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1st Lieutenant Andrew Long Comes Home

In many ways, Andrew Long was a typical Westport boy.

He went to Kings Highway, Bedford Middle School and Staples. He lifeguarded at Longshore, and became an Eagle Scout with Troop 36.

He veered a bit from the typical path in 11th grade, when he transferred to Phillips Exeter.

After graduating in 2004 Andrew entered Colgate University. As a senior he applied to Army Officers Candidate School. He was commissioned, and was stationed in Georgia, Kentucky, California, Louisiana and Kansas.

And then, last April — in a journey far from typical for a young Westporter — Andrew went to Afghanistan.

1st Lieutenant Andrew Long, in Afghanistan.

“He was always interested in the military,” his mother Sandra explains. “As a kid, he was really into the Civil War.”

She thinks 9/11 influenced him greatly. “He was in 10th grade at the time. From then on, he thought about serving in the military all through college. We were at war, and he wanted to help.”

The Longs were not thrilled.

“We’re not a military family, and that’s not what most Westport kids do,” Sandra says. “We were worried. But he was adamant. So we said ‘We support you. We love you.’”

Now, Sandra says, “We’re so proud of him. He is so brave, dedicated and patriotic.”

In Afghanistan Andrew was posted to a forward operating base 50 miles west of Kandahar.

Part of the famed 1st Infantry Division — “The Big Red One” — Andrew served mostly as a maneuver platoon leader, with a combination of armor and infantry men. They used vehicles, went on foot patrol, and did a number of air assault missions with helicopters. Sometimes, he commanded Afghan soldiers.

“He’s amazingly versatile,” Sandra says proudly.

The Longs did not know much about what he was doing. They spoke every 3 or 4 weeks by phone, for 10 or 15 minutes at a time.

1st Lieutenant Andrew Long (left), with his tank crew.

“He talked about the great poverty in Afghanistan — mud huts, no water or electricity,” she says. “Sometimes things were very quiet. Other times, during missions, it was wild.”

The hardest part, he told his mother, were when members of his unit were killed.

“I’m sure there’s a ton of stuff I don’t know,” she notes.

On Christmas Eve, Andrew called his parents. “I’m coming home,” he said.

1st Lieutenant Andrew Long returns to Ft. Riley.

When he returned to Fort Riley, Kansas earlier this month, it was with a Bronze Star Medal for meritorious service. The Longs were there to greet him.

After spending some leave time in Westport, Andrew will return to Fort Riley.

It won’t be forever. Sandra says he will not make the military his career. He has, however, “certainly appreciated” his service.

Friends and colleagues have “been great,” she adds. “Everyone at Saugatuck Congregational Church wrote cards. Neighbors sent packages. People at work (Pitney Bowes) were very supportive.”

Yet still, something felt strange.

“There are very few military families here,” Sandra says. “When I went out to Kansas, there were lots.

“I think people in Westport don’t know what to think about having a son serving in the military. They’ve been super to us. But in some ways, we’ve also been alone.”

Post-Fire, Saugatuck Nursery School Still Thrives

The pre-Thanksgiving fire at Saugatuck Congregational Church did more than inflict heavy damage on the 178-year-0ld building, and force relocation of services for the foreseeable future.

It also drove 35 children, ages 2 to 5, from their “home.”

That home is the Saugatuck Nursery School. Since its founding 43 years ago, it has served youngsters from Westport and surrounding towns — some of them minorities, some from less privileged circumstances than Westporters.

On April 4, 1968 Florence James Shook was enjoying a Tougaloo College choir concert at Carnegie Hall. She heard the news that Rev. Martin Luther King had just been killed. Driving home, she vowed to do something. She soon helped create the Saugatuck Nursery School, to carry on his dream.

This past October, Florence died. The month before, the nursery school had added a 3rd classroom, an $80,000 project — what director Ellen DeHuff calls “the beautiful Purple Room.”

On November 20 it — and the other school classrooms and offices — suffered smoke and water damage. Gone too were books, toys, arts and crafts supplies, computers — “everything you need to run a pre-school,” DeHuff says.

Almost immediately, the Westport Y offered space: 3 childcare classrooms that were not in use. In what DeHuff calls “Extreme Pre-School Makeover,” her staff of 10 spent several hours brightening the rooms for their kids.

The Y also provided equipment. Many Westporters offered books, toys and furniture — but there is no place to store them. (DeHuff suggested cash donations, so equipment can be bought later.)

The children use the Y gym. They also walk across the street to Christ & Holy Trinity Church, enjoying its playground for hour a day.

The nursery school staff is now working to gain church and town approval to use modular equipment in the church parking lot.

“It’s different, but the kids are loving it,” DeHuff says of the changes.

But the fire was “devastating” to the staff.

Still, she says, there are benefits to the disaster. Beyond the help offered by the community, there’s this.

“We realize more than ever that it’s not the building that makes Saugatuck Nursery School what it is,” says De Huff. “It’s the families and staff.”

These are challenging days for us. But together, we’re all making the pre-school work.”

And work very, very well.

In The Spirit Of Christmas…

…the Saugatuck Congregational Church celebrates at 3 separate sites this winter. A fire 4 days before Thanksgiving drove the congregants out of their building. But several institutions immediately offered space.

The annual feast — serving hundreds — is set for Christ & Holy Trinity Church. It begins at 11:30 a.m. Christmas Day (not the usual 1 p.m. start).

The Easton Congregational Church, doing its Saugatuck Church imitation. It's just a few minutes from Westport -- and very hospitable.

The Christmas Eve candlelight service of lessons and carols will be held at the Easton Congregational Church (9 p.m.). That’s fitting: Built in 1835, it was modeled on the Saugatuck Church.

Most intriguingly, the Christmas Eve family worship service and pageant will be held at Temple Israel, beginning at 5 p.m. There will be the traditional baby gift giving, when unwrapped presents are placed in a “manger.” The gifts — including disposable diapers — are taken to the Norwalk Domestic Violence Crisis Center, for newborns who have no manger.

The birth of Jesus will be celebrated on Christmas Day at 10 a.m. — also at Temple Israel. The heart of the service is a spirited carol sing.

The Saugatuck Church welcomes the New Year on January 1 at Temple Israel, also at 10 a.m. Holy Communion will be celebrated. There is no sermon; instead there’s a “true and moving story of a child’s impression of one family’s life at Christmas.”

The spirit of Christmas is indeed everywhere.

Saluting Dolores Bacharach

“In this season of giving,” an alert “06880″ reader wrote, “you should highlight Dolores Bacharach.”

Dolores — known to her many friends and fans as “Do” — is indeed a perfect exemplar of a Westporter who gives. And gives. And gives some more.

And has done so ever since she moved to Westport, half a century ago.

So, in terms of a column on Do: done.

Now in her mid-80s, Do has not stopped serving the town.

“Her energy is awesome,” the reader who suggested a profile — Nick Thiemann — wrote. “It would be impressive in a 20-year-old. And she has a grand sense of humor.”

Dolores Bacharach (Photo/Dave Matlow for WestportNow.com)

As a member of the original Commission for the Elderly — now called the Commission for Senior Services — Do started the “We Do Walkways” program, through which middle and high school students provide raking and shoveling services to older citizens.

“She has a generous spirit,” praises human services director Barbara Butler. “There’s always a smile on her face. And she’s a lot of fun to work with.”

Rev. Tom Thorne has been Assumption Church‘s pastor for nearly 13 years. That’s a quarter of the time Do has spent in Westport, but he knows she and her family have been “genuine pillars of the parish.”

Through the Social Concerns Ministry she ministers to people in need — those who are poor, hungry, without transportation or clothing, cold, lonely or homebound. Through events, opportunities and awareness, she helps the entire parish participate in supporting, helping and loving the marginalized.

A daily communicant, she is present at the 7:30 a.m. mass every Monday through Saturday. She also serves as a eucharistic minister.

Do is the parish representative on the Westport-Weston Interfaith Council. “She has left a loving mark within the parish, and the Westport and wider community,” Father Tom says.

“She is truly a woman of faith who is open, inclusive, in possession of great dignity and authenticity.”

Nearing her 9th decade, Do cooks each week at the Gillespie Center. Homelessness has long been a concern of Do and her family. The Bacharach Community — 3 houses on Wassell Lane run by Homes With Hope that serve as emergency housing for women and children — is named for them.

I have known the Bacharachs ever since my own high school days. I served with her late husband Jim on the original Youth-Adult Council. I was there when the Bacharachs were driving forces behind the Intercommunity Camp — an innovative summer program drawing children from Westport, Weston, Norwalk and Bridgeport together for summers of fun and self-discovery.

I was privileged to join Jim, Do and their 5 children — all of whom carry on their parents’ legacy of service to others — in annual Christmas carol sings at their Stony Brook Road home. Each one was filled with the joy of being together with others who value community and action — along with plenty of laughter and love.

“Do makes Assumption and Westport holy,” Father Tom says of Dolores Bacharach.

And, I’d add, she is an unsung hero who makes Westport “Westport.”

Away In A (Burr Farms) Manger

This Wednesday (December 14, 8 p.m.), Temple Israel hosts a forum on the challenges of “the holiday season” for Jewish and interfaith families.

Oy.

The event comes a few days after Staples’ Candlelight Concert. A tradition for over 70 years, the event opens — as it always has — with the haunting hymn “Sing We Noel.” It ends — as always — with the “Hallelujah Chorus,” as ebullient and glorious a paean to “the Lord God omnipotent” as you’ll find anywhere.

But traditions change. The Candlelight Concert now includes Hanukkah and African songs, plus other evocative music.  (There’s also a production number filled with schmaltzy Christmas tunes, Santa Claus, reindeer, and the occasional dreidel.)

Georg Friedrich Handel wrote the "Hallelujah Chorus" -- not Hanukkah music.

In fact, for over 2 decades Staples’ choral director was Alice Lipson — whose husband and daughter are rabbis and cantors. Alice conducted the “Hallelujah Chorus” as lustily as anyone — and made certain that, while her students knew they were singing pieces rich in history and beauty, they could opt out if they so chose. None did.

Back at Burr Farms Elementary School in the 1960s, it was all-Christmas, all the time. In music class, we sang only Christmas songs. There was “Frosty the Snowman” and “Rudolph,” sure — but also heavy-duty carols: “Adeste Fidelis.” “Away in a Manger.” “The First Noel.”

I had no idea what I was singing, but no matter. It was beautiful music.

And I got more than a music education at Burr Farms. Our classrooms had Advent calendars. Every kid — Catholics, Christians, Jews and Muslims (just kidding) — thrust hands in the air, begging to be the one to open the window that day.

A big part of my elementary school education.

The big event was a nighttime Christmas concert. Parents, students, younger and older siblings stood outside, in the cold air — around an evergreen tree, decorated with ornaments and topped with an angel — singing carols. I even remember someone pointing out where the Star of Bethlehem might have been, though perhaps that is pushing it.

When the Christmas carols were over we all went into the “cafetorium” for hot chocolate, the only secular part of the night.

I didn’t think twice about any of that. For one thing, I was in 1st or 2nd grade.

For another, we started every day with the Lord’s Prayer.

Over the loudspeaker.

That ended in 1963, when the Supreme Court outlawed prayer in school. I have no idea if there was any discussion about that in Westport — if, in fact, parents knew it was going on, or thought anything about it.

The Westport of my childhood was a multi-religious place. Temple Israel was built in 1959, with a membership of 250 families. We were certainly not Darien, and even at a young age I recall my parents being proud of our town’s pluralism.

But you’d be hard pressed to find any evidence at Burr Farms Elementary School, back in the early ’60s.

Not that anyone noticed. We were too busy exchanging Christmas cards and presents in class.

(For more information on Wednesday’s Temple Israel “celebrating the holidays” event, email amendelson@tiwestport.org, or call 203-227-1293. “Drinks and a nosh” will be provided.)

Kenan Trebincevic’s “Lives”

Today’s “Lives” column — on the back page of the New York Times Magazine — is, as usual, compelling.

In “The Reckoning,” Kenan Trebincevic recounts the journey he, his brother and father — Bosnian refugees, now prospering in America — took back to their homeland.

The sons thought they were doing it for their father. But, as often happens in tales like these, they learned life lessons about themselves.

The bio note describes Kenan as “a physical therapist in New York.”

It does not say he spent his formative years in Westport.

Kenan Trebincevic today.

The Trebincevics — Kenan, his older brother and parents — came here thanks to a little-known but life-changing project administered by Westport’s Interfaith Council.

Working together — as they often do — local clergy took care of the Bosnian family’s many needs, from the moment they arrived here.

Their 1st home was with the Methodist minister. Then — after hearing about the program through her church — Judy Landa took them in.

Ellie Lowenstein heard of the family too. She gave the mother driving lessons.

And so it went.The Interfaith Council helped with medical and dental needs, and everything else a refugee family needs as it makes a new life.

Kenan went to Bedford Middle School. His older brother and father went to work — at jobs arranged through the Interfaith Council’s contacts.

The family moved a few times — to Norwalk, Stratford, then back to Westport at Sasco Creek Village.

Kenan earned his masters degree in physical therapy from the University of Hartford in 2004. Today he’s got a thriving practice, specializing in adult and adolescent sports rehabilitation (complete with website).

None of that is part of his Times story of his trip back to Bosnia — a place he escaped from, but felt compelled to go back to.

Then again, the Westport Interfaith Council plays an integral role in Kenan’s life story. Without it, he might not be where he is today.

Or anywhere at all.

Give To The Good Guys

In the blizzard of upcoming holiday events, there’s one that might be overlooked.

But it shouldn’t be.

Tomorrow (Thursday, December 1, from 5-7:30 p.m. at Christ & Holy Trinity Church), the Westport Downtown Merchants Association is sponsoring a “Season of Giving” event.

Sure, there’s the usual ho-ho-ho attractions — refreshments, an ice sculpture, a visit from Santa, music by the Orphenians and Chris Coogan — but the real attraction is a chance to do some good for some great community non-profits.

Many hands will help Westport charities tomorrow.

A variety of organizations — Homes With Hope, the Y, Save the Children and a dozen others — will have booths.  They’ll hand out information — but they’ll also have “wish lists.”  If something strikes your fancy, just donate to the cause.

The Westport Arts Center, for example, has “wishes” ranging from $10 (help install an art exhibit) to $250 (send a kid to summer art camp).

It’s just like real life Christmas (and Hanukkah).  Sometimes you get everything you ask for; sometimes you don’t.  Whatever happens, it never hurts to ask.

The “Season of Giving” is a great idea — and everyone’s a winner.  Our non-profits get a chance to have their wishes filled.  You get a chance do some good for a group you love — or one you never knew about — while having a good time.  And your kids get a chance to learn “the true meaning of Christmas” (or Hanukkah).

PS:  Really want to make a day of it tomorrow?  Head to Town Hall at 4:30 p.m. for the lighting of the (very ecumenical) “town tree.”  Then wander down the hill to the Westport Historical Society, for hot cocoa.  And if you stop in to a store or two on your way to the “Season of Giving” at Christ & Holy Church, I’m sure the downtown merchants won’t mind. 

Saugatuck Church Service At Temple Israel

First, Christ & Holy Trinity Church offered its Great Hall for the Saugatuck Congregational Church’s annual Thanksgiving feast.

Now, following last Sunday’s fire at the church, Temple Israel has opened its doors.  Saugatuck Church’s regular worship service will take place this Sunday, at 10 a.m.

Temple Israel is also providing rooms for church school and child care.

A perfect example of “loving thy neighbor.”

Talking — And Donating — Turkey

Sunday’s fire destroyed more than a significant portion of Saugatuck Congregational Church.

Also lost:  over 30 donated turkeys, part of the annual Thanksgiving Feast (now set for 1 p.m. Thursday at Christ & Holy Trinity Church).

It took less than 24 hours for the turkeys to be replaced.  Scott Thommen of Britt-Air, along with Stew Leonard’s, quickly made sure the church had one less thing to worry about.

For Stew’s, it was the 2nd turkey donation to Saugatuck Congregation.  “The world’s largest dairy story” had already donated a bunch o’ birds — the ones caught in the fire.

Oscar's Andy Porier; Scott Thommen, owner of Westport's Britt-Air; Randy Christophersen, chair of the Saugatuck Feast Committee, with newly donated turkeys.

Saugatuck’s Flashlight Service

Acrid smoke hung in the air.  Yellow police tape fluttered in the breeze.  Whirring generators made the prayers and hymns hard to hear.

But — stirred by words like “we shall never be shaken,” and comforted by the closeness of friends and fellow congregants — the Saugatuck Congregational Church held a flashlight service tonight on its front lawn.

A few yards away, the church — fire-damaged, but still intact — stood proud and tall.

Thursday is, officially, Thanksgiving.

But for dozens of Westporters on the church lawn, tonight was the true celebration.

Doug Johnston, chair of the diaconate, welcomes Westporters to the service.