras work.

One loss of life in this town is one too many. The time to consider solutions was before this young man was killed – but it definitely needs to be before another tragedy.

We have fallen victim to Waze, tight schedules, our devices, distraction and carelessness.

We have to ask our town to take real, concrete measures to clamp down on speeding, consider more pedestrian safety measures like sidewalks and crosswalks, and truly make those who believe the rules don’t apply to them rediscover the value of human life.

Or at least, to feel the presence of the laws they seek to violate.

A typical Westport driver.

Let this week be a collective call to action for our town leaders to make sure we give this issue the attention it deserves.

We have to do something. We are told not to be helicopter parents. But it’s hard to let kids roam around Westport these days.

It should not be that way.